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    “How Can I Avoid Temptation?”

    My boyfriend and I sometimes go a little too far when we’re together. What can I do to avoid temptation?

    Temptation is something everyone experiences at one point or another in life. The GREAT thing is that God won’t allow the enemy to trap you without a way out. The Bible says this:

    “The temptations in your life are no different from what others experience. And God is faithful. He will not allow the temptation to be more than you can stand. When you are tempted, He will show you a way out so that you can endure” (1 Corinthians 10:13).

    It’s awesome to know that God will always show us how to resist temptation! Here are a few tips to help in this particular life area:

    • Make a commitment. Be sure to commit to staying pure in your relationships. Avoiding temptation begins with making a firm decision to not have sex before you’re married. Make sure your relationship with God comes first because your motive should ALWAYS be to please Him no matter what! Not wanting to hurt God will help motivate you to stay true to your decision. And if you’re really serious about it, try wearing a purity ring to symbolize this commitment. Also, it’s important to know that if you’ve already gone a little too far in your relationships, it’s NEVER too late to commit to waiting until marriage!
    • Try dating in groups. Spending a lot of time with your boyfriend alone isn’t a good idea. The Bible says that “the spirit is willing, but the body is weak” (Matthew 26:41). Therefore, even after making a commitment to remain pure, it’s still important to avoid situations where temptation is likely to occur. Instead of spending a lot of time alone with your boyfriend, try going out with other couples whenever possible. Group dates can be really fun–try some of these great group date suggestions!
    • Remove yourself from the situation. There may be times when you and your boyfriend are alone and temptation presents itself. It’s best to immediately remove yourself when this begins to happen. Go outside for a walk to get a breath of fresh air. Decide to go watch a movie with friends or go to the theater instead of watching TV at home. Or better yet, pull out the Bible and turn your date into a Bible Study. Do anything, but be sure to remove yourself from the temptation.
    • Ask God for strength. The MOST IMPORTANT thing you can do to resist temptation is to rely on God for strength. Pray with your boyfriend often, especially before situations where temptation is likely to present itself. Remember, Jesus says that “for where two or three gather together as my followers, I am there among them” (Matthew 18:20). When you pray together, the enemy has less power and you become more cognizant of avoiding pitfalls. Also, be sure to memorize Scripture that you can use when you feel temptation is trying to come on board. Say it aloud until the enemy begins to flee.
    • Love yourself! Always remember that you’re a daughter of God and are so precious in His sight! Value yourself enough to wait until you’re married before having sex. It’ll be so much more special when the union is holy before God!

    What do you girls think? How do you avoid temptation? What are some other things that she could do?

    Aysha Ives
    Aysha Ives loves God with her whole heart and has a desire to help hurting people. With a Masters Degree in Psychology, she combines her education and experience with her love for God to help people live whole and fulfilled lives. Aysha is an Author, Mental Health Provider, Youth Church Teacher, and the mother of one gifted little boy whom she absolutely adores. Aysha is honored to be able to share her love of God with Project Inspired readers. Aysha is also the author of God Cares About Your Stuff: How To Believe For Tomorrow When Things Look Utterly, Completely, And Totally Impossible Today, released February 2013- Available at Amazon.

    23 COMMENTS

    1. another good thing to remember is to dress modestly to spare your boyfriend’s eyes from too much skin. it doesn’t seem like a big deal to us girls, but it can drive the guys crazy if we dress scantily

    2. What if you don’t have any friends that are dating? My boyfriend and I would love a change of scene, and we like the idea of group dates. Its not like we’re super young or anything- we will both be seniors this year, we just don’t seem to have any friends who are in relationships at the moment!

    3. Amen! My boyfriend and I avoid temptation by praying together before we get in the situation. Remember though, when you like someone a lot, temptation can occur buuuuut if there’s more temptation than actually following God, evaluate the relationship. My last boyfriend only wanted me for one thing, and I can now say I realize that. Don’t be oblivious to sin or if a boy is just using you. I wrote a poem about a related subject, self worth. If you’re interested, check it out at http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oad7eaqaxf4 ! God bless girls ! I love you all but Jesus loves you more.

    4. I love this. Another thing I do to avoid temptation is to read scripture daily. When I read about how prophets and ordinary people handled their temptation, it is suddenly easier to put it into action in my own life.

