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Having an Identity Crisis? Find Identity in Christ!

Do you ever feel you aren’t good enough? Do you think your friends have cuter clothes than you? That you’re too thin? Too fat? That you just don’t fit in?

It’s a sad fact that when most teenage girls compare themselves to their friends, or see those doctored images of celebrities and models in magazines, they feel as if they don’t measure up. You may feel as if YOU don’t measure up.

Well, that is not true!

You are unique and beautiful the way you are. But don’t just take my word for it. Take God’s.


You are fearfully and wonderfully made!” – Psalm 139

Wow! You are handmade by God…that is amazing!

Now, although in your heart you know that God’s love envelops you, God’s love maybe doesn’t feel like “enough.” It certainly doesn’t help that we are bombarded every single day with images and songs about teenage romance. No wonder so many of us feel as if we’re somehow “lacking” something if we don’t have a boyfriend! But as a fellow Christian I want to assure you that a boyfriend cannot fulfill you like Christ can! He is the one who should make you whole! 🙂

So if you ever feel sad, or down because you think you’re the only one out of your friends without a boyfriend or a date to the dance, look to the Word of God. Seek God and He will draw near to you (James 4:8) The Holy Spirit will give you peace and you will be reminded by the truth in the Word that you are valued and prized by Almighty God!

**Here is one article I wrote to remind you how special you really are, and here is another to help you change your self-talk to get to that goal! love, Nicole**

Have you ever suffered from an identity crisis?

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  1. Project Inspired

    Posted by Leya13 on March 15, 2013 at 14:20

    What do you do when you feel like you don’t know who you are? Not so much looks, but everything, like my identity as a whole. I feel like I have no clue who I am. I’ve heard stuff like the title of this page “find your identity in Christ” so I’ve been praying and reading the Bible but I’m struggling like crazy with being close to God so it doesn’t seem to help. It’s like I’m at a total standstill with Him and I don’t know what to do about it so praying doesn’t seem to be much help on this issue. Any advice on the identity thing and the God thing? Thanks!

  2. Posted by on October 11, 2011 at 14:28

    i went through something nd still am… i love myself nd i know god made me with love nd i should love myself for who i am nd how i look but i feel disguisted when i look at myself in the mirror nd look at how skinny i am. my friends say they wish they had a body like mine but im tired of being skinny i look at them nd wish i had a body like theirs! not skinny nd not too fat but just ryt nd w some chunkyness. im tired of being skinny nd nothing helps me gain weight. i hate it.

  3. Posted by on October 7, 2011 at 14:05

    This blog is a very inspiring blog for me cause all my frinds are skinny and I feel out of place. Not that they aint good friends and would stay a true friend no matter but it still gets to me. We all go to church and they tell me that i’m just the God planed me to be and I know that and I know that if I was mint to be skinnier than I would be and this blog helped me understand that better so thanks for it 🙂 !!!!!!!!!!!

    • Posted by Nicole on October 7, 2011 at 23:27

      you’re so welcome Tiffany!! God Bless you!

  4. Posted by on October 5, 2011 at 11:41

    I’m 14 years old and 1 meter 50. That’s about 10 centimetres shorter than practically all of my friends… Everytime I go shopping, I end up wasting my time because I’m just too small for most clothes. I know God made me like this and he loves me as I am, but I can’t help wishing I was 5 or 10 cm taller… 🙁

  5. Posted by on October 1, 2011 at 04:04

    Thanks and sorry I now understand thanks alot!

  6. Posted by on September 30, 2011 at 10:44

    I just shared this with a friend and it touched her so much. She said, “It means so much to me when someone takes the time to really care and pray for me.” That just gave me so much joy inside. 🙂

  7. Posted by on September 29, 2011 at 16:56

    If you only knew how much I struggle with my identity. I just want to be thin and pretty. I just want to be loved.

    • Posted by Nicole on October 8, 2011 at 13:23

      u ARE loved by God!!! that’s the most important one of all!!

  8. Posted by on September 23, 2011 at 18:58

    Yeah ive tried to reinvent my image… not that well….

  9. Posted by on September 22, 2011 at 14:14

    It’s weird for me because mostly I feel like everyone thinks I’m pretty on the outside … but I don’t feel beautiful inside, or smart either …

  10. Posted by on September 21, 2011 at 19:58

    I use to think that I wasn’t pretty enough and that my acne was the only thing that people saw when they looked at me because that’s what I would see when I looked into a mirror. I was just always looking for my imperfections and degrading myself about how I looked and would argue with people when they would compliment me. When I got into high school, or maybe the summer before, I actually started to believe that I am beautiful. And since I believed in myself and had confidence, I DID look better because of how I thought about myself, not how someone else saw me. And this year on a Wednesday night at church, my youth pastor told us to STOP calling ourselves ugly! God doesn’t make MISTAKES! And that goes with Psalm 139 🙂

    • Posted by Nicole on September 21, 2011 at 22:32

      thank you Frankie for sharing! you are such an inspiration!

