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How (and Why!) to Be a Christian Who Says “No,” by PI Girl Melanie

I’ve been a Christian all my life, but around the age of 14, I decided to ignore God. My logic was that I would have fun, then when I was older I would repent and go to heaven, getting the “best of both worlds.” All my school friends were (and still are) not Christians, so we would plan to drink, skip school and generally have ungodly thoughts.

Then, this year, I went to an amazing youth conference called Soul Survivor. God really spoke to me during that time; and there were amazing seminars, preachers and praying, during which I could feel and see the Holy Spirit working in the crowd. At that moment, I knew I needed to turn my life around and live every day for Jesus. I found these Bible verses really good confirmation of that and a good guide for how we are expected to live our lives as children of Christ.

Hebrews 11:25-26:

Choosing rather to be mistreated with the people of God than to enjoy the fleeting pleasures of sin. He considered the reproach of Christ greater wealth than the treasures of Egypt, for he was looking to the reward.

Ecclesiastes 12:1:

Don’t let the excitement of youth cause you to forget your Creator. Honor him in your youth before you grow old and say ‘life is not pleasant anymore.’

Unfortunately, even though you may change, the world around you stays the same. My friends still expect me to want to drink and to sin in many other ways. I am tempted every day to join in with gossiping and to go out with them on Friday nights instead of to youth group. I struggle so much with discussing my faith, and I pray every night that God will allow me to declare myself as a Christian openly, something I am terrified of.

However, there is something I am going to do right now. I am saying “no.” I am saying “no” to the devil. I am saying “no” to the expectations and rules of our shallow society. I am saying “no” to temptation. I am saying “no,” I don’t need a boyfriend. “No,” I will not have sex before marriage. “No,” I do not want to be mean to that girl. “No,” I do not need to drink to have fun.

I encourage every one of you to join me and say “No.” It will be hard. You will fail, but God will forgive you every time and pick you back up again. You will be recognized as a Christian by your actions as well as your words, and especially if you are like me, saying “no” can be a real blessing.

Proverbs 3:5-6 ESV:

Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths.

How to Say “No!”

Here are some tips to saying “no” and some things I will be making an extra effort to say “No” to. It will be super hard to just cut everything out of your life at once, so ask God what you need to change in your life right now and try to focus on them so you aren’t overwhelmed.

Say “No” to Immodesty

I love love love this post https://www.projectinspired.com/faith-saver-what-christian-guys-think-about-modesty/ and was so challenged when I read it. Seriously, read it right now. I never knew about the temptation guys face when girls are immodest, especially because their brains are so different from ours.

How? Choose your guidelines. The Rebelution Modesty Survey is a great way to help us understand what tempts guys the most. I have resolved every morning to ask myself why I am wearing what I am wearing and if I will be a temptation. Also, be praying for guys and their struggles and that God will open your eyes to how what you wear affects others.

Say “No” to Dating Around

I want to marry my best friend. I don’t know who that is, but I can’t think of anyone better to spend the rest of my life with. I also believe that going too far with guys will negatively affect any future relationships. So basically, less is more. I will only date a Christian, I want to have been good friends with him first and I will take it sloowwww.

Don’t say “yes” to every guy who asks you out, girls. Pray. Make sure you have an excellent relationship with God first, and make sure if you do go out, you set boundaries. Trust me, it will be worth it.

Say “No” to Underage Drinking

This a tough one for me. There is so much peer pressure and I hate missing out on things. But the Bible specifically says to follow the laws of the land, and underage drinking is against the law. I also know that I am probably one of the only Christians my friends know, so they will be judging every Christian based on me. Scary, right?

How? Try to avoid these tricky situations. Find a sober buddy. Explain to your friends you don’t want to drink. Volunteer to be the driver.

General Tips for Saying “No”

For pretty much everything, make sure you PRAY! Pray always: When you are happy, sad and especially in situations of temptation.

Hang out with Christian people. It is so hard when you have no one to talk to about your faith. Go to church, youth group, camp conventions and make friends.

Have someone to be accountable to. Get someone you can trust (preferably Christian), and explain what you are trying to do. Promise to be completely honest with them. This way they can pray with and for you, encourage you and you will always know you have to explain your actions to them in the end.

Good luck everyone, God bless and say “no!”

Written by PI Girl Melanie

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  1. Project Inspired

    Posted by BeMyLoveStory on June 21, 2013 at 02:22

    I agree with saying no to all these things except underage drinking. I mean, does the bible itself directly condemn drinking? Because I think when this man in the Bible was feeling sad about a loss he was offered wine to feel better. And God says to follow the set rules, which is the law, but not all laws set around the world are exactly right or fair, and different places have different or even contradictory laws, so which laws would God want us to follow? Suddenly I travel to a different place on the map and what’s right and wrong changes? It doesn’t. I don’t see how underage drinking is a bad thing as long as it doesn’t negatively affect our choices.

  2. hannah1997

    Posted by hannah1997 on June 20, 2013 at 11:39

    I absolutely LOVE the website you put up (the rebulution one). I found the section of some of the answers and they are SUCH a great encouragement to me!! I must consantly remember to be modest for my sweet Christian brothers!

  3. ali2018

    Posted by ali2018 on June 6, 2013 at 18:10

    I loved this!! Great inspiration. ❤

  4. olburrows

    Posted by olburrows on June 4, 2013 at 17:38

    Terrific article! I need to remember to say no to more things and not allow myself to be walked on like a doormat by non-believers (even believers at times). Keep it up and stay strong, Melanie! It will all pay off in the end! God bless you!

  5. Project Inspired

    Posted by Joyfulnotes on June 3, 2013 at 22:08

    This is so encouraging. You are wise beyond your years! I am going to take this challenge with you. As I enter college soon, I want to have the courage to say “no” to the temptations of the world. We are no longer of the world, and we are more than conquerors in Christ Jesus!

  6. Greatest is Love

    Posted by Greatest is Love on June 3, 2013 at 21:56

    Such an encouragement. Thank you SOOOOOOOOO much!!!!!!

  7. sisterwhocares

    Posted by sisterwhocares on June 3, 2013 at 12:12

    Wonderful advice!! I know that this will definitely help a lot of girls, including me 🙂 God bless!

  8. leahgrace99

    Posted by leahgrace99 on June 3, 2013 at 05:12

    Thank you so much for this post! Super encouraging!

  9. PumpkinGirl

    Posted by PumpkinGirl on June 2, 2013 at 20:58

    This is just an amazing post! I LOVED it!

  10. Jesus_chick_529

    Posted by Jesus_chick_529 on June 2, 2013 at 20:29

    WELL WRITTEN/SAID! I too, follow these rules, except since I’m Catholic I will only date other Catholics. but as for the rest, im 100% there!

  11. bluedog14

    Posted by bluedog14 on June 2, 2013 at 16:47

    Thank you so much!!!! This is such great encouragement! I also have chosen to say no to all the things you have, sometimes it’s SOOO hard, but when I think of eternal rewards its nothing compared to what we will receive!! I strongly suggest that everyone got to the Rebelution website and look at their modesty survey, it’ is so convicting and helpful!! Also, they have a book, Do Hard Things, it’s a really great book!
    Thanks again for this post!