Girl to Girl Talk: Should I Save My First Kiss for the Altar?
Written by Christi Given | October 24, 2017
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A Project Inspired Girl asked us about waiting to kiss until your wedding day. This can be very difficult for two people falling in love, but it also helps protect and guard against sexual temptation. I am not saying never kiss or never date, but I do think that personally I want to wait to kiss the one at the altar. If you do end up kissing, as long as you refrain from fornication (sex before marriage), you are not sinning by locking lips. Kissing is not forbidden in the Bible. If you think for your relationship, it’s safer to not kiss because of the temptations, then wait, and if you decide to just hold hands, hug and enjoy each other as best friends, that is beautiful.
Years ago I did a TV show with JUCE TV network called Top 3, and we interviewed Janette McGhee from YouTube videos and the Passion For Christ Movement about “Worth the Wait,” a viral Christian spoken word video she did at the P4CM lyricist lounge. Eventually Janette met her now-husband, and before they married they felt convicted to not make out before marrying. They dated for three years without doing that and had their first kiss on their wedding day.
Matt Watson, Janette’s husband, who is also a spoken word artist, said in the interview (watch the JUCE TV episode below) that he always wondered when the pastor would say, “You may NOW kiss your bride.” He said how can you get permission to do something if you have already been doing it? This is good food for thought regarding purity and marriage. No one is projecting that you should or shouldn’t wait to kiss at the altar; it should be based on personal conviction with God and your relationship with your fiancé or boyfriend.
Watch the video below to see the “get to know your host” segment and the Top 3 hosts asking me if I would want to wait to kiss on my wedding day.
Would you wait to kiss or do you think that is too extreme?
Watch “Should I Kiss Before Marriage?”—a JUCE TV Top 3 episode with the Passion For Christ Movement:
Watch “The Wait Is Over” (Kissing After Marriage):
What do you think, PI Girls? Will you wait to kiss at the altar? Comment below!