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Girl to Girl Talk: “Is Popularity a Sin?”

Every week I go through the “Girl Talk” section of Project Inspired and look for those seeking advice and council. I want to help answer some questions you may have about living out your Christian walk of faith and any miscellaneous topics! We want PI to be a safe place where you can ask questions and become bold in your faith. We love you, PI readers!

One question this week that sparked my interest was from a PI Girl who asked, “Is popularity a sin?”

I saw a girl on Twitter say that she chooses Jesus over popularity, sex, cussing, rebellion and immodesty and that no sin is worth it. Of course I’m very happy she said that but it makes it sound like being popular is a sin. In my opinion, it is not a sin because you can’t really choose to be popular, and there are some popular people that are very nice and good role models. Also, everybody wants popularity, and I admit, I’d love it if I were popular but I’m cool with not being popular. I’m happy with a few good friends, a loving family, and God always being by my side. And I do believe that there are some popular people that are saved too. So what are your thoughts and opinions? Is it bad to be popular?”

Read the full post here.

Great question! Of course, we all want to fit in and be loved. There is nothing wrong with wanting friends and acceptance, but we do need to cautious of trying to win the approval of man or falling into peer pressure. If you compromise your character to become popular, then you could possibly fall into sin.

Am I now trying to win the approval of men, or of God? Or am I trying to please men? If I were still trying to please men, I would not be a servant of Christ (Galatians 1:10).

Blessed are you, when men shall revile you, and persecute you, and shall say all manner of evil against you falsely, for my sake (Matthew 5:11).

If you belonged to the world, it would love you as its own. As it is, you do not belong to the world, but I have chosen you out of the world. That is why the world hates you (John 15:19).

Remember, our goal isn’t to please man, but God. We want to fit in, but sometimes as Christians, we just don’t. Jesus was mocked, ridiculed and persecuted because He was unique and different from society. That doesn’t mean you can’t have friends or want to fit in–just remember what Jesus Christ our Lord endured. Always ask yourself, “Is what I am doing honoring God?

God talks about a good reputation being better than fine perfume. There is also a balance of wisdom that we don’t live for the praise of man.

A good name is better than fine perfume (Ecclesiastes 7:1).

We want to have wisdom above all else, so if you are hesitant in how you are dealing with your friendships and popularity, remember to ask God for His help. God is very clear about us not loving the world in the sense of being attached to earthly things and putting our treasures where moths and rust destroy (Matthew 6:19). God even tells us if we love the world, the love of the Father isn’t in us (1 John 2: 15 ). Why? Because when you are truly a Son or Daughter of God, you want to obey HIM and want the things of His Kingdom. The things of the earth grow slowly unappealing and you realize the eternal is more important.

I can tell you that the older I get, the less I care about what people think of me. I mainly care what God thinks. He is the One I want to serve and honor. Granted, we all want to fit in and be loved and admired, but remember to shine for Jesus and you will be a standout. Even if some people like it or don’t, remember that God is proud of you when you honor Him,and when you are walking and living for His glory.

I really believe it is a double blessing if you are living a Godly life and people like you. Truthfully, God’s opinion is the only one that really matters, but we do need to love, reach and care for others, so use wisdom and balance in all things. May God bless you!

If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him (James 1:5).

What do you think, girls: Is popularity a sin? 

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29 Comments

  1. Project Inspired

    Posted by Le4NaLuvsD1sNey on June 19, 2017 at 09:23

    It’s a really good article! I try not to strive for popularity but it’s hard for me. Also my cousin is quite well-liked in college, which makes it harder for some reason because her Facebook pictures always make her seem more fun than my own life.

  2. patientlywaitingforGodsplan

    Posted by patientlywaitingforGodsplan on September 16, 2014 at 16:08

    I don’t believe popularity is a sin but it depends on the kind of popularity being talked about. After all, wanting to fit in may cost you your own relationship with God because you are trying to please man who will eventually forget about you. However, it may not. You may be the popular nice kid, the one everybody wants to be friends with because they are so sweet and caring. God shines through you then. I kind of want to be that kind of popular kid myself but that isn’t meant to be. Besides, once you get out of high school (if you are in hs) few will really care how far you got up the totem pole of popularity.

