How to Ask for Help When You’re Struggling with an Addiction
Written by T.M. Gaouette | February 16, 2015
We’ve discussed addiction a lot on Project Inspired. Addiction can completely debilitate lives, so it’s imperative that those who are battling an addiction get a handle on it.
Some addictions are more difficult to overcome than others. And some are more difficult to face ourselves, let alone share with others. But one of the steps in fighting an addiction is asking for help. And that in itself can be a challenge.
So how do you ask for help when you’re struggling with an addiction? The following tips are a good start.
- Recognize that everybody struggles. It makes it a little easier to ask for help once you understand that we all struggle with sin. This certainly doesn’t make your addiction okay, but it’s a reminder that we all fall short. So don’t beat yourself up. Just understand that you do need to get help.
- Put aside your negative emotions. Oftentimes, negative emotions like fear, shame and guilt can stand in the way of asking for help. But you have to shove those sentiments out of your heart. They’re Satan’s way of keeping you down in the darkness of sin.
- Choose someone you can trust. Whether it’s a parent, teacher or pastor, reach out to someone you know has your best interests at heart and will want to help you defeat your addiction. Pick someone strong in their faith, who will hold you accountable. Pick someone who has compassion, but won’t back down when you look for excuses to fall off the wagon.
- Pick the right time to ask for help. This may not always be possible, especially if you’re feeling desperate, but if you can, maybe arrange a get-together with the trusted person. Revealing an addiction is not something you can blurt out. You want time to share your story without being rushed. Pick a private location where you can speak candidly and where you and your trusted person can speak and react freely.
- Just be honest. The life of an addict is a lie in itself. You’re constantly hiding, deceiving and lying your way through conversations and interactions with people. There’s no point in hiding the truth now. If you want to leave addiction behind you, be honest about the hold your addiction has on you. If you share the whole truth, it’ll relieve a ton of stress.
- Be prepared for an emotional interaction. You and your trusted person will go through a whirlwind of emotion during this process, so be prepared. Don’t let the interaction upset you. Know that it’s inevitable that there will be tears, but recognize that now you have an advocate to share in your struggle.
- Pray. God is the only one who can help you overcome your addiction, so pray with your trusted person. Pray that God gives you both strength and courage to work through the ups and downs together. And there will be many of those. Remember to continue including God in your recovery.
Ladies, an addiction is not easy to beat alone. You need someone on your side who can help you, and shining a light on an addiction makes it easier to conquer.
Ladies, are you struggling to beat an addiction? Share your story. We love hearing from you.