Girl to Girl Talk: “What Do I Do If I Haven’t Been Asked to Prom Yet?”
Written by Christi Given | April 15, 2015
Every week, I go through the “Girl Talk” section of Project Inspired and look for those seeking advice and counsel. I want to help answer some questions you may have about living out your Christian life and walk of faith! We want PI to be a safe place where you can ask questions.
This week, a PI Girl asked about being invited to the prom. What do you do if you haven’t been asked out to prom yet? Here are some ideas and personal advice I have for you.
To read the full Girl Talk post, click here.
One thing I can suggest is that you can ask a guy friend who you feel comfortable going with, or a friend who is a girl who also doesn’t have someone to go with. You can make it a friendly, fun event. Another option is to wait—your crush or potential dream date may just ask you. A final option can be that you ask your sibling or friend’s sibling or brother.
Don’t worry if you don’t get asked right away—you can always go in a group with your friends! It’s always fun to group up, either double date or to go together in a limo, bus or however you choose to carpool to your prom location.
“What do I do if a guy asks me to prom who is not a believer?”
This is the other half of the question a PI Girl recently asked us on the Girl Talk forum. First, it’s a good sign that you are seeking counsel regarding this situation. I would first ask your parents, then I would pray. Depending on how well you know the person and if you respect them (or if you know they are a credible person), then it will make or break your decision.
Make sure your potential date would not try to make a move on you and that they would solely be a platonic friend going to prom. If your potential date is not equally yoked to you, yet you have no interest in them romantically and definitely trust them, this will influence your choice. I would say okay if you are a light to them and are strictly friends with them. I would still use caution and pray about this choice, and make sure you get confirmation from a youth mentor or parental guardian. If you have a huge crush on a non-believer, honestly pray because you could be in a predicament and possibly don’t want to fall for someone who is not on the same page as you.
Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? (2 Corinthians 6:14)
Each situation is unique, but after evaluating all of these factors, an important piece of advice I would like to highlight is to make sure to go with a group. This is the safest and smartest choice to not set yourself up for a problem and/or give the wrong signal to your potential date. Prom can be a special evening and an important memory, so I wouldn’t reject someone by not going, but also would use wisdom when making a final choice. As long as you drive in a group together and get back home safely at a reasonable time, I would say it would be fine to go.
On the other hand, if the guy asking you who is a non-believer is known for drinking or partying, or has a bad reputation, I would say don’t go with that person to the prom. You don’t want to end up in an uncomfortable situation or set yourself up for compromise. Also, if the person is open to the Lord, your friendship could blossom and you could be a light, but if the person is clearly against Jesus or your faith, obviously I would suggest not going with him.
Advice for Choosing a Prom Date
1. Pray and seek God first: God will always have your best interests at heart. He will make a way even when there seems to be no way…you don’t need to worry, fear or compromise…don’t do it! The heartache is not worth it in the end!
2. Ask yourself if you have peace about your choice: If you don’t have peace, this is an indication something is off and the Holy Spirit may be warning you. If you have peace and confidence in your choice, go and have fun! God is with you—just make sure your parents approve as well. 🙂
3. Ask your parents for advice: Your parents know you better than anyone else, so trust their advice. If they have a bad feeling about your date, listen to them. If they approve, that is a great sign and this person could be a great friend in the long run. (See Proverbs 24:6.)
4. Go with your intuition: Follow your gut and what you feel the Holy Spirit is leading you to do. Don’t just take the first invitation that comes your way; pray about it if you have any hesitation, and if you feel God’s peace, then go for it and have fun! (See John 16:13.)
5. Don’t be afraid to ask a friend: You don’t have to have a boyfriend or girlfriend to go to the prom, and you don’t necessarily need to have a crush on your date. You can have a great, memorable prom with a best friend or guy friend. Seriously, it’s smarter to go in a group setting anyway, because typically there are after-parties and you want to be wise about who you are with, and also have a great time!
PI Girls, how would you choose your prom date, or if you have been to prom, who did you end up going with? Comment below!
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