Girl to Girl Talk: Struggles with Cutting and Depression
Written by Christi Given | February 25, 2013
Every week I go through the “Girl Talk” section of Project Inspired and look for those seeking advice and council. I want to help answer some questions you may have about living out your Christian life and walk of faith! We want PI to be a safe place where you can ask questions.
This week’s question comes from a PI girl who has struggled with depression and cutting. I want to talk about this, open it up for more questions and advice, and tell you about God’s love for you and YOUR personal value, beauty and self-worth.
“I have struggled with cutting and depression for almost 5 years now and I am doing ok lately. I still struggle, but God is good! I also was sexually abused as a child and that was a big part of the cutting and depression. I am ok though. I just want to put myself out there and let others know that if they are going through the same things, I am here for you …”
First of all, I want to commend the writer, who had the courage to stand up and share about her struggles. Not only that, but this girl wants to help and reach out to others, which is so selfless, thoughtful and caring.
There are three main struggles I see in this post that other readers may relate to:
1. Sexual abuse. Sexual abuse can cause so much pain and confusion. If you are being or have been sexually abused, you need to:
- Reach out for help. Tell a family member or someone close to you, even if you’re afraid of the outcome. You need to report the situation immediately.
- Pray. Ask God to be your shelter and for wisdom in how to deal with the situation.
For more information on sexual abuse and help, visit loveisrespect.org.
2. Depression. Depression is something that is very deep and hard to figure out, and comes not from God but from Satan! It says in the book of John,
‘The thief does not come except to steal, kill and to destroy.’ Jesus says, ‘I have come that they may have LIFE, and that they may have it more abundantly’ (John 10:10).
If you need prayer, reach out to a youth pastor, friend or parent. If you’re having suicidal thoughts or you have self-harming behavior, reach out for help immediately.
- The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-TALK (8255)
- My Broken Palace is an online resource for girls who are dealing with the crushing weight of loneliness, depression, anxiety, stress, abuse, addictions or thoughts of suicide alone. Someone will be there to help you through email, chat and a variety of other ways.
Remember, beautiful: YOU are a cherished and adored girl with FULL potential! God didn’t make you on accident but for His glory to shine for the world to see. Don’t let the lies of the enemy deceive you because you are a gem, a pearl and a jewel! You are precious in God’s sight.
Beloved, Nicole and I love you so much! We pray for you regularly and want the best for you. God loves you more than the grains of sand on the seashore. He knit you in your mother’s womb! He intricately designed you for His power, honor, purpose and for His name to be known.
Indeed, the very hairs of your head are all numbered. Don’t be afraid; you are worth more than many sparrows (Luke 12:7).
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Before I formed you in the womb I knew you (Jeremiah 1:5).
3.) Cutting. Cutting is a self-infliction of injury. Cutting is very dangerous and harmful; if you cut or otherwise harm your body, it’s important that you get help immediately. Take a look at this great article on cutting and how to quit.
Ask Jesus to help you–God the Father knows everything, He knows every hair on your head, He knows EVERY thought. Just talk to Him and cast your cares upon Him!
…Casting all your anxiety on him because He cares for you (1 Peter 5:7).
You don’t need to carry out your fears, worries and doubts onto your body. Jesus already did that on the cross. You don’t need to hurt your beautiful skin and precious body! The devil is a liar and I ask you to please, as a believer, rebuke him. It is a LIE and it will not help you, but only HARM you.
Again, please reach out to someone if you are harming or thinking or harming yourself. There is help out there. We are here for you, we want to pray for you, connect with you and let you know that YOU are not alone! God is always with you and there are many girls who have been hurt and feel your pain.
PI readers, if you know of someone who is in danger, please tell an adult and PRAY. Ask God to guide you, and be a supportive listener for your friend. Comment below for prayer, and additional questions.
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