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Girl to Girl Talk: “I’m Homeschooled and Embarrassed I Don’t Go to Public School””

Every week, I go through the “Girl Talk” section of Project Inspired and look for those seeking advice and counsel. I want to help answer some questions you may have about living out your Christian life and walk of faith! We want PI to be a safe place where you can ask questions.

Recently, a PI Girl discussed how she is kind of embarrassed when people ask which school she is from and gets self-conscious. She also mentioned that she feels separated from the world and wanted advice.

Also, PI Girls, if you would like to read the entire post or want to join our Girl Talk forum, click here.

Here is the question:

“I’m homeschooled. I have been for seven years. (I’m in seventh grade.) When people ask ‘What school are you from?,’ I get really self-conscious. Though I don’t show it, I just say I’m homeschooled and that’s that, but then there are the people who ask, ‘Do you like being homeschooled?’ I’m like, ‘Dude, if I didn’t, I would be going to public school.’ I feel like I’m separated from the world. At church in our youth group, people are talking about school, and I’m sitting next to them just like ‘De de de. Here I am.’ Everyone assumes I’m an introvert because I’m homeschooled. I’m actually very outgoing. Any advice/help?”

Well, thank you, Emma, for sharing your question with the PI world. I am sure it isn’t easy being in seventh grade, and being asked these questions over and over. Sometimes it’s probably hard to know how to reply and could feel awkward to have to explain that you stay at home and learn through homeschooling programs.

 

The Bright Side of Homeschooling

First off, if you can just try to look at the positives of homeschooling, you can have a better outlook on the situation. Think of it this way—the times you feel lonely or that you cannot relate in youth group can be how some kids feel EVERY DAY at school! You are only getting a taste of it on occasion, and it isn’t that people are meaning to leave you out; they are just talking about their normal routines.

 

Voice Your Feelings

Next, I would say pray about homeschool and discuss this with your parents or guardians and make sure that you express how you really feel. Don’t bottle it up inside, and have a light heart about it. I wouldn’t take it personally at youth group and maybe even voice it to your friends how you are feeling.

If you still feel horrible or really detached from society, ask your parents if you can go into public school.

 

Count Your Blessings and Pray

Seriously, homeschooling can’t be too bad, especially considering you can sleep in; your mom or dad is your teacher; you can choose kind of, in essence, the books and programs you want to study; and more! Homeschooling can probably get lonely at times, but you can get involved in sports or extracurricular activities elsewhere. Also, pray when you feel like you are comparing yourself. God has the BEST plan for you!

 

Nothing Is Perfect

Remember, nothing is perfect in life and we have to CHOOSE joy in all circumstances. We don’t always “feel” happy or joyful, but it is the fruit of the spirit and is something that we can rely on regardless of circumstances. We need to remember that everyone has something going on that can be a trial or struggle. Let us try not to compete and compare, and to be silent. Let us choose to walk in the spirit and to thank God for all of His wonderful blessings! (Galatians 5:16)

 

Read God’s Word for the Truth

When you feel really down or out of place in this world, well, it’s because none of us are meant for this earth forever. We need to fix our eyes on Jesus and eternity and look up. Remember, we are here on purpose and for a purpose, and God has something special for you to do on this earth! (Jeremiah 29:11) The truth is God loves you, is for you and wants the best for you! Even Jesus was disregarded, mocked and even killed, so that shows you that it was temporal for Jesus to be here, but He had a plan and purpose to redeem humanity. Let us focus on the prize and goal, and remember some of the greatest heroes of the faith also felt like aliens and strangers on planet earth. You are NOT alone! Thank God for the PI community, and remember you always have sisters in Christ here—we love you girls! God LOVES you even more! : )

 

I pray and hope this helps you, @EmmaG7, and hope that this also helped you, PI Girls! God bless you all!

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9 Comments

  1. Project Inspired

    Posted by tatiana.adams1000 on May 26, 2017 at 04:33

    I have been homeschooeld since the beginning of this year, because i had a tough time going to a public school.
    I have been homeschooeld for around 5 months and i feel very lonley.
    I see other girls and boys my age with lots of friends and i feel left out, and sad 🙁
    I haven’t done anything againsed anyone but when i see people i knew from school, they avoid me or look at me funny.
    i am a regular church goer, and i love it, it makes me feel accepted and loved, by the people im surrounded by.
    i have a few friends at church but i hardley see them.
    i just wanted some advice because, i feel slightly trapped, and sad.
    i’m praying and hope something great will take a turn. all i pray for is a friend i can be and talk to

