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How to Deal with Frustrating People

You’ll always get along with some people better than you get along with others. So what do you when you’re around a person who’s driving you absolutely nuts? Here are four tips that will help you deal with people who are frustrating you:

  • Be pleasant. Even when people say or do things that are frustrating to you, you must continue to demonstrate the love of God toward them. Remember, the Bible says:

Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you (Ephesians 4:32.)

  • Hold people accountable for their actions. If someone is behaving in a way that negatively impacts you, it’s okay to address the situation. Be respectful, but firmly share with others how you expect to be treated.
  • Learn how to walk away. Sometimes the best way to deal with a person who’s frustrating you is to remove yourself from the situation. You don’t have to allow yourself to be mistreated! You CAN remove yourself from an aversive environment.
  • Stay prayed up! God will give you the strength to deal with ANY situation. Pray daily to ask God to strengthen you, and when things seem really trying, ask the Holy Spirit who lives inside of you for guidance. Remember, “Look to the LORD and his strength; seek his face always” (1 Chronicles 16:11.)

How do you deal with frustrating people and situations?

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  1. Project Inspired

    Posted by looklikelove14 on December 22, 2012 at 22:15

    These tips are spot on! I love them and will use these in my crazy days to come.

  2. Project Inspired

    Posted by joyfulllarissa on November 1, 2012 at 10:27

    God has helped me stay calm and pleasant most of the time… but I have to hold the person accountable. I did it a few times alone, but It’s not really working. Sounds like a Matthew 18 for me! I hate having to get other people involved, but I gotta do what the Word says… gonna need plenty of grace in the coming weeks 🙁

  3. HISprincess13

    Posted by HISprincess13 on July 30, 2012 at 12:56

    this so helps the people at school r so annoying. this will help me alot bc last year i wz on the edge of slapping people(i wish i wz joking) this`ll help alot though thx im goin through alot right now! luv ya God bless u!!!

  4. Project Inspired

    Posted by Country Christian Girl on July 24, 2012 at 10:41

    Thank you! :). This article really helped me! 🙂

  5. Project Inspired

    Posted by angiefl0wer on July 5, 2012 at 14:40

    There is one friend that i have known since kindergarten and she used to be okay. (I’m going into 8th grade now.) Since 5th grade it’s like she flipped a switch and became someone that I don’t know. She can be so rude and not understanding.But I just need to do this sometimes because it can be rough.

  6. Project Inspired

    Posted by JennaBel on June 20, 2012 at 06:24

    This is a good article with tips that we know we’re capable of and really puts it in to perspective. They’re great and very useful in my life. I love it!! Thank you!

  7. Project Inspired

    Posted by crazygirl13 on June 13, 2012 at 12:23

    This is amazing. I love God’s timing.
    Recently, I’ve been noticing a friend of mine is having a negative affect on my relationships with my family, and most importantly, God.
    This friend is incredibly self-absorbed, and is only concerned with her own problems that she’s made for herself.
    In her insecurity, she constantly judges people and speaks about them behind their backs, and I worry that she spreads lies about me as well.
    I don’t wish to address the issue incorrectly because I would not be helping the situation.
    I want to encourage her without pitying her, and I want to assist her in a relationship with God.
    I’m praying that I do not attempt to do this without God helping me and working through me…
    I would happily accept advice founded with the gospel.

    Thank you for this article! 🙂

  8. Project Inspired

    Posted by whatup8people on June 3, 2012 at 14:35

    i have a anut, she thinks she alway right.also when i go 2 her house she thinks im always bad,i need help.btw thank for shareing this.

  9. Project Inspired

    Posted by kyky96 on May 26, 2012 at 13:30

    One of the most frustrating people I know is my biology teacher. Especially right now because we are learning about evolution. This is my first year at a public school so whenever I try to explain why I don’t understand and believe it she gets upset and takes her anger out on my group project. One minute she loves it and the next minute she hates it. These tips will be helpful I think! I have been coming home frustrated all week now hopefully I can get through to her 🙂

  10. Project Inspired

    Posted by GodGirl96 on May 25, 2012 at 17:49

    This was a God-send! My mom and I are both having major problems with our best friends. They’re really tough situations but I’ll just keep praying! Thank you Lord for allowing me to read this!!!! He’s amazing<3

  11. Project Inspired

    Posted by Noelinee on May 25, 2012 at 15:35

    Another important factor about deal ing with Frustrating peope is that, we need to realise that Satan can be using them to steal your joy and cause a stumbling block for you to sin. anything that is not joyful is NOT from the Lord, so as soon as you encounter, know immediately and stand on guard; be pleasant and do not answer their questions, just walk away, because they are actually confused, so be the one that makes sense. Walking away DOES make sense! 🙂 Love in Jesus!

