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Girl to Girl Talk: Should I Save My First Kiss for the Altar?

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A Project Inspired Girl asked us about waiting to kiss until your wedding day. This can be very difficult for two people falling in love, but it also helps protect and guard against sexual temptation. I am not saying never kiss or never date, but I do think that personally I want to wait to kiss the one at the altar. If you do end up kissing, as long as you refrain from fornication (sex before marriage), you are not sinning by locking lips. Kissing is not forbidden in the Bible. If you think for your relationship, it’s safer to not kiss because of the temptations, then wait, and if you decide to just hold hands, hug and enjoy each other as best friends, that is beautiful.

Years ago I did a TV show with JUCE TV network called Top 3, and we interviewed Janette McGhee from YouTube videos and the Passion For Christ Movement about “Worth the Wait,” a viral Christian spoken word video she did at the P4CM lyricist lounge. Eventually Janette met her now-husband, and before they married they felt convicted to not make out before marrying. They dated for three years without doing that and had their first kiss on their wedding day.

Matt Watson, Janette’s husband, who is also a spoken word artist, said in the interview (watch the JUCE TV episode below) that he always wondered when the pastor would say, “You may NOW kiss your bride.” He said how can you get permission to do something if you have already been doing it? This is good food for thought regarding purity and marriage. No one is projecting that you should or shouldn’t wait to kiss at the altar; it should be based on personal conviction with God and your relationship with your fiancé or boyfriend.

Watch the video below to see the “get to know your host” segment and the Top 3 hosts asking me if I would want to wait to kiss on my wedding day.

Would you wait to kiss or do you think that is too extreme?


Watch “Should I Kiss Before Marriage?”—a JUCE TV Top 3 episode with the Passion For Christ Movement:


Watch “The Wait Is Over” (Kissing After Marriage):


What do you think, PI Girls? Will you wait to kiss at the altar? Comment below!

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  1. princessladk

    Posted by princessladk on October 27, 2017 at 11:03

    My boyfriend and I just started dating a little over three months ago and he’s been such a blessing in my life – one I don’t deserve! One of the many amazing things is that I’m his first girlfriend. And form the moment he met me he knew he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me. We started off being good friends for a bout 6 months before he asked me to be his girlfriend. Of course I said yes! immediately we set up boundaries and were open with each other about where to draw the boundaries to maintain a pure and God-glorifying relationship. We agreed hugging and such is okay, but we also both agreed not to kiss until our wedding day! It makes the temptation of going to far physically a whole lot less. Of course, temptation is still there but I personally think it is significantly less that it would’ve been otherwise. Also, the less physical we are now the more enjoyable and exciting it will be when we are married! I will be the first and only girl he’s ever kissed and I think that is so beautiful! I look forward excitedly for that day that I may finally kiss him ^.^

  2. Smylinggirl

    Posted by Smylinggirl on October 27, 2017 at 05:02

    That’s always been my plan, to save my first kiss for the altar. But I heard a new idea that I sort of like, and that is having your first kiss right after the ceremony in private. Because, let’s be honest, the idea of doing something you’ve NEVER done before, in front of a lot of people is rather frightening. So, I don’t know for sure what I’ll do yet, or what my fiance will want to do, but I’m not kissing until I’m married (in the wedding or after).