  2. Lizzy1219

    Posted by Lizzy1219 on October 4, 2015 at 19:46

    I have been homeschooled since I was in fifth grade (i’m a freshman now) and I used to think the same way. People would ask me “how do you make friends?” or “do you like it?”. So instead of giving the whole ” Yeah its really fun!!” speech, I told them that its like being in college, at home (at least for me it was). I had to make my own decisions and choices for my school work. For example, my friend Stacy called me up yesterday to go have Starbucks and go shopping for a couple of hours. I knew I had a big test coming up that I needed to study for, so I had to turn her down even though I knew there was a sale at my favorite store. Now don’t get me wrong I do love homeschooling! It gives you a chance to learn more about God, yourself, and life. So don’t get discouraged, keep your chin held high and keep believing that all of the things you experience through your years of being homeschooled, God has a VERY special plan for you. Read Corinthians 2:8. It helped me a lot with what other people were whispering in my ear.

  3. EmmaG7

    Posted by EmmaG7 on October 3, 2015 at 11:33

    Thank you so much! This really helped! Serveral people in the comments were also giving me advice, and I can’t thank you enough for that. I realize now all the benefits of homeschooling. I even met my best friend in the entire world because I am homeschooled. I have a friend at church and once he said to me “You’re not one of the the weird homeschoolers.” I didn’t know what to say. I just smiled. Thinking “What’s that supposed to mean?” Anyway I am defiantly NOT lonely seeing as I have three sisters who are also homeschooled. I’m the oldest so I really think I have it the hardest. Like I said thank you all for your advice. As for other homeschoolers in my youth group. I know of two. One of which doesn’t talk to me anymore. The other is several years older than me. So, thank you all. I will continue to thank God for letting me be homeschool. I realize I’m so blessed now.

  4. Project Inspired

    Posted by KimRebi on September 29, 2015 at 17:28

    This post actually helped me too because I started being homeschooled last year and it’s hard cause people always keep asking about school and stuff, and I feel really uncomfortable having to answer and also I feel kinda lonely, but thankfully I have good friends at church and I have online friends as well so I won’t feel as lonely <3

    • _amyknepp_

      Posted by _amyknepp_ on January 30, 2017 at 11:47

      Me to this is my first year and I find going to youth events really helps.

  5. KitKat5693

    Posted by KitKat5693 on September 29, 2015 at 07:12

    Hi Emma,

    Idk if you’re reading this or not, but I’ve been homeschooled since i was in second grade (thats when i started). I’m a junior in high school now, and I have felt what you have felt. I realized that being homeschooled is so awesome. We don’t have to get up super early and we have awesome field trips! I got involved in Square dancing and some people from there went to my youth group so I became friends with them and now we are super close! Try doing some social activities and then make friends with the people there and then invite them to your youth group! It is a little tough because people don’t understand what homeschooling is. People have thought that I don’t know what something is because I was homeschooled. For example, I was in Fine Arts and doing a human video practice, and they wanted to involve a keg stand in the video (a keg stand is the stand people use to get beer out of at parties). They all told the leader that I didn’t know what it was because I was homeschooled. I know how annoying that can get. It’s not my fault that I have never seen a keg stand before. Anyways, just find other homeschoolers in your youth group, there might be more than you think!! Always remember to find the benefits of homeschooling and remember that there are tons of homeschoolers going through the same things you’re going through. I hope I helped!! <3

  6. Smylinggirl

    Posted by Smylinggirl on September 28, 2015 at 17:19

    First off, I must say that, sometimes I too feel the loneliness at youth group. I’ve been homeschooled my whole life (I’m a senior) too and you can feel like an outsider sometimes. I would strongly encourage you to look for a co-op to join. You get to be among other homeschoolers who get the whole experience and don’t look at you like you’re weird or socially awkward or something. My co-op has been my social life-saver. I can relate to some awkwardness when people ask about your school (or in my case, college plans), but mainly, if you are secure in your plans and yourself, it doesn’t matter if they think it’s weird. I know that might not comfort you now, but it is so true. You do not have to feel embarrassed about homeschooling because it does not define you. I hope some of what I’m trying to say is helpful and you understand a little of what I’m trying to say.

  7. princesshunter

    Posted by princesshunter on September 28, 2015 at 12:56

    I sometimes feel left out because I’m homeschooled. But I was already left out in public school. Now I have more time for God and also piano and dance. I also get to travel more. I’m really blessed that God answered my prayers and found a great Christian curriculum.