Girl to Girl Talk: “What Does Walking with Jesus Look Like?”

    Every week, I go through the “Girl Talk” section of Project Inspired and look for those seeking advice and counsel. I want to help answer some questions you may have about living out your Christian life and walk of faith! We want PI to be a safe place where you can ask questions.

    This week, a PI Girl asked what walking with Jesus means:

    “I’ve wondered exactly what walking with Jesus means. I’m saved, trying to do my best. There it is, that phrase ‘trying to do my best.’ I actually get very worried and anxious that I’m not doing the exact will of God at times and am starting to feel like things ‘non-Christian’ are ‘bad’ and questioning my desires. All in all, I’m trying to be a perfectionist. I am just terrified of backsliding and falling from grace. What is walking with Jesus? Will any desires (hobbies, interests) that are not SPECIFICALLY Christian-based fade away during my walk?”

    Click here to read the full post and to comment directly on the Girl Talk forum.

    This is an excellent question and is relevant to all of us as believers. We all need to have a level of concern regarding our own personal walk with Christ. Yes, everyone is in different seasons and some are more mature in their faith than others, but we need to not compare unless we are aiming to be closer to God and are looking up to someone that isn’t wrong. We also need to be aware of the difference between conviction and condemnation. I wrote an article on this—click here to read it and learn more.

    Sweet girl, of course it’s wonderful you are concerned with backsliding, and we all need to have a Holy reverent fear of God (a healthy honor of Him, not a scared fear). We need to realize without the Holy Spirit and God’s grace empowering us, we can do nothing. We need to ask for God’s covering and protection (Psalm 91) and also continue to abide in His presence. Wherever God’s presence is, you will find His perfect will. If you lose your peace, then you can bet you probably have drifted from Him. Of course this isn’t a matter of losing your salvation, and I don’t think you need to be paranoid you will slip back into your old ways, but a healthy balance is great. That is where wisdom comes in.

    I have some verses for you if you need wisdom. Read James 4 (in the Bible). Next, there is a verse that discusses being overly wise and cautions us to not destroy ourselves.


    Do not be overrighteous, neither be overwise—why destroy yourself? (Ecclesiastes 7:16)


    We are to be in the world, not of it. We can’t hide under a rock. It is inevitable we will sin; if we say we have no sin, we are liars (1 John 1:8). The important matter is that you are concerned that you remain in The Lord (John 15) and that you desire to be more like Him! I am so proud of you! Don’t condemn yourself because God doesn’t even do that (John 3:17). Yes, where there is sin, He convicts and that helps lead us on the right path and to turn away from our fallen nature and habits, but God knows your heart, beloved. He knows your innermost being and thoughts and loves you so much (Psalm 139).

    Regarding your question on what it means to walk with Christ, this is essentially just fellowshipping with God daily and having a genuine relationship with Him. When you walk with a friend or loved one, you communicate with them, tell them what’s in your heart and what you appreciate and so forth. Jesus always called people to leave what they were doing for themselves to “follow” Him. God knows we need to work and do earthly things in the sense of being human and surviving, but God ultimately cares about our character and honoring Him! Can I get an amen? God designed us to worship Him, and until we do that with our lives, we will continually be conflicted and dissatisfied.

    We need to focus on The Lord, His Kingdom, and we need to really ask Him what His will is, not our own. There’s work to be done on earth and only you can do what God designed YOU to do! You are precious, prized, loved and treasured by the Almighty God and He wants you to flourish doing His work! Whether you are working in a carnal worldly place but being a light, or working in ministry or even as a missionary, all these different tasks and gifts are important. God has assigned us to build the Kingdom of God on earth because He has given us the gift of the Holy Spirit.

    Yes, from personal experience and from the Word, your desires become more like His desires as you grow deeper in your faith.

    Just the verse says in Psalm 37:4: “Delight yourself in The Lord and He shall give you the desires of thine heart.” Of course you will like things that are maybe not Christian necessarily, but you can be a shining reflection of Jesus wherever you go. The more you are in His presence, the more you want to be there. I’ve learned that your desires change to His desires when fully surrendered, and He will open doors no man can shut and take you further than you could ever ask or imagine (Ephesians 3:20/Isaiah 22:22). Just trust Him and walk with Him and seek the Word (the Bible) daily. Hope this helps.

    I am praying for you that this helps you and other PI Girls. May God bless you!

    Comment below to write any prayer requests or message me personally at for further questions or prayer requests. Jesus loves you!

    Christi Given
    Christi Given
    Christi Given is a former Trinity Broadcasting Network host for the JUCE TV NETWORK, and has been featured on the Hillsong Channel. Her passion is to reach the youth with the Gospel and her music. Given has been writing for Project Inspired since 2011, and hopes to encourage the younger generation in their faith.


    1. I started getting a little teary and thanking The Lord in my head! Than you so much! I feel as if God really wanted to let me know what He had to say about walking with Jesus! 🙂

      May I also quickly ask, and it has been bothering me for a while; I have this big dream of becoming a singer and I’ve had it since I was little and hold on TIGHTLY to that dream! I’m not the best singer, but I am determined to do my very best and get into my dream college someday! A friend I have hinted to me I should see if what God wants me to do, but I’d just be so disappointed if He pointed me into another direction! And sometimes the wild thought of; what if I just go to college for music anyway? Am I screwing up my life and will eventually go to hell if I didn’t go to college for something else…?

      Maybe I’m overthinking it; but I’d totally like to do music that reflects Jesus and brings light into this dark world! So who knows!

      • Hey! I totally know how you feel. I worry that God will want me to give up my dreams and passions too. But I think God gives us things to be passionate about for a reason, and I think he uses that passion for good. Maybe not always how we expected, but I do believe God uses things we love, like music. I also worry about going to he’ll if I don’t obey God. But I think we can know from the Bible that is not true. Almost every Bible character went against God at some time, and God still loved them. Finally, God won’t make you do anything. I think sometimes he lets us do things our way so we can learn from it. I just wanted you to know that I have the same worries and this is what helps me 🙂

        • @SereneInChrist At the end of your Comment you said ” Am I screwing up my life and will eventually go to hell if I didn’t go to college for something else…?” that confuses me. You said you were worried that you will eventually go to hell if you didn’t go to college for something else, and that I know is definitely not true. Once you are saved, have repented, and believe and have faith, God promises us that we will be with Him when we die. If your faith is genuine you can’t lose it, and works can’t get you to heaven only faith can and that is faith in Christ Jesus(Though, when we have faith our works should reflect God.). Hope this helps!

      • I agree with you! I’m in a similar situation because I’ve always wanted to be an actor but don’t want to get sucked in the worldly shark tank of fame. A friend of mine says if you want to know if something’s okay, ask yourself if you can put God first. It’s okay to be a singer or actor, I think, as long as God is still at the top of your agenda!

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