“How Can I Become More Sensitive to the Holy Spirit?”

    Recently I’ve been learning a lot of new things about the Holy Spirit, and it’s been really cool. In our faith, it’s easy to let the Holy Spirit fall by the wayside. We tend to focus on “the big guys” of the Trinity: God and Jesus. Jesus is like the rock star of the Christian faith, but the truth is, we would be powerless and lost as Christians if we didn’t have the Holy Spirit to lead, guide and reveal things to us. It’s the Holy Spirit who gives us power as followers of Christ, but we’re supposed to be in regular communication with Him.

    Often, I hear you girls talk about not feeling close to God or not hearing His voice. Well, when we talk about hearing the voice of God, we’re actually talking about hearing the Holy Spirit. If you aren’t hearing the Holy Spirit, ask yourself, “Who’s the focus of my relationship?”

    Our relationship with the Holy Spirit needs to be on His terms. We don’t get to dictate the terms of our intimate relationship with God’s spirit. We have to meet the Holy Spirit according to His desires. One way we can do this is by becoming more sensitive to the Holy Spirit’s feelings—what makes Him sad and what makes Him glad.

    It isn’t just anything that makes the Holy Spirit glad or sad. The Bible tells us exactly what saddens and gladdens the Holy Spirit. Ephesians 4:17-32 has a lot to say about this. Here are a few examples.

    • Hardened hearts make the Holy Spirit sad. Having a hardened heart means having a calloused heart. I’m learning to play the guitar right now, but I’m sure Christi could tell you that guitar players develop callouses on their fingers from practicing. Callouses cause your fingers to lose sensitivity. Is there anything in your life that has caused you to be less sensitive? For me, that thing is TV. I’ve realized lately that some of the things I watch on television have caused me to be less sensitive to things that should break my heart the way they break God’s heart. What can you do to help your spirit become sensitive again?
    • Lying makes the Holy Spirit sad, but it makes Him glad when we tell the truth!
    • Stealing makes Him sad, but when we work hard and give generously, we make Him glad.
    • When we use “foul or abusive language” (Eph. 4:29) or when we use our words to hurt people more than love them, the Holy Spirit grieves. But He is glad when our words are good and helpful to others, when they’re used for encouragement.

    If we want to get to know the Holy Spirit better, we need to know what makes Him happy and what makes Him sad. We need to change the things in our lives that have caused us to be less sensitive to the hurt and pain in others. The reason we sometimes have a hard time hearing the Holy Spirit isn’t because He isn’t there or doesn’t want to talk to us. We don’t hear Him because we’ve set things in the way between us and Him, or we’re living our lives in ways that make Him sad.

    And do not bring sorrow to God’s Holy Spirit by the way you live. Remember, He has identified you as His own, guaranteeing that you will be saved on the day of redemption. Get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words, and slander, as well as all types of evil behavior. Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you. —Ephesians 4:30-32

    Girls, what could you change in your life that would make the Holy Spirit glad and help you hear His voice better?

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    Jenn Arman
    Jenn Arman is a youth pastor, freelance writer and blogger. She was born in San Diego, California and raised 2 hours north east in the Inland Empire where she lives with her husband David and their cats. Jenn desires to bring glory to God and a healthy dose of reality to Christians through both writing and preaching. Visit for more on her work. You can also connect with her on and


    1. I really enjoy these posts!

      Recently there has been a part in the bible that I am really struggling with! It’s about the unforgivable sin. I just don’t understand how God can be all forgiving yet there is still one sin that he will not forgive. Doesn’t His grace cover ALL your sin?
      If you could respond or make an article or whatever on this I would be super duper thankful! ;D Thanks so much for reading!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    2. I’m not really that sensitive towards other people. For example, I have a friend who tells me some things about herself that are sad (and that I probably shouldn’t reveal) and I don’t really have a reaction… And that’s annoying because she needs a friend, but my heart is so used to hearing things like that that it doesn’t make me feel very sad, and I want to be the friend that she needs…

      • That’s a sad problem! Maybe you should pray for sensitivity. Also, try to put yourself in HER position, try to understand where she is coming from and, maybe that will make you more sensitive to her plight.

