How Does Modesty Fit in with Feminism?

    By Bethany Kibler


    They tell me to dress up.

    They tell me to curl my hair.

    They want my makeup just right.

    They want my legs to show tonight.

    Their looks are flattering.

    Their stares make me feel something else.

    I know they’re watching me,

    But they’re looking at something else.


    It is fun to dress up.

    It is fun to curl my hair.

    Sometimes the makeup feels caked.

    Sometimes this skirt is too tight.

    Their looks don’t deceive me.

    Their stares make me feel something else.

    I know they’re watching me,

    And I wish I was wearing something else.


    He tells me I’m His bride.

    He tells me He likes my hair.

    He loves me when I’m not right.

    He will take care of me tonight.

    He looks from far away.

    Oh His grace is like nothing else.


    It is fun to dress up.

    It is fun to curl my hair.

    I won’t let my looks deceive them.

    I am glorifying Someone else.


    Lately, there has been a movement. Girls across the world are rallying together to fight against dress codes and sexual stereotypes. This passionate group of young feminists seeks to give women the freedom to dress however they please, without having to worry about what the men think.

    Let me just start out by saying it is a good cause. Girls should be able to dress without fear. However, modesty is still needed in our world.


    Modesty: behavior, manner, or appearance intended to avoid impropriety or indecency. (Oxford Dictionary)


    Being “modest” is different for everyone. Especially in today’s society, there is no clear line as to what is considered “decent.” Even other Christians have different ideas of what is appropriate, and we are quick to judge others not fitting our mold. Yes, everyone has her own opinion.

    Perhaps instead of dressing for the acceptance of others, or to please other Christians, we can dress to glorify God.


    Whatever you do, whether in word or deed, do it all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through Him. (Colossians 3:17)


    As Christians, we reflect something greater than ourselves. When we dress, we reflect God and other Christians like us. I don’t want to reflect God in an immodest or “indecent” way. We are called to glorify God in whatever we do. How do we reflect God in a glorifying way, though? What does it mean to dress like a Christian?


    She is clothed in strength and dignity, and she laughs without fear of the future. (Proverbs 31:25 NLT)


    There you have it! We are called to dress with strength and dignity. What makes you feel strong? It could be a stylish blouse, or a sweatshirt. It’s different for everyone. Embrace your God-given strength and individuality in ways only you can. Feel confident, dignified and strong! After all, you are the daughter of the King.


    Now therefore, if ye will obey My voice and keep My covenant, then ye shall be a peculiar treasure unto Me above all people: for all the earth is Mine. (Exodus 19:5 KJV)


    You are God’s treasure. Go out and reflect Him in your own “peculiar” and “dignified” way! God Bless You!

    —Bethany Kibler

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