Girl to Girl Talk: Lonely Hearts, and the Truth About Your Worth!
Written by Christi Given | July 21, 2014
Recently on the PI Girl Talk forum, a girl posted a beautiful prayer about meeting her mate and discussed courtship, desiring a relationship that is God-centered and also that God would guide her heart for the time being. To read more about the post, click here. She also mentioned that God spared her from heartbreak, and asked the Lord to comfort those with lonely hearts. She mentioned how God has the perfect timing and talked about insecurity, with a link to her own personal blog. Check out her link for her story here.
Emotions Versus the Truth
Regarding those who feel alone, worthless, lonely or that God hasn’t heard you…stop and listen and open your heart to what I am about to speak into your life. I desire to encourage you and infuse life, truth and hope. No matter what you are facing, whether you feel betrayed by someone or you and your boyfriend broke up or are fighting, GOD LOVES YOU. Your marital status or not having a “boyfriend” does not define you. Jesus Christ and being a daughter of the King of kings defines you! You are a princess and a royal daughter of God!
But you are a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, God’s special possession, that you may declare the praises of Him who called you out of darkness into His wonderful light. (2 Peter 2:9)
Many people think their identity is based on who they hang out with (popularity), who they date and/or what they do or how successful they are. The truth is these things are fleeting—they don’t last! God’s Word is eternal and is what counts! It is the REAL truth! (Matthew 24:35) It will never be refuted. We have to just accept it and walk in our true calling and purpose and in the light of Christ! Jesus died on the cross so that you could live. No matter what sins you committed, if you pray, ask God to help you, turn to Him and sincerely want to have a genuine relationship with Him, then God can change your life! God is so amazing and is so forgiving and merciful. (Psalm 145:13)
“Heaven and earth will pass away, but my words will never pass away.” (Matthew 24:35)
Be Surrounded By Godly Friends
If you feel lonely and are hurting, remember you are not alone! God wants us to be in the right fellowship—we do need people! God created us to have sisters in Christ to encourage us, and we pray that here at Project Inspired, we can provide just that. There are other physical groups like Bible Studies through your local Christian churches that you can look into to find a community; I highly recommend for you to seek them out. Also, sharing your thoughts with a good friend or your Mom may help you. Think of a mentor or older sister in Christ who can pray with you, encourage you and speak love and truth into your life. Friends are blessings from God; we need them. No matter what is happening in your life—whether you want to date, marry or have a boyfriend—remember God is always with you and you are never alone!
The Spiritual Battle: Read the Word and Pray to Combat
The enemy of our soul wants us to feel sad, lonely, anxious, fearful of the future, depressed, in a spirit of despair—but these things are clearly not of God or of peace. We need to combat lies or even emotions in the flesh by reading the Bible (the Word of God). When we read the Bible, we will be renewing and refocusing our mind on the truth! God created you with a purpose, with value and for a special reason! God loves you so much and has plans to PROSPER you, my sisters in Christ, NOT to harm you! (Jeremiah 29:11 says just that.)
Remember that we need to be filled with the truth and to be filled spiritually. If we are on empty, we are susceptible to the lies of the world or that the enemy throws at us. We need to be aware of the war waging against us. There is strong spiritual opposition to the Christ-follower because the enemy knows if he can weaken us, we won’t have enough strength to shine our lights for Christ—so we need to be on guard and be aware. We don’t need to be fearful, but know that “we wrestle not against flesh and blood….” (Ephesians 6:12)
For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places. (Ephesians 6:12)
Guard Your Heart
There’s a reason the Lord said to guard your heart—when our hearts are wounded, it opens a door for the enemy to plant a seed. The seed can be bitterness, anger, insecurity, doubt, fear, lack of trust in God and other things that displease God. We need to be careful in what takes root in our lives. (Read Matthew 13.) We need to cleanse our hearts and purify them with the washing of the Holy Word of God, and also lay before the Lord Jesus our burdens. We need to uproot anything that might interfere with our future God-given calling and destiny. Ultimately, we need to be jealous (protective, not bad jealousy), but we need to watch for anything coming against our spirits or our hearts and remove any negativity. When we feel that coming, we need to pray and ask God to protect us from any sin. Amen? Know that Jesus loves you—if you are a believer and the church you are married to is Christ, you are His bride! You are not alone because God is with you always, and we are here for you on PI as a community.
Here is a review of some tips and words of advice to combat feeling lonely and to know and understand your true value and worth as a daughter of the Most High God!
How to Combat Feelings of Loneliness:
1. Know your worth. You are royalty! (2 Peter 2:9)
2. Read God’s Word. Renew your mind. (Don’t base your circumstance on feelings, but rather know the truth and let the Bible speak into your life.)
3. Surround yourself with Godly friends. Build community with like-minded people.
4. Remember God is ALWAYS with you. You are never alone. (Deuteronomy 31:6)
5. Guard your heart. Watch for seeds of sin to not enter your heart. (Proverbs 4:23)
Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it. (Proverbs 4:23)
You can always go to the Girl Talk forum to ask questions or to pray! Contact me with further comments, prayer requests and so on at facebook.com/ChristiGiven or on Twitter @ChristiGiven.
PI Girls, how do you deal with loneliness? What helps you overcome the feelings and lies of the enemy?