      • I have that problem too. Lots of my friend’s problems I have a very suck it up and deal with it attitude, because that’s how *I* would approach the situation…. but that’s not what they need, but sometimes I just have a hard time being sympathetic with some things. Other things I don’t really, though, like close friends who don’t complain often when they have problems, or people going through things I have as well. It’s sad though when my usually very cheerful friends and friends with few problems go through hard times.

      • Sha566 – I read a great thing to help with that. Since God, Jesus and the Holy Spirit are 3 in 1 don’t feel weird for praying to one in one instance and another a different time, but the best thing to remember is this: God initiates, Jesus administrates and the Holy Spirit manifests. So when you feel that something needs to begin, like if you know you need to forgive someone pray that God would get the process started in your heart.

        Jesus administrates that means He organizes things. So when you’re praying for specific situations to work out a certain way I would direct more prayers toward Jesus.

        The Holy Spirit manifests this means that He takes the will of God and Jesus and makes it real, He makes it solid. Think about creation. God spoke the words but the Holy Spirit actually caused the waters to recede and reveal dry land. The Holy Spirit is the breath that gave life to Adam. The Holy Spirit formed the bodies of the animals that God spoke into existence. Need to see healing manifested in someone’s life, this is who I talk to about that. If I need to understand the Bible, I ask the Holy Spirit to help.

        When all else fails, just pray. It doesn’t matter if you say God, Jesus or Holy Spirit. I believe that God will make sure your prayer gets to the right place. 🙂

      • Romans 8:26-In the same way, the Spirit helps us in our weakness. We do not know what we ought to pray for, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us with groans that words cannot express.
        Philippians 4:6-Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.
        –When Jesus breathed His last breath on the cross, the temple veil was torn. This was because we no longer need the veil between us and God. We have Jesus as our mediator, who “bridges” us together with God. hebrews 7:25 It’s why you may hear people end their prayers with “In Jesus’s Name.” He is the way, the truth, and the life, No one comes to the Father but through Him. (John 14:6)
        When Jesus left for Heaven, he left the Holy Spirit to indwell in us. The Holy Spirit is God residing in us. He moves in us, helping us to make the right decisions, counseling us in the scriptures, giving us the words that we need in prayer and to those around us who ask about the hope we have in Jesus. Matthew 10:19 “do not worry about what to say or how to say it. At that time you will be given what to say,”
        Ephesians 5:20, Colossians 3:17 And whatever you do, whether in word or deed, do it all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him. Philippians 4:6 Fret not about anything, but in everything, by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known unto God.

        “Dear Lord, Thank you for this day and everything you have given me. Thank you for your salvation given to me by your grace I do not deserve it, but you give it to me freely. I ask that grow and build up sha566 in You. I pray that you grant her wisdom and knowledge of knowing you more. I pray that as I read your word, your Holy Spirit would be moving in me to guide me and help me in understanding your word. Thank you again for just everything that you do for me and loving me first. I pray this, in Jesus name, Amen. ” – –Also, model prayer as given by Jesus Himself-Matthew 6:5-14

        I hope all of this helps. : ) Remember, if you have a question, look to His word. Acts 17:11 – Be like the Bereans, seeing if what anyone including myself ever say is true to the scriptures. <33

    3. This really touched me! Can you do a whole article on softening a hardened heart? Over the years I have been so hurt that I am no longer sensitive to other people’s feelings or my own (other than anger!). It would mean so much if you would write an article ministering to people like me who are longing for healing but can’t seem to reach it…

      • Yes! I would really appreciate an article like that too.

        I’ve been doing better recently as I’m attending Word of Life Bible Institute which is just an amazing place that God is using to work in my life and bring me closer to Him. “What do you think? If a man owns a hundred sheep, and one of them wanders away, will he not leave the ninety-nine on the hills and go to look for the one that wandered off?”Matthew 18:12 He has certainly done that with me. His love never fails, He never gives up. Thank goodness! : D

        But I still really would like to see an article on this. It would really really help out a lot. : )

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