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How to Deal With Anxiety as a College Freshman and Learn to Be Yourself
Written by Christi Given | August 3, 2016
Are you feeling anxious about college? You’re not alone.
An anonymous PI Girl who is about to start college shared her concerns on our Girl Talk forum. She’s feeling pressure to go to parties, is nervous to share a room with someone, and feels anxious about just being herself and wanting to do what she wants to in college. Read an excerpt from the post below.
“I’m starting school this fall. I’m 21 and a freshman…. Anyway, first of all, I have to room with three 18-year-olds, which I’m a little nervous about, just because it might be annoying! Sorry if that sounds mean… just feel like we’ll be at different places and maturity levels with different goals. Am I overreacting?
“I also feel all this pressure to have fun… to go to parties, and have the ‘college experience,’ except I don’t even want the college experience and I don’t want to party. I keep hearing ‘college is the greatest time of your life,’ and hear of how much people change and grow in college. I want to change and grow, but I feel like now I’m putting so much pressure [on myself]…that I have officially freaked myself out….
“The thing is, I’d so much rather grab coffee with someone and have a deep conversation than party with a bunch of people till the wee hours of the morning. I’d much rather go shopping, find fun restaurants and explore my city. Also, I have to work and find scholarships, so naturally that’s freaking me out, too….”
Click here to read the full post or to ask more college questions on our forum.
First of all, being nervous about college is TOTALLY normal; you are not going crazy. Everyone feels anxious and nervous to not only start at a new school, but also in some cases to move, live in a dorm and…drum roll…share a room. All of these experiences can be exciting, but they all have their ups and downs. Let’s be real and just admit we’ve all been there and have had our bouts of fear or worry. The good news is that the Bible tells us more than 365 times (one verse per day—I guess you can say for the whole year) to not worry or fear.
So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand. (Isaiah 41:10)
Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. (Philippians 4:6)
Another piece of advice that needs to be addressed is that this PI Girl is already worried about being pressured to party. No one should ever pressure you to drink or to even attend a party, and if they do, then they are not true friends. Also, stand your ground and if you feel uncomfortable, then decline the parties and just be content in pleasing God, not people. If you prefer to stay in with friends to watch a movie, then do that! No one should dictate to you how you should live your life. Enjoy the hobbies you want to do, and always put God first. He will fight for you!
Advice for College Freshmen or Those Who Are Anxious About School
1. Everyone is nervous: You are NOT alone, and are not going crazy.
2. Everyone is worried about sharing a room: Sometimes you don’t know if your dorm roomie will be a good or bad fit. Just trust God.
3. The Bible tells us DON’T fear and worry: Fretting leads only to harm, the Bible says. So please, just walk by faith, not by sight.
Do not be angry and frustrated! Do not fret! That only leads to trouble! (Psalm 37:8)
4. Don’t let ANYONE pressure you to drink or to party: Be yourself and do what makes you happy. You don’t live to please others; rather, you live to please God.
5. Start trusting God: As Christians, we walk by faith and not by sight (2 Corinthians 5:7). It is NOT an easy road, and the path to destruction is wide, popular and truthfully the easier way…but stay strong and know God will honor you when you honor Him! Amen?
PI Girls, do you feel this way about college or school? Any advice you can share with this PI reader? Comment below and let’s all keep praying for one another! Let us shine our lights for Christ, amen?