  12. Project Inspired

    Posted by KESoteriaBethel on May 25, 2012 at 15:18

    OKAY! My problem is with my sister friend and my ex friend! We used to be cool, but until I started confronting her about her actions we’re not friends anymore! First she saw this girl that she knew from school, they were smiling and saying hi to each other……..But then as soon as we left her, she started talking about this poor girl VERY BADLY behind her back! Later on I told her (Not in front the others girl) I didn’t think it was Christ like, she said “I can say whatever I want to!”. We went at it for awhile and then she deleted me off of FB!…. I had NO problem letting her go! One of the girls that was with us (Didn’t know anything what I said to her)told me that she was also saying means thing about me behind my back too!…..I can go on and on, but this is not my problem right now….She is now my sister friend and she’s always around and I don’t want her near me! My mom is like if you’re going to hangout, church, etc. one goes all goes! How do you deal with a person that doesn’t want to change their actions and you can’t get rid of?? I mean she’s still nice to me and I’m too, but I DON’T TRUST HER! Ever time she does something I just want to get away and it makes me very mad! I hope you can help me, thanks!

    • HISprincess13

      Posted by HISprincess13 on July 30, 2012 at 13:03

      I SO KMOW HOW U FEEL!! Except my sis doesnt like my ex-friend. the advice i can give is PRAY UR HEART OUT! i acted without praying and things r a mess now. just keep praying! the power of prayer is awesome1!USE IT! bc God will help u if u ask Him!

  13. Project Inspired

    Posted by on May 22, 2012 at 00:01

    The most frustrating person in my life is my dad, and I can’t get out of the situation.

    • Project Inspired

      Posted by Noelinee on May 25, 2012 at 15:37

      Same Page! But I learnt to lean to God for His fatherly love. With that, i learnt to understand why my dad was the way he was. 3 years ago, i reluctantly prayed and fasted for him. today he is the only person that understands me. he even buys me better clothes than my mum does, he knows what i like! I encourage you to pray and have lots of God time because He is our Father, and then He will help you to deal with the situation with the earthly father He gives you <3

  14. Project Inspired

    Posted by praiser on May 21, 2012 at 21:42

    I’m am having some issues with a friend mistreating me, and i thought i just had to put up with it. but thank you for this advice that i can walk away and not have to deal with that. with God’s strength i can do it.

  15. Project Inspired

    Posted by Annie on May 21, 2012 at 15:49

    Dear Nicole,
    One of my friends has been acting like I’m not good enough for her. It’s not frustrating me, it just hurts. I try to politely and respectfull y address the situation, but the next day she goes and shuts me out again. Any advice?

    • Project Inspired

      Posted by 1_artist on May 26, 2012 at 12:26

      Oh I hate when that happens, it hurts my feeling too. We can’t always be sure why certain friends act that way, but if they treat you like that, they either have personal issues/insecurities, or they weren’t a real friend in the first place. Maybe you should keep away from her and pray that she’ll start acting right (instead of shutting people out, that’s not what Jesus would want us to do to each other), she might miss you, who knows? If she still won’t act like a friend after a long time, don’t hate her, but let her go if she refuses to listen to you or treat you right. Sometimes people become stuck-up for some strange reason.

  16. Project Inspired

    Posted by WelcometotheMasquerade on May 21, 2012 at 15:40

    Yeah….It’s not exactly just the frustrating people as much as SUPER SUPER SUPER annoying and socially inept people. There was this one kid (and this is just ONE instance) at teen camp who was loud and obnoxious and pretty mean. And he didn’t have anyone to hang out with because of it. At all. Can’t say I blame anyone for it. So, when we were all at the arcade we kind of had partners and I was hanging out with my friend austin and the annoying guy comes up and stands there saying he didnt really have a partner or anyone to hang out with and I just nodded and went on. I felt super bad but….man, he was the most annoying, mean person ever. What should I have done?

  17. Project Inspired

    Posted by Skyla2015 on January 7, 2012 at 13:56

    Wow,,, I needed this big time! My ex boyfriend is trying to make some of my friends hate me. When he sees that Im finally being happy an getting close to God, he just swopes in a ruins it. He turned my best guy friend against me. this helped 🙂 .. Im just ready for this to be over though 🙁

  18. Posted by on September 7, 2011 at 13:03

    What if your parents and little brother drive you up the wall? lol 😛 I still love my parents, and I admit I annoy them sometimes too. 🙂

  19. Posted by on August 26, 2011 at 06:02

    Wow! thanks nicole!! This really helped out alot!

