I really like this guy who goes to my church. He says that he doesn’t like me but he flirts with me constantly! My friends think he really does like me but won’t admit it because he’s not allowed to date. I’m so confused! What should I do?
It’s really tough when you like someone who isn’t ready to be in a relationship. Whether he doesn’t feel the same way or he’s not allowed to date, the result is still the same: The relationship is probably not going to happen and that stinks! But here are a few things to think about when it comes to relationships:
- When a guy says that he’s not ready to date (for whatever reason), it usually means he REALLY isn’t ready to date. It doesn’t feel so great when your crush isn’t crushing you back, but it’s probably best to move on. It’s not a good idea to invest emotionally in a guy who doesn’t want a relationship right now. You deserve a guy who’s able to invest back into you!
- If a guy flirts with you constantly but has indicated he doesn’t want to date, then it’s up to YOU to set limits! You were handmade by God, which makes you precious and valuable, so you shouldn’t grant someone access to your heart unless he earns it! It might be a good idea to avoid the flirting sessions altogether. When he starts flirting with you, smile politely and excuse yourself. This way your emotions stay intact and you let him know that you know your worth! If he does like you, then he’ll let you know and then you can decide if you want to wait until he is allowed to date.
- Remember, if a relationship doesn’t work out, that does NOT mean there’s anything wrong with you! It simply means he’s not the right guy for you and that your Prince Charming is still out there. So don’t be so hard on yourself (or the guy) because now you’re free to meet the guy who actually IS for you!
Relationships can be quite complicated and navigating them can be pretty confusing. Remember, every relationship may not end the way that you want, but God will send the right guy at the right time. You may want to consider courting instead of dating, because that eliminates a lot of potential heartbreak. However, whether you choose to date or wait, be sure to pray about potential relationships BEFORE moving forward! God loves you and He’ll ALWAYS guide you in the right direction!
What do you girls think? Have you ever been in this situation? What did you do?