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Girl to Girl Talk: “I’m Homeschooled and Embarrassed I Don’t Go to Public School””
Written by Christi Given | September 28, 2015
Every week, I go through the “Girl Talk” section of Project Inspired and look for those seeking advice and counsel. I want to help answer some questions you may have about living out your Christian life and walk of faith! We want PI to be a safe place where you can ask questions.
Recently, a PI Girl discussed how she is kind of embarrassed when people ask which school she is from and gets self-conscious. She also mentioned that she feels separated from the world and wanted advice.
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Here is the question:
“I’m homeschooled. I have been for seven years. (I’m in seventh grade.) When people ask ‘What school are you from?,’ I get really self-conscious. Though I don’t show it, I just say I’m homeschooled and that’s that, but then there are the people who ask, ‘Do you like being homeschooled?’ I’m like, ‘Dude, if I didn’t, I would be going to public school.’ I feel like I’m separated from the world. At church in our youth group, people are talking about school, and I’m sitting next to them just like ‘De de de. Here I am.’ Everyone assumes I’m an introvert because I’m homeschooled. I’m actually very outgoing. Any advice/help?”
Well, thank you, Emma, for sharing your question with the PI world. I am sure it isn’t easy being in seventh grade, and being asked these questions over and over. Sometimes it’s probably hard to know how to reply and could feel awkward to have to explain that you stay at home and learn through homeschooling programs.
The Bright Side of Homeschooling
First off, if you can just try to look at the positives of homeschooling, you can have a better outlook on the situation. Think of it this way—the times you feel lonely or that you cannot relate in youth group can be how some kids feel EVERY DAY at school! You are only getting a taste of it on occasion, and it isn’t that people are meaning to leave you out; they are just talking about their normal routines.
Voice Your Feelings
Next, I would say pray about homeschool and discuss this with your parents or guardians and make sure that you express how you really feel. Don’t bottle it up inside, and have a light heart about it. I wouldn’t take it personally at youth group and maybe even voice it to your friends how you are feeling.
If you still feel horrible or really detached from society, ask your parents if you can go into public school.
Count Your Blessings and Pray
Seriously, homeschooling can’t be too bad, especially considering you can sleep in; your mom or dad is your teacher; you can choose kind of, in essence, the books and programs you want to study; and more! Homeschooling can probably get lonely at times, but you can get involved in sports or extracurricular activities elsewhere. Also, pray when you feel like you are comparing yourself. God has the BEST plan for you!
Nothing Is Perfect
Remember, nothing is perfect in life and we have to CHOOSE joy in all circumstances. We don’t always “feel” happy or joyful, but it is the fruit of the spirit and is something that we can rely on regardless of circumstances. We need to remember that everyone has something going on that can be a trial or struggle. Let us try not to compete and compare, and to be silent. Let us choose to walk in the spirit and to thank God for all of His wonderful blessings! (Galatians 5:16)
Read God’s Word for the Truth
When you feel really down or out of place in this world, well, it’s because none of us are meant for this earth forever. We need to fix our eyes on Jesus and eternity and look up. Remember, we are here on purpose and for a purpose, and God has something special for you to do on this earth! (Jeremiah 29:11) The truth is God loves you, is for you and wants the best for you! Even Jesus was disregarded, mocked and even killed, so that shows you that it was temporal for Jesus to be here, but He had a plan and purpose to redeem humanity. Let us focus on the prize and goal, and remember some of the greatest heroes of the faith also felt like aliens and strangers on planet earth. You are NOT alone! Thank God for the PI community, and remember you always have sisters in Christ here—we love you girls! God LOVES you even more! : )
I pray and hope this helps you, @EmmaG7, and hope that this also helped you, PI Girls! God bless you all!
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