“Help! I Struggle With Lust. How Do I Stop?”
Written by Ask Olivia | May 27, 2015
Thank you so much for looking at this. This is hard for me to talk about, but I’m going to try my best to do so. This isn’t about guys, drugs, alcohol, etc., this is about sexual morality. Okay, so you walk around and hear all about how guys are visual and that’s that…but in today’s society it is becoming acceptable to allow that to happen. But what about girls? We can look at the same things. We can be just as unpure as guys. For me, this is a HUGE struggle. I am tempted every day and that is the problem. I feel I can’t talk about it because it is so unrealistic for a girl to struggle with that.
How can I be a girl who can love and not lust? How do I get past this and get closer to God?
These are some of the questions that I think every day…because the devil tells me I AM NOT WORTHY. I am not able to be forgiven. God can’t possibly love someone who did that. And I let myself believe him. He compromises me every day. He wins.
I guess my question is: How do I as a sinner get out of this pit I’ve dug for myself?
Hey girl, thanks so much for your question. And it’s a great question.
We often wrongly believe that only boys lust. Well, that’s completely false. Girls struggle with lust often and it’s an emotion often strengthened by pop culture. Our society is so sexualized. Our movies, television programs, fiction and other forms of media are constantly bombarding us with immoral living, and celebrating it. It’s not an easy world to live in, that’s for sure. But it’s not impossible. Nothing is impossible with God. And that’s the point!
Yes, girls do lust. And the rules that apply to boys also apply to girls. Stay away from it all.
I will not set before my eyes
anything that is base.
I hate the work of those who fall away;
it shall not cling to me. (Psalm 101:3)
As for Satan, I urge you not to allow evil to dictate your thoughts. It’s a dangerous position to put yourself in. You know God’s Truth. You have to know, because you know that Satan is lying. So, why are you listening to him? You know he’s trying to destroy you. You know that God is stronger. The reality is that you decide who you should listen to, and you have the strength and the will to follow one over the other. Why pick Satan when God wants to build you up and guide you to heaven?
So, here’s what I think you should do:
- Decide who’s guiding you in your life. Who are you going to listen to? If you choose God, then shut Satan out. Ignore him. Every time you allow his word to interrupt your thoughts, call out to Jesus. Speak over Satan to the Lord and block the evil out. Every time Satan tries to speak, allow that to prompt a conversation with the Lord.
- Read “7 Truths About Lust” if you haven’t already. I really think that this will help you put things in better perspective. The comments below are also a great reminder that you’re not alone in struggling with lust. But that doesn’t give you permission to continue with it.
- Turn away from all the things that cause you to lust. You have a responsibility to control yourself. Control what you’re looking at, whether it’s the type of shows or movies you’re watching or the kind of books you’re reading. Stay away from people who cause you to stumble.
- Find strength in the Lord. I’m sure you’re familiar with 1 Corinthians 10:13. Reread it and remind yourself again that you’re not alone, and also that with God, you can overcome all temptation.
Good luck and God bless!
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