How to Cope with Life’s Big Changes
Written by Jenn Arman | April 30, 2012
I love the way God uses the stories of our lives as ways to bring encouragement to others!
About five months ago, my husband and I were offered jobs as youth pastors. At the time, we didn’t feel right about accepting so we didn’t, but we kept praying about it. Five weeks ago, the same job was offered to us again and we felt the time was right, so we accepted the positions.
The cool thing about this job offer is it’s a fulfillment of some things God had spoken to us about several years ago. The hard thing about it is that the offer was from another church: We were going to have to start over at a new church in a position we’d never done before. Dave and I were youth leaders at our old church, but the job of being a youth pastor or youth director is a much bigger job with a lot more responsibility.
Everything involving the job happened so quickly. All of a sudden, we went from youth leaders to youth pastors; from teens we know and adore to teens who have no idea who we are; and from a church where we’d spent seven years serving to a brand new church. It was overwhelming and difficult–I’m not great at handling change in the first place and this was a huge change.
The hardest part was telling our old youth group that we were leaving. Some of them cried and then they all prayed for us. These amazing youth that we’d spent so much time learning from, teaching and loving prayed we would be successful and our new youth group would be blessed by us. I remember asking God silently right there in our old youth sanctuary if we really had to leave, but we did–it was time to go.
That day, I lost a little of the initial excitement about becoming a youth pastor because leaving was so hard. God is rebuilding the excitement in me, though. Throughout life, change happens. Some changes are big like moving, graduating and changing schools, jobs, or churches, and some are smaller. The size of the change isn’t really what matters because when we go through change (big or small), it almost always feels like a big change.
What’s important about change is how we respond to it. Our God is unchanging and He is the God over change. God makes the tide change, the seasons change and He makes our lives change, but just because change comes from God doesn’t always make it easy. Sometimes change can leave us feeling far from Him, but that doesn’t mean He is far away. If God brings change to your life, step into it with courage and trust in the God who names every star in the sky and formed the universe out of nothing.
Starting this new job that God planned for us has made me feel far from God, like He turned my life upside down and then disappeared, but that isn’t true. A song that has helped me lately with all this change is “Light Up The Sky” by The Afters.
Girls, please be encouraged if you are experiencing change in your life that seems overwhelming: When the sun rises and when the stars come out, God is with you. Whatever your circumstances are, He’s not leaving your side even when it feels like He is. Tell God how you feel about the changes you’re experiencing–the good and the bad–and let Him make it an experience you’ll never forget!
Have you experienced any changes in your life recently? Are you going through some right now?
There is an appointed time for everything. And there is a time for every event under heaven (Ecclesiastes 3:1).