  20. Posted by on August 15, 2011 at 20:30

    Question. What do you do if there is a kid who WILL NOT STOP TOUCHING YOU!!!!!!!! He jabs you in the side, pinches your arm, and presses pressure points JUST to annoy you. You ask him kindly to stop, and by the end of the NEXT YEAR, when yelling at him, going to adults, ignoring him, and even hitting him back once or twice (or maybe punching him) all FAIL, and he gets MAD at YOU, FOR TELLING HIM TO STOP!!!!!!! I WANT TO CLOBBER HIM, OR SMASH HIS HEAD IN WITH A BASEBALL BAT!!!!! HELP PLEASE!!!!!

    • HISprincess13

      Posted by HISprincess13 on July 30, 2012 at 13:06

      happens to me too! (Nicole`s right he likes u trust me)

    • Posted by Nicole on August 16, 2011 at 13:48

      he OBVIOUSLY has a crush on you! wow. Ask him “why do you feel the need to touch me all the time? Because when you do, it makes me think you like me” He’ll get the point and feel embarrassed to touch you again!

  21. Posted by on August 7, 2011 at 12:08

    This helps more than you can imagine..I just got section leader for band and it has had me stressed over the limit. The other upperclassmen in my section are being so disrespectful to me when I’m just trying to be the best leader I can be to the newcomers and I feel like they are holding me back…this may have just given me the courage to speak up and deal with them. 🙂

    • Posted by Nicole on August 7, 2011 at 13:03

      I am soo happy!!! 🙂 That’s what I’m here for!

  22. Posted by on July 31, 2011 at 15:16

    The sort of people I get frustrated with the most are the people who call themselves Christians and try to use God’s Word to support their own opinions, but what they do is take things out of context and twist it their way. They take out the popular verses that all sound very lovely and convenient for them, and ignore the ones that say their opinions are wrong. Those people SICKEN me and I have SO much trouble with not retaliating. My IMMEDIATE reaction is to prove they’re wrong to say God says “it’s okay to do this ’cause He’s forgiving and allll” and point out what they DON’T seem to know from the Scriptures.

    I’m sorry, I am currently extremely infuriated with a person I used to admire very much. But the way she’s turned out now, she should be treated with disdain.

    • Project Inspired

      Posted by Lilliterra on July 12, 2012 at 22:04

      I know what you mean. It is easier to be patient with a dozen atheists than a single false Christian.

    • Posted by Nicole on August 7, 2011 at 22:36

      try and forgive her of her sins, just as Christ forgave you of your sins. Please read the newest article “how to deal with resentment” it will help you.

  23. Posted by on July 27, 2011 at 11:59

    I usually deal with them nd keep all my fustration inside…then I go home nd let everything out to my mom, next time i’ll follow this guide line lol 🙂

    • Project Inspired

      Posted by JustTheWayGodMadeMe on May 23, 2012 at 10:48

      I do the same thing! My poor mom… I feel so bad sometimes.

    • Posted by on July 27, 2011 at 19:29

      I’m living in tight quarters with my little sister who’s driving me nuts. I really needed this to remind me to treat her with love and to keep my temper from getting the best of me. This article was really helpful for me this week. Thank you!

  24. Posted by on July 27, 2011 at 07:51

    You could tell them how you are feeling, and if they don’t listen,just walk away from them. If you get too fustrated, you can end up doing something you regret.

  25. Posted by on July 27, 2011 at 07:13

    Ikr! I’m dealing with a friend prob right now and I found this! Thanks 🙂

    • Project Inspired

      Posted by morgi on May 22, 2012 at 12:59

      one of my friends is getting on my nerves too!

  26. Posted by on July 26, 2011 at 22:30

    Sometimes it’s so hard to just turn the other cheek, but it’s always so worth it…friendships strengthen, new ones blossom, and God will bless you. Thanks for posting this. I needed it today 🙂

  27. Posted by on July 26, 2011 at 20:35

    Ah! I needed this! Thank you, Nicole/contributing blogger 🙂
    You would not believe how many times I’ve almost lost my head with my best friend’s boyfriend and tried to ahem….murder him. (I kid, I kid!)
    Anyway, God Bless!

  28. Posted by on July 26, 2011 at 20:17

    wow. its crazy. i was scrolling through facebook while dealin with a friend situation that was making me frustrated and the link to this from project inspired showed up. exactly what i was needing!