How to Deal With Feeling Alone and Disappointed
Written by Christi Given | November 17, 2015
Every week, I go through the “Girl Talk” section of Project Inspired and look for those seeking advice and counsel. I want to help answer some questions you may have about living out your Christian life and walk of faith! We want PI to be a safe place where you can ask questions.
This week a PI Girl wanted advice on feeling alone and disappointed. Click here if you want to ask any questions on faith, life, relationships and more.
Below is an excerpt from this week’s Girl Talk post:
“I feel like this year I’ve been so much sadder than I used to be. It all started when we were all set to move to a really nice, warm-weather area for my dad’s job. … At the eleventh hour the company backed out … this killed me inside. I wanted to leave this state so badly. … Shortly after that, I got a card in the mail from our old church pastor’s wife, saying that she wanted to be a spiritual role model and friend to me. … I texted her a few times and then wrote a long letter telling her about my spiritual life. I never heard back.
“… Anyway, we did eventually move, but … a lot of the people already know each other and have friends. We’ve tried a few churches, but it looks like everyone has been there forever and aren’t used to new people. I’m drifting apart from one of my only friends. Oh, and my Grandma is losing her memory due to a medical condition. I really don’t want to sound whiny and sorry for myself, I just wonder if anyone ever feels this way. I know God is always there, but sometimes you want a person, too.”
We all have seasons of abundance and seasons of dryness. We have seasons of joy and seasons of tears. In all things God is faithful and is able to help us navigate whether we are in the valley or on the mountaintop. God is with us in the depths and He is with us when we are walking on water. Wherever you find yourself, whether in the sowing or in the harvest, don’t lose your hope or your trust in God. We need to remember His faithfulness and recount the miracles He has already done.
Those who sow with tears will reap with songs of joy. (Psalm 126:5)
I will make them and the places surrounding my hill a blessing. I will send down showers in season; there will be showers of blessing. (Ezekiel 34:26)
I challenge you to write down 10 things you are grateful for and then 10 people you can help or be a blessing to. Helping others and serving helps us to take the focus off of ourselves. We need to not wallow in pity or grumble like the Israelites. When we look to Jesus and lay our worries at the foot of the cross, God will heal us.
What area in your life do you need love, healing, hope, truth in? Remember, you are NEVER alone and that God is with you always. The enemy of our souls wants us to lose heart and to give up. He wants us to lose sight of our eternal reward. The truth is that God wants to use you daily and wants you to be His vessel. He doesn’t need us, but wants us, and wants us to see and experience His glory.
Those the LORD has rescued will return. They will enter Zion with singing; everlasting joy will crown their heads. Gladness and joy will overtake them, and sorrow and sighing will flee away. (Isaiah 51:11)
When we mumble and grumble, we miss what God is doing in our lives. We miss out on the fact that the wilderness is actually a compliment. The wilderness is a test. When God doesn’t answer us right away or doesn’t answer our prayers, don’t fear. God has better plans than what we have for ourselves. His ways are higher and better than the plans we have for ourselves. (Isaiah 55)
They traveled from Mount Hor along the route to the Red Sea, to go around Edom. But the people grew impatient on the way; they spoke against God and against Moses, and said, “Why have you brought us up out of Egypt to die in the wilderness? There is no bread! There is no water! And we detest this miserable food!”
Then the Lord sent venomous snakes among them; they bit the people and many Israelites died. The people came to Moses and said, “We sinned when we spoke against the Lord and against you. Pray that the Lord will take the snakes away from us.” So Moses prayed for the people. The Lord said to Moses, “Make a snake and put it up on a pole; anyone who is bitten can look at it and live.” So Moses made a bronze snake and put it up on a pole. Then when anyone was bitten by a snake and looked at the bronze snake, they lived. (Numbers 21:4-9)
Of course in this situation with the PI Girl, it is frustrating when situations change and things are out of our control, but at least she has her family and knows Jesus. At least she has a youth group to attend. For those who are lonely or don’t know many people, I challenge you to reach out to someone who needs help or is worse off than you. We need to get revelation of servanthood. When we serve, we are operating out of what God wants us to do, and that he wants us to lay our lives down for our friends and for those in need. I am praying for this PI Girl, and for those who feel alone or are disappointed.
Some trust in chariots and some in horses, but we trust in the name of the LORD our God. (Psalm 20:7)
Remember, people may fail us but God will NEVER fail us. Circumstances and situations change and pass away, but God’s Word will NEVER fail. Fill yourself with truth and life to stay strong and renewed.
10 Tips for Overcoming Loneliness and Disappointment
- Count your blessings.
- Focus on God and serving others.
- Don’t complain.
- Wait on the Lord.
- Trust God’s plans are higher.
- Remember God is always with you.
- The wilderness is a compliment and a test.
- Aim high and remember God’s miracles.
- Determine what season you are in: sowing or harvest.
- Remember the only thing that is constant is Jesus.
Though my father and mother forsake me, the LORD will receive me. (Psalm 27:10)
PI Girls, comment below on how I can be praying for you.