There’s this guy I used to like, in fact, he was my first crush. But eventually it got to be very unhealthy and I had to end it, but now he won’t leave me alone. I feel like maybe he doesn’t know it’s over for good. What do I do?
Hey girl! Thanks for the question–this is truly a tough one.
I would be interested to know how you broke it off with him when you ended it. Were you clear that it was over for good? Or did you just brush him off, ignore his calls or tell him it’s over through a friend? It’s really not easy breaking it off with a guy, especially if he still likes you, so you want to be sure that you made it clear to him!
Another question I have is how he’s bothering you. Is it making you uncomfortable? Are you afraid of him? If he’s just annoying, but you think you can talk to him, then I suggest you sit him down–somewhere public–and lay it out straight and clear.
- Tell him or remind him that you’re breaking it off. Be very clear with your words. “I just don’t think it’s working” is too ambiguous for someone who wants to make it work. It suggests that if he tries hard enough, he may be able to succeed…which isn’t true!
- Be kind and compassionate. He may be heartbroken!
- Do not suggest that you want to stay friends. That’s way too awkward and he’ll think the door’s still open to get back together!
- Make sure he understands that it’s over.
If you think he might take it badly, or if you’re afraid of him, get an adult to speak with him or be present when you talk to him.
I really pray it all works out for you. God bless and good luck!
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