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“How Do I Start a Conversation About God?”

Hey girls! This week, we’re continuing our series on sharing the gospel. In my opinion, the hardest part about sharing the gospel is starting a conversation about God. This may not be tough for everyone, but it is for me—it can feel awkward.

I believe this awkward feeling comes most often when we try to evangelize people with whom we have little or no relationship. It’s difficult to start a conversation with a stranger about anything, but it’s especially hard to talk about God.

What we need to understand is that we can’t rush the God conversation. An important discussion requires time, patience and trust. So first, I want to give you a few tips to remember in order to have an effective conversation about God.

  • Pray! If you want to have a meaningful talk about God, then you can’t neglect this step. The Holy Spirit needs to be a part of the conversation, so make sure you pray.
  • Don’t rush. People need the Holy Spirit to work on softening their hearts before they’re ready to commit their lives to God, and that takes time. Don’t expect to have the full God conversation (from introduction to salvation) in 15 minutes because for some people it takes years.
  • Be gentle and respectful. Remember, this isn’t high-pressure sales. You aren’t trying to force God onto someone. You’re trying to show them that the God of the universe loves them deeply.
  • Know your stuff! People are going to ask questions. You need to be ready to answer them. The only way to do this is by spending regular time praying and reading your Bible. If someone asks a question that you simply don’t know how to answer, admit that you don’t know. Then write that question down and tell the person that you’ll find out. Make sure to follow through so that you build trust with that person.
  • Listen more than you talk. Jesus spent a lot of time listening to the needs and problems of others. If we want to show people who Jesus is, then we need to do what Jesus did.
  • Be ready to share YOUR story. Remember, to a nonbeliever, the Bible is just a collection of made-up stories. Don’t expect to have a meaningful God conversation if you aren’t willing to share specific things that God has done in your life. If God has helped you overcome an addiction, share that. If you used to be a cutter and God has helped or is helping you stop, show your scars as proof that God can heal. Your story will share the gospel better than any other words you could think up.

Some nonbelievers will always make a God conversation seem awkward, but here are a few conversation starters you can use to steer the discussion God’s way.

  • Offer to pray for a friend in need. When you’re finished praying, ask her if she understands that God really does want to handle all of her problems for her.
  • Invite the person to your youth group or another fun Christian youth event, and let your pastor handle the evangelizing.
  • Answer the question “If you could ask God one question, what would you ask Him?” Give your answer first and then ask what question they would ask. You could also ask what they would say if God asked why He should let them into Heaven, but always give your answer first and then ask for their answer—that way they don’t feel like they’re being put on the spot.
  • Ask them what they think happens when we die. Be careful with this conversation starter, though; I wouldn’t recommend using this question with someone who’s recently lost a loved one.

Girls, my final pieces of advice are don’t get angry and don’t become discouraged. Refuse to allow yourself to be drawn into a fight about Christianity. You’re trying to show God’s love, not fight over who’s right and who’s wrong. Remember the Bible says that some will reject the gospel. God has given us free will so that we can choose, and some will choose to reject God. Don’t get discouraged if you never see someone come to Christ; it may be that you’re only the seed planter.

You are the light of the world. A town built on a hill cannot be hidden.” –Matthew 5:14

Girls, do you have any tips for starting a conversation about God?

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  1. SunshineGurl

    Posted by SunshineGurl on May 27, 2017 at 20:44

    Someone told me once, to ask “What is your story?” It makes things deep really fast, but most people, especially hurting ones who need Jesus, want a listening ear. I’ve tried this and it really can open a door for sincere prayer and ministry.

  2. bradylove44

    Posted by bradylove44 on March 13, 2016 at 06:11

    I think under the respect point you also needed to mention that if a person is strong in their beliefs and really doesn’t appreciate the conversion attempt— then drop it. Just remember how you’d feel if you met a stranger who was a nonbeliever and they were constantly, not-so-subtly trying to start a conversation about how god’s not real, even after you said you’re firm in your beliefs.

  3. Speak4Elohim

    Posted by Speak4Elohim on October 27, 2013 at 13:58

    I personally can never figure out when it’s time to talk seriously about God, or when I still need to just be a friend.

  4. NerdyChick334

    Posted by NerdyChick334 on October 22, 2013 at 11:59


    This is a good idea, but I don’t think God conversations can be planned. To me, they’ve always come up organically. When they don’t, it’s three awkward. The way they’ve come up is different for everyone. It depends on what you’re talking about, really. Why are you so nice? How are you so hopeful? What do you spend most of your time thinking about? Anything to do with ethics, death, birth, existentialism, politics, the meaning of life, history, your own life, advice giving, ad infinitum. Just be honest about what you believe and explain why it works and don’t be like “No, what you think is bull.” Just listen and be kind. I pray constantly anyway that God will somehow find a way to reach the hearts of those around me. Even if you just make a little effort to mention God or mention something He’s done, the Holy Spirit is powerful enough to work through your words and attitude even if you didn’t plan on it.

  5. kellybarta14

    Posted by kellybarta14 on October 21, 2013 at 19:34

    The verse on the bottom reminded me of a familiar Christian song, We Are by Kari Jobe. 🙂 This was a very good article.

  6. Eurydice

    Posted by Eurydice on October 21, 2013 at 16:06

    My rule of thumb: Don’t.

    • genna_xoxo18

      Posted by genna_xoxo18 on October 28, 2013 at 16:25

      Eurydice, how can we spread God’s word and love – as we are called to do – if we don’t have Godly conversations with others? I, for one, often find that this can be an awkward topic, but I know it’s a conversation God calls us to have as Christians. If we don’t have conversations or bring Him up in our life, we may never get family and friends to know Jesus, meaning they will never be in Heaven with us.

    • supergirl55

      Posted by supergirl55 on October 26, 2013 at 18:28

      I like your profile picture 🙂

    • Rose of Emerlandia

      Posted by Rose of Emerlandia on October 21, 2013 at 22:16


    • Project Inspired

      Posted by KaylaHansa on October 21, 2013 at 16:56

      How can you call yourself a Christian if you don’t want to tell others about Christ?

  7. Posted by Nicole on October 21, 2013 at 11:54

    This is really encouraging, thanks Jenn!

  8. Project Inspired

    Posted by iammorethanvictorious on October 20, 2013 at 13:19

    I needed that so much, you have no idea. Thanks Jenn! 🙂

  9. awksjesusfreak

    Posted by awksjesusfreak on October 20, 2013 at 12:46

    Thank you Jenn! 😀