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    How to Deal with Frustrating People

    You’ll always get along with some people better than you get along with others. So what do you when you’re around a person who’s driving you absolutely nuts? Here are four tips that will help you deal with people who are frustrating you:

    • Be pleasant. Even when people say or do things that are frustrating to you, you must continue to demonstrate the love of God toward them. Remember, the Bible says:

    Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you (Ephesians 4:32.)

    • Hold people accountable for their actions. If someone is behaving in a way that negatively impacts you, it’s okay to address the situation. Be respectful, but firmly share with others how you expect to be treated.
    • Learn how to walk away. Sometimes the best way to deal with a person who’s frustrating you is to remove yourself from the situation. You don’t have to allow yourself to be mistreated! You CAN remove yourself from an aversive environment.
    • Stay prayed up! God will give you the strength to deal with ANY situation. Pray daily to ask God to strengthen you, and when things seem really trying, ask the Holy Spirit who lives inside of you for guidance. Remember, “Look to the LORD and his strength; seek his face always” (1 Chronicles 16:11.)

    How do you deal with frustrating people and situations?

    Aysha Ives
    Aysha Ives loves God with her whole heart and has a desire to help hurting people. With a Masters Degree in Psychology, she combines her education and experience with her love for God to help people live whole and fulfilled lives. Aysha is an Author, Mental Health Provider, Youth Church Teacher, and the mother of one gifted little boy whom she absolutely adores. Aysha is honored to be able to share her love of God with Project Inspired readers. Aysha is also the author of God Cares About Your Stuff: How To Believe For Tomorrow When Things Look Utterly, Completely, And Totally Impossible Today, released February 2013- Available at Amazon.

    44 COMMENTS

    1. wow. its crazy. i was scrolling through facebook while dealin with a friend situation that was making me frustrated and the link to this from project inspired showed up. exactly what i was needing!

    2. Ah! I needed this! Thank you, Nicole/contributing blogger 🙂
      You would not believe how many times I’ve almost lost my head with my best friend’s boyfriend and tried to ahem….murder him. (I kid, I kid!)
      🙂
      Anyway, God Bless!
      Juliana

    3. Sometimes it’s so hard to just turn the other cheek, but it’s always so worth it…friendships strengthen, new ones blossom, and God will bless you. Thanks for posting this. I needed it today 🙂

    4. The sort of people I get frustrated with the most are the people who call themselves Christians and try to use God’s Word to support their own opinions, but what they do is take things out of context and twist it their way. They take out the popular verses that all sound very lovely and convenient for them, and ignore the ones that say their opinions are wrong. Those people SICKEN me and I have SO much trouble with not retaliating. My IMMEDIATE reaction is to prove they’re wrong to say God says “it’s okay to do this ’cause He’s forgiving and allll” and point out what they DON’T seem to know from the Scriptures.

      I’m sorry, I am currently extremely infuriated with a person I used to admire very much. But the way she’s turned out now, she should be treated with disdain.

    5. This helps more than you can imagine..I just got section leader for band and it has had me stressed over the limit. The other upperclassmen in my section are being so disrespectful to me when I’m just trying to be the best leader I can be to the newcomers and I feel like they are holding me back…this may have just given me the courage to speak up and deal with them. 🙂

    6. Question. What do you do if there is a kid who WILL NOT STOP TOUCHING YOU!!!!!!!! He jabs you in the side, pinches your arm, and presses pressure points JUST to annoy you. You ask him kindly to stop, and by the end of the NEXT YEAR, when yelling at him, going to adults, ignoring him, and even hitting him back once or twice (or maybe punching him) all FAIL, and he gets MAD at YOU, FOR TELLING HIM TO STOP!!!!!!! I WANT TO CLOBBER HIM, OR SMASH HIS HEAD IN WITH A BASEBALL BAT!!!!! HELP PLEASE!!!!!

    7. Wow,,, I needed this big time! My ex boyfriend is trying to make some of my friends hate me. When he sees that Im finally being happy an getting close to God, he just swopes in a ruins it. He turned my best guy friend against me. this helped 🙂 .. Im just ready for this to be over though 🙁

    8. Yeah….It’s not exactly just the frustrating people as much as SUPER SUPER SUPER annoying and socially inept people. There was this one kid (and this is just ONE instance) at teen camp who was loud and obnoxious and pretty mean. And he didn’t have anyone to hang out with because of it. At all. Can’t say I blame anyone for it. So, when we were all at the arcade we kind of had partners and I was hanging out with my friend austin and the annoying guy comes up and stands there saying he didnt really have a partner or anyone to hang out with and I just nodded and went on. I felt super bad but….man, he was the most annoying, mean person ever. What should I have done?

