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Girl to Girl Talk: “What Do I Do if a Friend Has Deleted Me from Facebook?”
Written by Christi Given | April 6, 2015
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If a friend has deleted you from social media, this can be very hurtful and challenging. There are seasons where friends may come and go, but remember that God is always with you. It is wise to not overreact and to use wisdom with the friends you already hang out with.
“Blessed is the one
who does not walk in step with the wicked
or stand in the way that sinners take
or sit in the company of mockers,
but whose delight is in the law of the Lord,
and who meditates on his law day and night.”
In some ways it can be a blessing if someone you considered to be a close friend deletes you. When someone does, in fact, try to remove you from their life, it’s an indication that maybe they were not a true friend.
A PI Girl recently experienced this, but it was with her crush; click here for the full post.
The question is: What should you do if a friend has deleted you from social media?
In this situation, number one, you need to pray.
Next, I would ask for a parent’s advice or counselor’s advice, or even speak to a youth pastor.
One thing to remember is to not harden your heart or allow a root of bitterness to come in between you and this person. God says to love even our enemies, which can be difficult when someone hurts us. We need to see the best in people and give them the benefit of the doubt.
Another question you would want to ask yourself is “Did I do anything to cause this person to delete me?” Maybe the reason the person deleted you is because you, in fact, hurt them. If this is the case, you have two options. One is to forgive and/or apologize. The other is to let it go and love the person unconditionally. You don’t necessarily need to do anything, but you can watch and pray. Again, if you instigated the issue, then you should humble yourself and apologize.
You have heard that it was said, “Love your neighbor and hate your enemy.” But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, that you may be children of your Father in heaven. He causes his sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous. If you love those who love you, what reward will you get? Are not even the tax collectors doing that? And if you greet only your own people, what are you doing more than others? Do not even pagans do that? Be perfect, therefore, as your heavenly Father is perfect.
Here are some key pieces of advice when you are no longer friends with someone on social media:
2. Talk to a parent, guardian, mentor or counselor.
3. Don’t harden your heart or allow a seed of bitterness inside.
4. Love unconditionally.
5. Examine yourself.
6. Forgive and/or apologize.
7. Move forward (in life or in relationship after forgiving).
8. Trust God.
9. Learn from the situation.
10. Communicate and make sure it was intentional, not an accident.
PI Girls, have you ever experienced this before? Have you ever had a friend delete you or have you ever deleted someone close to you? Comment below and write a prayer request or give advice on how to deal with this situation.