Beauty & Fashion
Girl to Girl Talk: “I’m Different and I Dress More Modestly Than My Friends Do”
Written by Christi Given | August 11, 2014
Every week, I go through the “Girl Talk” section of Project Inspired and look for those seeking advice and counsel. I want to help answer some questions you may have about living out your Christian life and walk of faith! We want PI to be a safe place where you can ask questions.
Here is this week’s question from a PI Girl:
“I’m the overweight friend in my friend group, and I wear a one-piece swimsuit. My friends wear bikinis. It makes me feel uncomfortable and upset because I stick out like a sore thumb and I’ve had people point and laugh at me before. What do I do?”
I’m so sorry people have mistreated you because of what you wear or don’t wear. First, I want to mention that although your friends wear different types of suits, nowadays the one-piece modest suits are super trendy and in style. Maybe you can gently mention to your girlfriends that there are some great suits on modcloth.com. Target and other stores have different cute styles you might like and can maybe share with some girlfriends. Maybe you can go swimsuit shopping with your close friend and possibly suggest semi-matching suits so you don’t feel left out.
“Your opposition is an opportunity.”—Bishop T. D. Jakes
If your friends are close enough to you and truly love you, then they most likely will be willing to wear a different style once in a while. If not, then just be yourself! Stay true to who YOU are, and what makes YOU happy and feel comfortable, swimsuit-wise. Nicole is a huge fan of one-piece bathing suits because they are more modest and she likes how they look as well. You are not the only person who enjoys cute one-pieces!
Remember, you don’t need to try and impress anyone, even though it feels like as humans we do that. Sometimes it’s okay to just be yourself and relax and have your own style. Humans are so prone to following people instead of being themselves. Be confident in who God made you to be. Beautiful one, God loves you so much and made you perfectly just as you are!
For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind. (2 Timothy 1:7)
I pray for everyone out there who feels insecure or are unsure of who they are. Your clothes don’t define you and people’s opinions don’t define you, although comments and words do hurt. I pray God will guard your heart against people who have a mean spirit. Also, remember to put on the full armor of God and to walk in confidence in who God made YOU to be! Read Psalm 139 and Ephesians 6—these are two passages of scripture that are not only reminders of who we are in Christ, but also warn us to read the Word, pray and to be on guard for the enemies’ schemes.
Though an host should encamp against me, my heart shall not fear: though war should rise against me, in this [will] I [be] confident. (Psalm 27:3)
The enemy of our souls wants to steal, kill and destroy (John 10). That can be in relationships or in your security and confidence. Remember, we are on God’s side and have the victory. This doesn’t mean life is easy—but “no” means we have the truth to renew our minds and to help us focus on the positive in life. Amen?
Here is one of my favorite Bible verses, Psalm 139, which speaks on how God specifically created us all uniquely beautiful! You may have heard it, but read it again and truly embrace the words. Also, you can read from verse 1; I am quoting here starting in verse 13:
For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb.
I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.
My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place, when I was woven together in the depths of the earth.
Your eyes saw my unformed body; all the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be.
How precious to me are your thoughts, God! How vast is the sum of them!
Were I to count them, they would outnumber the grains of sand— when I awake, I am still with you.
If only you, God, would slay the wicked! Away from me, you who are bloodthirsty!
They speak of you with evil intent; your adversaries misuse your name.
Do I not hate those who hate you, Lord, and abhor those who are in rebellion against you? I have nothing but hatred for them; I count them my enemies. Search me, God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts.
See if there is any offensive way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting.
We all have insecurities. Just remember to pray, smile, hold your head up high and walk in your godly anointing knowing you are a ROYAL PRINCESS that Jesus loves!!! No demon in hell can separate you from God’s love! (Romans 8:38)You are perfect how God made you! God doesn’t make mistakes. We all feel different or sometimes lonely or afraid, but it is how we respond that changes the situation. Will we be fearful and let the enemy succeed? No—we need to take a stand and be who God has called us to be! Maybe even wearing a one-piece can be an opportunity to witness to your friends about modesty! That is a great thought! Also, read the article about whether Christians should wear bikinis.
PI Girls, can you think of any good scriptures pertaining to the subject of being confident in who God created you to be?
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