How I Forgave My Bullies (and Why You Should Too)
Written by PI Contributor | June 26, 2012
Sometimes people hurt us in the worst ways possible. For girls, this often is through mean gossip, words written on the wall, a snide comment, a hurtful text and so many other things. Often times we sit in our own self-pity and just hold in anger for the person who hurt us like that.
Just imagine for a second that your closest friend decides to turn their back on you. This person hurts you in the WORST ways possible. They go as far as to betray you. Would you forgive them, ever? Probably not.
The thing is, there was this guy. His best friend sold him for blood money to people who wanted him dead. Once those people had killed him, the man who sold him felt awful. He had just wronged his close friend. But the funny thing was, he was already forgiven.
The guy who was so unjustifiably betrayed? His name was Jesus. Before he died he forgave those who wronged him, and through his death and forgiveness, others were able to get into heaven. Even after hurting God over and over with our sins, we can get into heaven.
If we have such a Merciful Savior, who forgives even those who SELL Him away, why don’t we forgive? How come we find it so hard to forgive those who have hurt us in some way?
Trust me, I understand it isn’t easy. I KNOW it’s not. I have harbored hurt before, and gripped anger. I have stared at a bathroom wall that screamed, “You aren’t good enough,” and “You are worthless.” A wall that told me that I am ugly and several other lies. The worst part, it was directed right. At. Me. Name and all.
In the beginning, I was so full of anger for this vandal. A vandal who was one of my peers and could easily be in one of my classes? What right did they have to write these things about me?
I shed too many tears over it. But through some of my very closest friends and mentors, I was reminded of that one thing:
Forgiveness. Even if you don’t believe in God or Jesus, forgiveness is sooo appealing. It’s a chance to start over and erase all mistakes. Every time I mess up (which is often), I hope that someone will forgive me for hurting them.
Through all of this trial, I have come to not only forgive whoever this is, but forget it. What happened is a thing of the past. Although it’s still saved as a memory, it is neither a good thing nor a bad thing.
I wish I could forgive this person to their face, but I do not know who it is.
But to anyone who has ever hurt me on purpose or on accident:
I forgive you.
Girls, I encourage you to forgive COMPLETELY from you hearts. Pray for help. Because forgiveness is the best thing for many reasons: It keeps your heart open to others and it makes you free.
Once you have forgiven someone, it’s time to let go and see what God also has planned for you. He often makes the worst situations shine like jewels, if you look at it with the right light.
Receive the Holy Spirit. If you forgive anyone’s sins, their sins are forgiven; if you do not forgive them, they are not forgiven (John 20:22-23).
You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good to accomplish what is now being done, the saving of many lives (Genesis 50:20).
Written by PI girl, Madeleine McCarty
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