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How Hollywood Can Influence an Abusive Relationship

Eminem is no stranger to controversy. His single Love the Way You Lie is a song about an abusive relationship — a subject that has become all too common in today’s society. Rihanna, who was in the news when her ex-boyfriend Chris Brown allegedly abused her, contributes vocally to the song.

It’s scary watching the music video (starring Megan Fox) and seeing something so common come to life in such a way. The song itself is classic Eminem and speaks to a generation in which abuse and hurt seem almost normal.

Who, though, is to blame for this feeling of normalcy? Society, parents, or even the media? Many children grow up watching abuse between parents and though they know it’s wrong, I wonder if these impulses become instilled into them and are passed on into their own relationships.

Sadly, teen girls between the ages of 16 and 24 are often in abusive relationships more than women of any other age. Some studies suggest that between 30-50% of teen girls have experienced abuse in a relationship. These numbers are unacceptable.

Though anyone can become involved in an abusive relationship, factors that are likely to contribute to a girl staying in the relationship include low self-esteem and poor self-image. Learning to love you and forming a close relationship with God are steps that girls can take to help ensure that if they find themselves in an abusive relationship, they will have the strength not to stay.

Do you think that the media portrayal of celebrities returning to their abusive partners may be a factor in a young girl’s decision to stay with their own abusive partner?


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    Posted by KayMZ on January 15, 2013 at 11:35

    I was abused by a “friend” for a relatively long time. I stayed with him because he was mentally disturbed and I thought I was helping. I don’t know how celebrities affect people, since I never consider them to be “real people,” by I know that misplaced sympathy and affection certainly does.

  2. Posted by on June 27, 2011 at 06:40

    I agree- and people listen to them more because they are catchy

  3. Posted by on June 9, 2011 at 21:08

    I do have to blame Twilight for influencing abusive relationships, so many young girls love it but the supposed “perfect boyfriend” keeps his girlfriend from her friends and invades her privacy.

  4. Posted by on June 1, 2011 at 12:40

    I was in one!! And I’m 16 and it’s because I didn’t think he was “that bad.” I thought it was normal for him to leave me and and go “save” his friends and hit me when he got mad and tell me I have no friends and no one will ever love me and it’s mostly because I didn’t know how to stand up for myself because he would get angry and hit stuff and it was scary. But girls PLEASE if a guy is ever abusive get out before it’s too late!!!!!!

  5. Posted by on May 20, 2011 at 17:02

    You are absolutely right! In our troubled society today, there’s so much violence in movies, shows, and music….and for some reason, children are watching these things…..no wonder there is so many teens being arrested for assault and even murder…..filmmakers and other influential people should NOT allow such violence to be viewed by a public audience.

  6. Posted by on May 18, 2011 at 16:40

    I honestly don’t think the media has a whole lot to do with this, actually. I think it’s more that girls think that their boyfriends really aren’t as bad as they seem and that they will change, they aren’t willing to give up yet, that kind of thing

    • Posted by on July 27, 2011 at 15:01

      except people like Eminem and Rihann glorify abuse, and people adore those two, some even consider them their role models (horrifyingly enough).

  7. Posted by on May 18, 2011 at 16:29

    Everybody’s desperate for love. Parents have the responsibility of showing girls their true value through God’s word. If they really knew how much God and their parents love them, they wouldn’t go around tolerating abuse in order to receive love. It’s really sad 🙁

  8. Posted by on May 18, 2011 at 12:14

    I agree- I was watching the few most recent episodes of Gossip Girl and was thinking the exact same thing between the characters “Blair” and “Chuck”.

  9. Posted by on May 18, 2011 at 05:56

    Thank you so much!!!!