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    Girl to Girl Talk: “What Do I Do if a Friend Has Deleted Me from Facebook?”

    Every week, I go through the “Girl Talk” section of Project Inspired and look for those seeking advice and counsel. I want to help answer some questions you may have about living out your Christian life and walk of faith! We want PI to be a safe place where you can ask questions.

    Join us here if you want to ask a question or read full posts by other PI Girls.

    If a friend has deleted you from social media, this can be very hurtful and challenging. There are seasons where friends may come and go, but remember that God is always with you. It is wise to not overreact and to use wisdom with the friends you already hang out with.

     

    “Blessed is the one
    who does not walk in step with the wicked
    or stand in the way that sinners take
    or sit in the company of mockers,
    but whose delight is in the law of the Lord,
    and who meditates on his law day and night.”
    Psalm 1:1-2

     

    In some ways it can be a blessing if someone you considered to be a close friend deletes you. When someone does, in fact, try to remove you from their life, it’s an indication that maybe they were not a true friend.

    A PI Girl recently experienced this, but it was with her crush; click here for the full post.

    The question is: What should you do if a friend has deleted you from social media?

    In this situation, number one, you need to pray.

    Next, I would ask for a parent’s advice or counselor’s advice, or even speak to a youth pastor.

    One thing to remember is to not harden your heart or allow a root of bitterness to come in between you and this person. God says to love even our enemies, which can be difficult when someone hurts us. We need to see the best in people and give them the benefit of the doubt.

    Another question you would want to ask yourself is “Did I do anything to cause this person to delete me?” Maybe the reason the person deleted you is because you, in fact, hurt them. If this is the case, you have two options. One is to forgive and/or apologize. The other is to let it go and love the person unconditionally. You don’t necessarily need to do anything, but you can watch and pray. Again, if you instigated the issue, then you should humble yourself and apologize.

     

    You have heard that it was said, “Love your neighbor and hate your enemy.” But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you,  that you may be children of your Father in heaven. He causes his sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous. If you love those who love you, what reward will you get? Are not even the tax collectors doing that? And if you greet only your own people, what are you doing more than others? Do not even pagans do that? Be perfect, therefore, as your heavenly Father is perfect.
    (Matthew 5:43-48)

     

    Here are some key pieces of advice when you are no longer friends with someone on social media:

    1. Pray.

    2. Talk to a parent, guardian, mentor or counselor.

    3. Don’t harden your heart or allow a seed of bitterness inside.

    4. Love unconditionally.

    5. Examine yourself.

    6. Forgive and/or apologize.

    7. Move forward (in life or in relationship after forgiving).

    8. Trust God.

    9. Learn from the situation.

    10. Communicate and make sure it was intentional, not an accident.

     

    PI Girls, have you ever experienced this before? Have you ever had a friend delete you or have you ever deleted someone close to you? Comment below and write a prayer request or give advice on how to deal with this situation.

    Christi Given
    Christi Givenhttp://www.christigiven.com
    Christi Given is a former Trinity Broadcasting Network host for the JUCE TV NETWORK, and has been featured on the Hillsong Channel. Her passion is to reach the youth with the Gospel and her music. Given has been writing for Project Inspired since 2011, and hopes to encourage the younger generation in their faith.

    4 COMMENTS

    1. A guy from a youth group I used to go to removed me from Facebook. He was a really nice guy, very smart, played the piano beautifully, loved and respected his family, and liked my siblings (which is super important to me). Our youth group went to camp for a week. One evening, we were playing a ball game with the other campers, and when it came to the end of the game, only him and a girl were left in the ring. He touched the ball with his foot and let her win. She and the other girls acted all annoyed and offended by this, but the boys were like, Yeah! Way to go! I was impressed, because chivalry is my weakness. He did it twice in the evening.
      A couple times during the rest of the week, he seemed like he might be flirting with me, but he might have just been in a playful mood. I had never had anyone interested in me before, to my knowledge, so I was pretty happy.
      After we got home, I sent him a private message on Facebook. I said I was really impressed with what he did during the game, and that if I was a guy, I would want to act that way, too. I kind of thought since the other girls were annoyed by it, he might like knowing that at least one girl appreciated it. He never answered my message. A few weeks later, I realized that he had removed me from his Facebook friends. I don’t know if I scared him off, or what, but I didn’t think I did anything wrong. I’m really sorry to have offended him, because he seemed like a really wonderful young man.

      • OMGsh! That happened to me, excpet it was on instagram. This youth group leader who my sister knew followed him, the he followed back. After, my cosuin and I did the same thing! He followed all of us back! I barely knew him! But I thought it was really nice and he posted funny things. I then asked him a question on instagram, it wasn’t a bad question. Then a week later he blocked me! I was like WHAT?! Then he blocked my sister and unfollowed my cousin a month later. It was so odd!

    2. If you are being been removed from your friend’s Facebook account, count it all joy. First as said in the main article, find out the reason(s) from your friend for that action. If there is no tangible reason, then probably there are things your friend do not want you to see on his or her account.
      Or better still, may be there are things you post on your account that your friend may not enjoy seeing.

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