  3. Mindsong27

    Posted by Mindsong27 on September 14, 2014 at 21:43

    I don’t think I would interpret the twitter post the same way. From the quote, the girl seems to be saying that popularity is not often found while walking an active faith walk with Jesus (I would tend to agree), so she would rather have him than it. True, God gives a few people the gift of leadership, and a gift from God is certainly not a sin. However it is so, so easy to begin to covet the gift of popularity which God has given others, and like any other kind of coveting, this is a sin. Lust for popularity becomes a stumbling block and a burden, and can even lead to depression and loss of hope. If a daughter of the King has popularity, she should give thanks to God for it, but if not, it’s not worth even worrying about.

  4. Project Inspired

    Posted by anc.classof2014@gmail.com on August 3, 2013 at 00:16

    It’s better to be proud of yourself and your decisions than to care how many friends you have. Because most of them aren’t real friends.

  5. alyssa_amanda

    Posted by alyssa_amanda on May 2, 2013 at 09:59

    if being popular causes you to loose your faith and who you are in God, then yes. but if it does not do that then no! many popular people are Christians and living the right life.

  6. Rosemarycat

    Posted by Rosemarycat on April 23, 2013 at 17:56

    I think that if you are a good Christian role model, some people will react to that and say mean things, but deep down in side they see that you have something that they don’t, and they want that.

  7. Project Inspired

    Posted by maddybugdrake on March 30, 2013 at 20:32

    I don’t know.As long as your not jealous I’m sure it’s fine’

  8. Pixelite

    Posted by Pixelite on March 15, 2013 at 21:45

    In my opinion: There is no such thing as popularity! There are such a thing of people being “Well-Known”.
    Except that most of the “Well-Known” people are always well known for bad reasons 🙁

  9. Project Inspired

    Posted by bonbon58 on March 3, 2013 at 15:39

    I think it can be if you are fixated on popularity and are mean or dismissive to other students who are not nearly as popular or not popular at all. Put yourself in their shoes and imagine their loneliness , hurt, sadness , maybe not feeling ” good enough”. Always include other students and think about what Jesus would do ! AND SPEAK UP WHEN OTHER STUDENTS ARE BEING BULLIED ! DON’T ACT LIKE YOU DON’T SEE IT OR WALK AWAY OR YOU ARE JUST AS GUILTY. Be popular with all students , and make Jesus proud of you !

  10. Project Inspired

    Posted by jgj930 on February 25, 2013 at 21:40

    i don’t think popularity is a sin, but it’s rare to find a Christian that’s popular. my experience has been that the world hates you for what you believe in, even if you don’t impress it on them. it’s as if, because you hold yourself to a higher standard, they already feel that you think you’re better than them even if you don’t treat them as less than you. so if you are a Christian who is popular in the world of today, i say make sure that you’re not compromising your faith for the world’s approval.

    • Project Inspired

      Posted by jgj930 on February 25, 2013 at 21:44

      on the other hand, i don’t believe being liked by a lot of people is unusual. if you practice the love Jesus instructs us to have, there is sure to be a crowd of people who like you and think you’re a great person. but as i said previously, it’s rare to be popular to the world speaking in a general sense. it’s one thing to be liked by others…it’s another to be loved by “the world.”

  11. bubbletealuver

    Posted by bubbletealuver on February 20, 2013 at 15:17

    Popularity definitely isn’t a sin! It only becomes bad if you let it go to your head and you use your popularity for the wrong reasons such as using your influence to exclude others and make them feel left out, or leading people do things God is against.

  12. Nellie

    Posted by Nellie on February 20, 2013 at 13:18

    I think the word popularity can be mistaken for “fitting in”. If you mean popularity as in compromising your beliefs and personality in order to make a certain crowd pleased, then i feel that is wrong. But having a ton of friends, christian or not, being liked by a lot of people, not a sin. I would think someone with Jesus in their heart would be liked after all

  13. brennaeskyler2

    Posted by brennaeskyler2 on February 19, 2013 at 18:32

    In Proverbs 31:30, it says, “Favour is deceitful and beauty is vain, but a woman that feareth the Lord she shall be praised.” I think that says popularity and favour won’t last long, but if you have great fear of God, it will last forever! Just like Christi said if your popularity is compromising your faith, then it is wrong!