    5. I have a very unusual way of avoiding temptation(:
      I’m only fifteen, and I’ve decided (through an example of a girl named Stephanie Buckmaster, whose story I read in Dannah Gresh’s book “What’re You Waiting For?”) that I’m not going to date until I’m eighteen. This is partially due to a relationship I was in, where I made some really bad choices. It’s also partially because I believe the purpose of “dating” is to see if you eventually want to get married, and I can’t get married before I’m eighteen! When I’ve dated in the past, I try to take everything into my own hands. So I’m waiting until after my eighteenth birthday, to let things happen in God’s timing. I’m letting him write my love story.

        • I agree that dating should be what happens before marriage, not just dating for fun. I am planning on dating in high school (after I turn 15) but only because I think it would be okay to date someone while in high school then get married when we turn 18, assuming God could have this in mind for me. That’s what happened to my parents. They got married on my mom’s 18th birthday (my dad is 6 months older than her) and have been married for 29 years.

    6. i think this is great advice Aysha ! (: my boyfriend & i are actually in a long-distance relationship, but the both of us are still pursuing purity in our relationship. for the longest time, i was addicted to masturbating. it was something that i felt really ugly about myself. & i would beat myself up for that sin. but God is good ! He freed me from my sins, & made me new. what i find so incredible about His works is that He helped inspire my boyfriend to become pure too. we both wear purity rings as a couple. it symbolizes as our promise to God that we will stay pure for God, until marriage.

      • Thanks for leaving your comment! I have struggled with that as well for a long time, and still do. It is a very addicting and enslaving habit! That’s awesome that you and your boyfriend both wear purity rings. 🙂

        • I have also struggled with masturbation in the past but God helped me defeat it! Good luck to you and your boyfriend!

    7. Not dating until you are really ready (like when God tells you your ready) is a really good idea when it comes to relationships. When you are physically, emotionally, and spiritually ready it makes it easier to avoid temptation. I know that I have made the commitment not to date until I am out of high school which avoids some of that temptation. I also wear a purity ring…those are just a few of my suggestions!

      • I love that you’re waiting until you’re out of highschool to date, and wearing a purity ring of course. I wear one, and I would love to have a boyfriend. (I’m a senior this year, and will graduate in May). However, I think it’s best to wait till I graduate, and pray about things like this. This was so encouraging to see 🙂

      • I made the same commitment and plan to stick to it! I don’t want to date just for fun, but as a way to get to know someone whom I think would make a good husband. And I myself have to be ready, to take care of a husband, a house, kids. Since at 15, I’m not ready for that yet, there’s no point in dating. And I had a purity ring, but sadly, I lost it. (I’m a gymnast, and I can’t wear it during practice. I put it in my bag, and apparently there was a hole in the corner I didn’t notice 🙁 ) I was devastated! But as I said, I am still holding very strongly to my beliefs, purity ring or no purity ring. I just wish I hadn’t lost it, so I could show everyone the promise I made to God.

    8. My boyfriend and I aren’t actually allowed to “date” yet, so we usually spend time with friends, siblings, or ‘alone’ at one of our houses, like in the livingroom. As much as we’d love to be alone sometimes, I am kind of grateful we’re never in a situation where we could be seriously tempted like that. We’ve also decided that we aren’t going to kiss for a while, because we don’t want to be tempted to go farther.

    9. I think the biggest thing is to set up boundaries to avoid tempting situations. I have my own boundaries which include no kissing on the lips. Pray for God to help you keep your commitments. Also, try not to be alone with a boy. Always have someone with you so you are not tempted to go too far. Lastly, know what could make you go too far. If you can hold hands with a guy and have sexual desires or lust then you probably shouldn’t hold hands. Always remember that a boy is either your father, brother in Christ, or husband. Assuming that your boyfriend is not your father or husband, you should treat him like you would treat your brother. I would strongly recommend not making out with boys or cuddling too much with boys.

    10. This is the main reason I don’t want to be in a relationship now. I feel like it’s so hard to find guys who have the same beliefs as you, let alone ones who are vocal about it. I’ve never dated anyone before, and there’s this guy that might like me now. I’m not sure what to do because I want a relationship bad, but I know the temptation’s going to be there.

    11. We are left with holes in our hearts; a yearning in our souls to be accepted and loved unconditionally.
      No human’s love can fill that hole. Only Jesus’ love can. The #1 Man of our lives.
      Jesus understands your value and loves you completely. Warts and all. He died for you to see how valued you are in His eyes, and rose to prove that His love won’t go away and is greater than death itself.
      So make sure you understand your value and that the man you are with understands your value too.
      All things physical are worth the wait, because you are worth the wait. Jesus promises.

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