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“How Can I Have a Pure Heart?”

Every week, I go through the “Girl Talk” section of Project Inspired and look for those seeking advice and counsel. I want to help answer some questions you may have about living out your Christian life and walk of faith! We want PI to be a safe place where you can ask questions. 

Living in a culture that’s filled with many secular images, pushes lust and adultery, and isn’t as conservative as it once was can be difficult as a believer striving for purity. There are many different things pulling at us, such as technology, TV, films, magazines, messages, music and other distractions. As many of you know, here at Project Inspired, we try to encourage you girls to be modest and live a more conservative lifestyle.

David, who wrote most of the Psalms, asks the Lord in Psalm 51, verse 10:

“Create in me a clean heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me.”

Another scripture that’s powerful regarding our lives, thoughts and behaviors pertains to how we think. That’s why what we watch, listen to and read is so vital and can affect our thinking. It says in the Bible:

Present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable to God, which is your reasonable service. And do not be conformed to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind…” —Romans 12:1-2

How can we have a pure heart? Here are some points to guide us on the path to purity.

1. Seek God: Like David, we can ask God to give us a pure heart. Worship draws us near to God. We need to ask God to forgive us for anything we have said, done or have hidden in our heart that is not of God or is displeasing to Him. We all fall short of the glory of God, but repentance and praise are key. (Psalm 51:10, Romans 3:23, Isaiah 53:6)

2. Guard Your Heart and Mind: Let us refrain from watching inappropriate or tempting films or TV shows that may cause us to stumble in our walk. God tells us to guard our heart, for out of it come forth the issues of life. (Proverbs 4:23, Psalm 1)

3. Stay Close to Those in Christ: Find a sister in the Lord who can help pray with you when you struggle, or find a more mature mentor in the Lord. The Bible tells us iron sharpens iron, which means we as believers keep each other on point and can help one another when we struggle or fall. (Proverbs 27:17)

4. Focus on Things Above: The Bible tells us to focus on whatever is pure and holy, and God tells us to be Holy as His children because He is Holy. If we come from Him, we will be like Him; if we are of the world, we will look like the world. No one is perfect, but it’s encouraging and a great reminder to strive for godliness and righteousness! (Philippians 4:8)

Dear friends, I urge you, as aliens and strangers in the world, to abstain from sinful desires, which war against your soul.” —1 Peter 2:11

In the book Every Young Woman’s Battle: Guarding Your Mind, Heart, and Body in a Sex-Saturated World by Arterburn & Ethridge, it says on page 177:


Wow, so good! Let us remember to guard our hearts, beautiful ones!

PI Girls, do you desire to be pure? Do you think it’s difficult in this culture to maintain a godly lifestyle? Comment below on how we can be praying for you! We love you! 

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  1. MereMere

    Posted by MereMere on February 20, 2014 at 18:03

    Sometimes I wonder what my future husband will be like? And like my first kiss..Is that the same thing?

  2. 19ChildOfGod96

    Posted by 19ChildOfGod96 on January 22, 2014 at 03:26

    I needed to see this, amazing post!

  3. Project Inspired

    Posted by slcromer on January 10, 2014 at 17:14

    The sad part is that not only does society push immodesty and being unpure on in multiple ways but those of us who are actively working to maintain that purity and modesty are seen as “weird” and not normal. I would encourage y’all to check out Sadie Robertson’s line of Dad Approved Prom Dresses for more ideas on how to dress cute while being modest as well as the youtube channel The New Different that Sadie is a part of.

  4. Kstrout

    Posted by Kstrout on October 27, 2013 at 18:48

    After a bad relationship and the ability to forgive myself, even though I did nothing wrong. I am pledging to be pure from now on.

  5. ihart

    Posted by ihart on October 24, 2013 at 13:53

    Every Young Woman’s Battle: Guarding Your Mind, Heart, and Body in a Sex-Saturated World is a great book. It really helped me to take my hunger for purity and really place it in my heart!

  6. Project Inspired

    Posted by mimes74 on October 20, 2013 at 12:10


  7. Sydney_Andrews

    Posted by Sydney_Andrews on October 17, 2013 at 11:41

    Don’t tell I’m weird or anything but ya’ll know how guys think, right? Like whenever a girl dresses immodestly they get thoughts? That happens to me when I I see super cute guys or even guys at the beach with their shirts off (lol yea…). Whenever I feel that way, I think of 2 Timothy 2:22, “So flee youthful passions and pursue righteousness, faith, love, and peace, along with those who call on the Lord from a pure heart.” It really helps me a lot and I struggle with it daily, so, yea. 🙂 Just thought I would share that for anybody who feels the same way. 🙂

    • NerdyChick334

      Posted by NerdyChick334 on October 20, 2013 at 01:06

      Yep, it’s just a matter of self control and focus on Jesus rather than just sex. I mean, it’s natural to have attraction, but when that leads to obsession or objectification of another person’s body, that’s what God dislikes.

    • shine4Jesus

      Posted by shine4Jesus on October 19, 2013 at 17:35

      Thanks sydney!!!! This was a helpful hint!!! So true!!!

  8. ElvenPrincess

    Posted by ElvenPrincess on October 14, 2013 at 17:08

    This article was such an encouragement to me. It’s so hard to stay pure — in multiple respects — in our culture nowadays…

  9. Publicpassion

    Posted by Publicpassion on October 14, 2013 at 15:27

    It is so hard being pure. I’ve always longed for a pure lifestyle, and that book helped me explain to others why!

  10. Project Inspired

    Posted by MissMajorHot on October 14, 2013 at 11:22

    I soooo needed this. I’ve been praying for a pure heart for a long time. I can sometimes see the darkness in my heart in heart in my dreams at night. It scares me, but I realize that that is what God sees and I understand why he wouldn’t want to live in me. This also helps me remember that I should treat me heart like a temple.