  14. cRaZyBeautiful

    Posted by cRaZyBeautiful on February 16, 2013 at 17:30

    I don’t believe it’s a sin to be popular but being envious to be or of someone who is popular.

  15. misstake

    Posted by misstake on February 12, 2013 at 15:36

    I totally agree! I love how you put all those bible verses to answer the question. ^^

  16. Vicki K

    Posted by Vicki K on February 12, 2013 at 13:21

    It kind of depends what you are popular for. Just being popular because you have a lot of friends and everyone knows you is fine. being pretty brings haters and people who judge. That pushes you to make everyone like you, and that can lead to sin. Popularity as a whole is not a sin, it’s what you do with your popularity.

    • julsic

      Posted by julsic on February 12, 2013 at 14:33

      So true! I couldnt have said it better! I think its just because now at days it is so rare to find a “popular” person who is kind and not popular for misleading things. When we hear the word “popular” we think of a bunch of snobby people and so on. But i believe that there are many people in this world who are popular for their kindness and godliness, like nicole. Thanks to her and so many others we can redefine the word “popular” in a good way.

  17. emerald

    Posted by emerald on February 12, 2013 at 06:45

    it’s only sinful when ur popular for bad stuff 😀

  18. Deeblves3

    Posted by Deeblves3 on February 11, 2013 at 18:32

    What helps me to remind myself when trying to feel I need to fit in is this certain saying “I don’t want to gain the whole world and lose my soul” By Toby Mac.
    I don’t think Popularity isn’t a bad things either unless only glorifying God. I agree with you! @Leahgrace99

  19. pinkpenguin318

    Posted by pinkpenguin318 on February 11, 2013 at 18:20

    I haven’t had a good bible study lesson in what has felt like years. My youth group feels impractical because I don’t have any friends there (but I have plenty at school, don’t worry) and I am starting to go to my friend’s youth group. Anyway, I loved this article and think you’re right on with your main message — we all need love, but we need God most! And there are lots of women and men out there like Lecrae (who I heard won a Grammy recently!) and Nicole who are using their popularity/fame in great ways! 😀

  20. Lovely Mistakes

    Posted by Lovely Mistakes on February 11, 2013 at 17:48

    I dont think its a sin unless you are for unGodly and unhealthy things.

  21. violinist4Him

    Posted by violinist4Him on February 11, 2013 at 15:52

    I don’t think popularity is a sin, but I do think it is something that others should “give” you, and not something we should seek because it takes our attention off God.

    • GigiJR

      Posted by GigiJR on February 11, 2013 at 18:10

      That’s a great point. God wants our focus to be on Him & furthering his kingdom, if you become popular through that, awesome! 🙂
      In Matthew 6 Jesus is talking about worrying about the things that the Gentiles (or non-Christians in our case) worry about & he winds up saying this:
      “But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.”
      I think thats an important verse to keep in mind when considering popularity.

  22. Project Inspired

    Posted by makaylarae on February 11, 2013 at 15:34

    Okay, well I’m really not trying to brag here but in my school I guess I’m the “popular” girl. But everyone calls me the nicest girl in our school and I have won the citizenship award that they give out at the end of the year. I am always talking to everyone and try to be respectful at all times. So I say that popularity is not a sin. I think too often popularity is associated with the “mean girls” which isn’t always true. I would so much rather be nice to people and be not popular than be a mean popular girl.

    • MaryPineda

      Posted by MaryPineda on March 26, 2013 at 19:00

      Same here with me! well im not known school wide but i know A LOT of people and my friends are always saying im popular. i dont really think im popular i just like to be kind and respectful to everyone i meet.

  23. god_girl_15

    Posted by god_girl_15 on February 11, 2013 at 13:35

    I think that some popular people are kind, but others try to mold into the worlds image and be someone they are not.

  24. Em91181223

    Posted by Em91181223 on February 11, 2013 at 10:51

    I love this article! I don’t think popularity is such a terrible thing, unless your popular for all the wrong reasons.

  25. leahgrace99

    Posted by leahgrace99 on February 11, 2013 at 10:13

    I don’t think that popularity is a bad thing unless you are popular for the wrong things or if you use it to bring others down.