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Girl to Girl Talk: “I Wish Middle School Wasn’t So Tough!”
Written by Christi Given | September 19, 2016
Every week I go through the “Girl Talk” section of Project Inspired and look for those seeking advice and counsel. I want to help answer some questions you may have about living out your Christian walk of faith and any miscellaneous topics! We want PI to be a safe place where you can ask questions and become bold in your faith. We love you, PI readers!
This week a PI Girl wrote on the Girl Talk forum about having a tough time in middle school with friends and feeling like she is pushing people away. She feels very lonely and doesn’t WANT to push others away and needs advice. The PI reader also mentioned that she feels like she is on an emotional roller coaster.
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First off, as a middle-schooler, your body is changing from being a pre-teenager to a teen and young adult. You’re experiencing growing pains and hormone changes, and the effects of female emotions are very normal. In middle school, it can be a learning experience of discovering the real you and finding out your interests, your academic strengths and the athletic or extracurricular activities you would eventually like to pursue. There are a lot of unknowns and much growing up to do in such a short amount of time. Not to mention right when you get to know everyone and right when you make close friends, you have to move forward again and go to a new school as a beginner, as a freshman in high school. Realize the truth: YOU ARE NOT ALONE!
Next, recognize that for one, God loves you (John 3:16-17) and that He has huge plans for your life (Jeremiah 1, Jeremiah 29:11)! Realize that as you grow and change, some friends will come and go, but true friends remain. Be open to meeting new people in class and in outside extracurricular activities or in sports. Don’t be fearful of the future because the truth is a lot will change before you get to college, so yes, it is a real roller coaster. Life is a wild ride and journey, but you need to embrace each wave as it comes and remember Christ is always with you. Also, there are others around you experiencing the exact same thing!
Keep your eyes out for those who seem alone or need a friend. The greatest way to cure loneliness is to be a friend to someone, especially in need. There will be times when you’re down and someone will pick you up, and vice versa. Embrace life’s emotions, experiences, trials, joys and learning experiences. Just like the book of Ecclesiastes 3 (verses 1-8) says:
There’s an opportune time to do things, a right time for everything on the earth: A right time for birth and another for death; A right time to plant and another to reap; A right time to kill and another to heal; A right time to destroy and another to construct; A right time to cry and another to laugh; A right time to lament and another to cheer; A right time to make love and another to abstain; A right time to embrace and another to part; A right time to search and another to count your losses; A right time to hold on and another to let go; A right time to rip out and another to mend; A right time to shut up and another to speak up; A right time to love and another to hate; A right time to wage war and another to make peace…
You will get over the fears, the anxieties, the awkwardness, the acne and braces phases (we all have them), and the doubts that creep in. You will overcome and will blossom into a beautiful young woman of faith! You are already “…fearfully and wonderfully made…” by the King of Kings and Lord of Lords (Psalm 139:14). Whom shall you fear? (Psalm 27:1).
The Lord is my light and my salvation—
whom shall I fear?
The Lord is the stronghold of my life—
of whom shall I be afraid? When the wicked advance against me
to devour me, it is my enemies and my foes who will stumble and fall. Though an army besiege me, my heart will not fear;
though war break out against me,
even then I will be confident. (Psalm 27:1-3)
10 Inspiring Truths About Middle School, Life and Faith
1. You are not alone!
2. You are loved by the Creator of the Universe.
3. God has BIG plans for your life!
4. New friends will come, some will stay and some old friends will go (true friends remain).
5. Be kind to others, lend a hand to someone in need and it will heal your loneliness.
6. Accept that life is a roller coaster indeed.
7. Walk by faith and walk on water.
8. Remember Jesus is always with you.
9. Know that trials come and go.
10. Things always get better. Chin up!
And I will make them and the places round about my hill a blessing; and I will cause the shower to come down in his season; there shall be showers of blessing. (Ezekiel 34:26)
PI Girls, always remember that this season shall pass and things will get better! We go from glory to glory and up in the Kingdom of God! It doesn’t mean we won’t face trials, struggles or persecution—in fact, as a Christian we are promised this—but we WILL have peace if we focus on Jesus during the crazy times in life.
You will keep in perfect peace those whose minds are steadfast, because they trust in you. (Isaiah 26:3)
Comment below with any prayer requests you may have, or message me on social media for further Girl Talk questions, prayer requests and more at facebook.com/ChristiGiven.