Every week, I go through the “Girl Talk” section of Project Inspired and look for those seeking advice and counsel. I want to help answer some questions you may have about living out your Christian life and walk of faith! We want PI to be a safe place where you can ask questions. Contact me @ChristiGiven.
This week, a PI Girl is struggling with some of her friends and the fact that they think drinking and partying is the only way to have fun. I can assure you in the teenage years, peer pressure is hard—in high school, in college and even for some middle schoolers. Click here to read the full post on our Girl Talk forum:
…let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven. (Matthew 5:16)
It’s not easy going against the grain of popularity, but with God, all things are possible. One thing I would advise is to be set apart, to keep being brave and keep being a good friend to those around you. Pray for your friends, and if the people around you drag you down, ask God to send you even one or two like-minded friends.
Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will. (Romans 12:2)
At times in life we are to shine our light to people and give them the Gospel, but that doesn’t mean everyone will receive you nor will they necessarily listen to your advice or want to change. If you find yourself drowning in peer pressure, seek wise counsel, find a Christian club on campus or youth group, and really pray that God will bring you even one Christian friend.
If you find yourself dealing with people battling addictions, there are numbers to call for those who are in danger or harmful to themselves or others. Below is a list of phone numbers you can call if you find yourself or your friend in a dangerous circumstance.
Hotlines That You or a Friend Can Call for Help If Needed
American Council for Drug Education: 1-800-488-3784
Center for Substance Abuse Treatment: 1-800-662-4357
National Council on Alcoholism and Drug Dependence: 1-800-475-HOPE (4673)
National Drug and Alcohol Treatment Referral and Routing Service: 1-800-662-HELP (4357)
How to Deal With Friends Who Struggle with Addiction
1. Pray for them: We are to pray for people, but we cannot save them, change them or do much more than be a good listener and friend, and help if it escalates by speaking to their parents or a youth leader. Ask the Holy Spirit to help guide you in what to do and how to deal with each situation. He will help.
2. Be a light and shine for Jesus: Shining your light means you are set apart. We are called to be “salt and light.” Salt produces a thirst, but it is to be sprinkled or it will ruin the testament, just like real salt overloading a meal would ruin it. Salt produces a thirst, and a thirst for the Holy Spirit or the living water…keep shining! Use wisdom, spread Christ’s love and be yourself, and over time your friend may change or want to know God and who your Savior is! (Matthew 5:16)
3. Recognize if you are in their life for a season: If they don’t receive you or your advice, move on in the kindest way. You can still be loving, but it doesn’t mean you need to support bad habits (Matthew 10:14). Also, not everyone is to walk with you into your destiny and can sometimes be a distraction. Let the professionals help in unpredictable situations, but be the best friend you can with what you have. After that, it’s in God’s hands and their parent’s responsibility.
4. Reach out to an adult or for help if needed: There are resources online and through your school campus and counselors if you need professional help to guide your friend. Also, connect with their parents if things escalate. Ask for wisdom from those you trust and who are older than you: In the Bible, it says, “Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers they succeed.” (Proverbs 15:22)
5. Call for help if the situation gets worse: Call 1-800-447-1070 to reach My Broken Palace (mybrokenpalace.com) or call one of the hotline phone numbers listed above for professional help. Group.com may also be able to refer you to some support.
PI Girls, we are praying for you, your friends and classmates! Comment below for prayer requests. Remember, God loves you so much and wants to help you in life. Jesus cares about the BIG and the SMALL things.