  11. Posted by on September 19, 2011 at 20:11

    This is completely true! I often find myself getting discouraged about being single, or just about how pretty I am, but when I take the time to remember God, and look into His word, he always speaks to me and reminds me that I am His. I am so much happier with God than I ever was with my past boyfriend; you can’t get any better than this!

  12. Posted by on September 19, 2011 at 14:31

    Thanks so much for this! I’m have a big sister that is thinner and prettier than me and i always feel like the ugly one. This was a great reminder that we are all made in God’s image and are all beautiful in our own special way. 🙂

  13. Posted by on September 18, 2011 at 20:52

    Not exactly sure how I feel about this, but that’s just kind of ’cause my boyfriend just broke up with me and I feel like crap and can’t stop crying.

  14. Posted by on September 17, 2011 at 22:36

    I needed this… idk why but i feel like i’m useless without a guy and i need a guy to live idk why but i tend to put myself down and when an amazing guy comes along i think i have no chance…

  15. Posted by on September 17, 2011 at 14:34

    thnx for writing appreciate it!! 😉

  16. Posted by on September 17, 2011 at 10:33

    I love this Christina,I’ve been so focused on having a boyfriend that I forgot that God will give me a boyfriend when he is ready for me to have one!

  17. Posted by on September 17, 2011 at 06:27

    This article helps alot. Thank you so much for writing this!

  18. Posted by on September 16, 2011 at 19:00

    I love this, this has helped me so much 🙂

  19. Posted by on September 16, 2011 at 16:43

    Please help me! I don’t know where to go. I have the choice to change schools. I just don’t know what God’s will for my life is. In church we’ve been talking about listening and ask God what to do. Please help!

    • Posted by on September 29, 2011 at 20:44

      All you have to do is pray to god that you will make the right choice… And then just make the first choice that comes to your mind, because god put that thought there. It’ll be god’s decision. Just a little advice for tough decisions. 🙂

    • Posted by on September 23, 2011 at 22:02

      Hey phoebe! I just saw you’re comment and I wanted to tell you that I went through the exact same thing over the summer because I just moved. At first I had no idea where God wanted me, but after asking him and praying about it he lead me to a great school! Just don’t give up, he will always give you an answer in the end.

    • Posted by Nicole on September 16, 2011 at 18:01

      Phoebe- I can’t help you on this, because I don’t know your life or anything about the schools. Ask God for direction, and He WILL show you which path to take. Listen to your heart and your first instinct. THAT is God telling you what to do. Listen closely!

  20. Posted by on September 16, 2011 at 16:18

    Love this article! Thanks for posting : )

  21. Posted by on September 16, 2011 at 14:26

    I really needed to read this. God totally led me to this article. Thanks so much!

  22. Posted by on September 16, 2011 at 13:59

    So true. I hate the feeling that you don’t know who you are, that you’re missing something important. I have discovered that when i feel that way it’s because I’m not where I should be with God. Unfortunately, I’ve had that feeling all too many times, but I am finally finding myself again, through Christ.

  23. Posted by on September 16, 2011 at 13:15

    I love this.. <3 I struggle with self-esteem sometimes, and it's so hard to stop, but it's true. God made me the way I am for a reason.

  24. Posted by on September 16, 2011 at 12:39

    I’m in 7th grade and it seems like everybody isn’t necessarily “going out” per se rather than pairing up but I go to a smaller school and out of all the guys in my grade aren’t worth it. It seems like everybody is what they call “going out” even though there not really going out. But I’ve heard of people who worry so much about dating in middle and high school and it affected their grades and now they say that they now wish they could go back and start over

    • Posted by on September 18, 2011 at 07:24

      same here em… 7th grade… small school… everyone’s pairing up….. and it’s so annoying becuz when you go to a small school, when you have a good guy friend everyone says your going out……….. my bgf (best guy friend) and i went to the movies with ANOTHER GIRL TOO, but everyone seems to forget about her and say that im in love with him, when really, he’s psycho!!! and the girl he broke up with is torturing me !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ack!!!!!!!!!!

      • Posted by on September 23, 2011 at 20:01

        Don’t worry girls, you’re thinking in the right direction. Although there is nothing completely wrong with dating, you don’t need to make yourself worry about it until you really want to look for guys to marry. Being friends with guys is OK, and don’t be afraid to admit it! 🙂

  25. Posted by on September 16, 2011 at 12:19

    Thanks a lot. I needed this. It’s the first time I’ve ever heard “too thin” before. People ask me why sometimes a shopping trip is depressing for me, since I’m so skinny I should always look “fab” in anything at the store. It’s more because I can hardly ever find my size sometimes; so there’s that really cute outfit, but I can’t get it because there’s only a medium or a large. I’ve been yelled at by not liking the size I am, when honestly, sometimes I wanna be able to fill in a sweatshirt like any other girl. I’ll keep this blog in mind. Thanks again! 🙂

    • Posted by on October 11, 2011 at 14:30

      emily i understand where your coming from i feel the same way too! it sucks to not be able to fit into something bcus it fits u too big or they dnt have it in ur size. but if you keep llooking around youll find something cuter just ryt in ur size!

      • Posted by on October 11, 2011 at 14:30

        i ment sarah omg im sorry!