Every week, I go through the “Girl Talk” section of Project Inspired and look for those seeking advice and counsel. I want to help answer some questions you may have about living out your Christian life and walk of faith! We want PI to be a safe place where you can ask questions.
This week, a PI Girl asked how she can begin to see herself the way God sees her and how to have a God-confidence.
“How do I go about building up my confidence? My friends tell me all the time that I’m pretty, but it’s just kind of one of those things where I’m pretty sure they’re just saying it because they have to…how do I change my perception of beauty to fit God’s?” (To read the full post, click here.)
This is a great question, and a very common issue for many teens and even adults. Having a healthy self-image, self-esteem and God-confidence can be difficult in our culture. With the bombardment of provocative magazines and other media, and constant pressure to look beautiful, we need a reminder that not only has God created you, but he knit you in your mother’s womb for a mighty purpose and for God’s glory! (Jeremiah 1:5; Psalm 139:13-14)
How can we have a God-confidence and own our true beauty? Here are some helpful pieces of advice.
1. Know who you are in Christ: Our identity isn’t in the world, but it is about having inner beauty—a Christ-like character and attitude.
“Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.” —1 Peter 3:3-4
2. Know the Bible and who God says you are: God molded you and shaped you for divine purpose. Even before you were born, He set you apart if you are a believer and He wrote down every day of your life before it came to being. You are God’s PRINCESS!
“But you are a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, God’s special possession, that you may declare the praises of him who called you out of darkness into his wonderful light.” —1 Peter 2:9
3. Know how blessed you are: Many of us are WAY too critical of our flaws! You should embrace your uniqueness and realize you are blessed. There are some people who are blind, or have cancer, are sick or have other handicaps…we should never take life for granted! Let us be thankful!
“I will praise the name of God with song, and shall magnify Him with thanksgiving.” —Psalm 69:30
4. Ask God for Godly confidence, not pride: Prayer is key to anything we may struggle with. Let us ask our Father, who gives generously to us, to guide us in our ways and to remove the lies of the enemy. Satan wants to steal, kill and destroy you (John 10:10), but Jesus comes to give an abundant, full LIFE. Let us ask for a GOD-CONFIDENCE, not arrogance, so we can lead others to the truth.
“For the Lord will be your confidence, And will keep your foot from being caught.” —Proverbs 3:26
PI Girls, do these tips help? Also, do you have any advice on how to be thankful and have a “God-girl confidence”? Comment below! We love you, PI Girls!