    9. Dear Nicole,
      One of my friends has been acting like I’m not good enough for her. It’s not frustrating me, it just hurts. I try to politely and respectfull y address the situation, but the next day she goes and shuts me out again. Any advice?

      • Oh I hate when that happens, it hurts my feeling too. We can’t always be sure why certain friends act that way, but if they treat you like that, they either have personal issues/insecurities, or they weren’t a real friend in the first place. Maybe you should keep away from her and pray that she’ll start acting right (instead of shutting people out, that’s not what Jesus would want us to do to each other), she might miss you, who knows? If she still won’t act like a friend after a long time, don’t hate her, but let her go if she refuses to listen to you or treat you right. Sometimes people become stuck-up for some strange reason.

    10. I’m am having some issues with a friend mistreating me, and i thought i just had to put up with it. but thank you for this advice that i can walk away and not have to deal with that. with God’s strength i can do it.

      • Same Page! But I learnt to lean to God for His fatherly love. With that, i learnt to understand why my dad was the way he was. 3 years ago, i reluctantly prayed and fasted for him. today he is the only person that understands me. he even buys me better clothes than my mum does, he knows what i like! I encourage you to pray and have lots of God time because He is our Father, and then He will help you to deal with the situation with the earthly father He gives you <3

    11. OKAY! My problem is with my sister friend and my ex friend! We used to be cool, but until I started confronting her about her actions we’re not friends anymore! First she saw this girl that she knew from school, they were smiling and saying hi to each other……..But then as soon as we left her, she started talking about this poor girl VERY BADLY behind her back! Later on I told her (Not in front the others girl) I didn’t think it was Christ like, she said “I can say whatever I want to!”. We went at it for awhile and then she deleted me off of FB!…. I had NO problem letting her go! One of the girls that was with us (Didn’t know anything what I said to her)told me that she was also saying means thing about me behind my back too!…..I can go on and on, but this is not my problem right now….She is now my sister friend and she’s always around and I don’t want her near me! My mom is like if you’re going to hangout, church, etc. one goes all goes! How do you deal with a person that doesn’t want to change their actions and you can’t get rid of?? I mean she’s still nice to me and I’m too, but I DON’T TRUST HER! Ever time she does something I just want to get away and it makes me very mad! I hope you can help me, thanks!

      • I SO KMOW HOW U FEEL!! Except my sis doesnt like my ex-friend. the advice i can give is PRAY UR HEART OUT! i acted without praying and things r a mess now. just keep praying! the power of prayer is awesome1!USE IT! bc God will help u if u ask Him!

    12. Another important factor about deal ing with Frustrating peope is that, we need to realise that Satan can be using them to steal your joy and cause a stumbling block for you to sin. anything that is not joyful is NOT from the Lord, so as soon as you encounter, know immediately and stand on guard; be pleasant and do not answer their questions, just walk away, because they are actually confused, so be the one that makes sense. Walking away DOES make sense! 🙂 Love in Jesus!

    13. This was a God-send! My mom and I are both having major problems with our best friends. They’re really tough situations but I’ll just keep praying! Thank you Lord for allowing me to read this!!!! He’s amazing<3

    14. One of the most frustrating people I know is my biology teacher. Especially right now because we are learning about evolution. This is my first year at a public school so whenever I try to explain why I don’t understand and believe it she gets upset and takes her anger out on my group project. One minute she loves it and the next minute she hates it. These tips will be helpful I think! I have been coming home frustrated all week now hopefully I can get through to her 🙂

    15. This is amazing. I love God’s timing.
      Recently, I’ve been noticing a friend of mine is having a negative affect on my relationships with my family, and most importantly, God.
      This friend is incredibly self-absorbed, and is only concerned with her own problems that she’s made for herself.
      In her insecurity, she constantly judges people and speaks about them behind their backs, and I worry that she spreads lies about me as well.
      I don’t wish to address the issue incorrectly because I would not be helping the situation.
      I want to encourage her without pitying her, and I want to assist her in a relationship with God.
      I’m praying that I do not attempt to do this without God helping me and working through me…
      I would happily accept advice founded with the gospel.

      Thank you for this article! 🙂

    16. There is one friend that i have known since kindergarten and she used to be okay. (I’m going into 8th grade now.) Since 5th grade it’s like she flipped a switch and became someone that I don’t know. She can be so rude and not understanding.But I just need to do this sometimes because it can be rough.

    17. this so helps the people at school r so annoying. this will help me alot bc last year i wz on the edge of slapping people(i wish i wz joking) this`ll help alot though thx im goin through alot right now! luv ya God bless u!!!

    18. God has helped me stay calm and pleasant most of the time… but I have to hold the person accountable. I did it a few times alone, but It’s not really working. Sounds like a Matthew 18 for me! I hate having to get other people involved, but I gotta do what the Word says… gonna need plenty of grace in the coming weeks 🙁

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