Girl to Girl Talk: “Should I Be in a Long-Distance Relationship?”
Written by Christi Given | September 15, 2014
Every week, I go through the “Girl Talk” section of Project Inspired and look for those seeking advice and counsel. I want to help answer some questions you may have about living out your Christian life and walk of faith! We want PI to be a safe place where you can ask questions. Contact me @ChristiGiven.
This week, a PI Girl asked a question about having a long-distance relationship. To read the full post, click here.
“This guy and I are dating; just a year apart from each other. Thing is, he lives in AZ and I live in KS. We video chat when we can and we talk all the time, but we are just worried about us [being] in public school and not knowing what will happen. I just don’t know what to do! Please help!”
This is a great question, and is obviously every scenario is different, but I will give some generic advice for those contemplating having or keeping a long-distance relationship. (See the “Five Things to Consider in a Long-Distance Relationship,” below.)
Girls, make sure you are truly serious about the relationship before you commit to something that is far away. This is a touchy subject for some girls, but you need to be wise and protect your heart, especially if you are not as mature in your faith. You need to really be thinking about God’s BEST and also fight for what is good and godly. If the relationship is from God, He will give you divine clarity; just seek God first.
Five Things to Consider in a Long-Distance Relationship
1. Distance. It really depends on how far. Are we talking a couple of hours away, out of state or even out of the country? Relationships grow through time spent together, and yes, distance makes the heart grow fonder, but not too far where you never see each other. Each relationship is different, of course.
2. How long will you be apart? This is something to consider and factor in, as life is short and you don’t want to waste time in a romantic relationship where you may not be certain when the person could move close by. Also consider whether they’re ever going to move back or be near you. Consider praying if you are to marry the person in the future or where the ultimate location will be.
3. Plan for the future. If you’re a teenager and having a long-distance relationship, you may want to seriously reconsider, as you are young and have your whole life ahead of you. I know you may roll your eyes and think, “But I’m in love with him…” but really, years down the line, do you want to waste time with someone who isn’t going to be your husband? If he possibly could be, that’s wonderful, but otherwise don’t invest so much time in a short-term relationship, especially if it’s super long-distance.
4. Guard your heart. You’ve heard it said before to protect your heart. This is actually from the Bible (Proverbs 4:23), and the Lord says that out of it flows the issues of life. If your heart is wounded, it can lead to heartbreak, sin and other harmful issues. Let’s make sure we don’t make unwise choices that could have long-term effects on our emotions, relationships and potential connection with our mate. Amen?
5. Seek God’s Word. Of course, I point back to the Holy Bible and the Word of God because it is truly what matters. Ask yourself: “Does this relationship glorify God?” Does the fruit of this connection and friendship/relationship honor the Lord? Is there long-term potential in this relationship?” If so, congrats—that is exciting if there is positive reasoning in sticking through a long-distance relationship. On the other hand, if there is confusion, uncertainty or lack of peace, I would really dig deep into the Word and ask God to give you clarity. He will, and God knows what is best!
PI Girls, what do YOU think about long-distance relationships? Comment below!
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God bless you, PI Girls!