How to Deal With Rejection and Embrace God’s Love
Written by Christi Given | January 21, 2018
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This week on PI, a girl mentioned that she is struggling with unrequited love. It’s not easy when you like someone and the feelings are not mutual. It doesn’t feel good to go through rejection or confusion. I hope and pray that this article inspires you to seek after God’s approval, not man’s approval. Remember, God calls you worthy, precious and loved. Jesus died for you, so you are more valuable than jewels, diamonds or pearls. You are priceless in the eyes of the Lord and are a daughter of the King.
What can we say that we have discovered about our ancestor Abraham? If Abraham had God’s approval because of something he did, he would have had a reason to brag. But he could not brag to God about it. What does Scripture say? “Abraham believed God, and that faith was regarded as the basis of Abraham’s approval by God.” (Romans 4:1-3)
Sometimes in life, people can lead us on, reject, betray and hurt us. We may be the victim or we may have been the one to cause the heartbreak. Either way, we have all been there! No one is exempt from heartache and pain in this broken and fallen world. Remember that Jesus is always close to the broken, wounded and those who feel unloved. Jesus is always there when people hurt us. Call on His name and God’s spirit will comfort you.
The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. (Psalm 34:18)
Though my father and mother forsake me, the LORD will receive me. (Psalm 27:10)
What do you do when you love someone, but they don’t love you back? You need to let go and let God. Trust that God has the perfect man and husband for you and for your life. In His presence there is total joy, so remain in God’s Word (through devotions, through Bible apps or through the physical Bible). I encourage you to remain in worship and in the truth of the Lord, whether you are feeling accepted by people or not. Regardless of circumstances, God promises He will never leave us nor forsake us. Amen?
Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the Lord your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you. (Deuteronomy 31:6)
So don’t be afraid; you are more valuable to God than a whole flock of sparrows. (Matthew 10:31)
The best way to deal with relationships is to base them first centered on Christ, in purity and on friendship. Next, if the feelings are not mutual for either party, it’s important to be intentional and to be honest. Make sure you communicate your true feelings and that you are heard clearly. If you are feeling disrespected, address the issue and do not tolerate mistreatment. Pray before you speak, and make sure to treat others as you would want to be treated.
Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. (Philippians 2:3)
PI Girls, know that Jesus is our first love, our eternal husband and Prince of Peace (Isaiah 9:6). Do not compare yourself to others, or base your worth or your value on whether someone likes you or not. People who are meant to be in your life will remain in the storms and trials and will be worthy of being there. Make sure you take each season of life to the Lord, whether difficult or abundant. God is always there watching over you and fights your battles. God pursues you and loves you, and the man of God who is for you will act Christlike toward you.
The LORD will fight for you; you need only to be still. (Exodus 14:14)
As people have said before, thank God for closed doors. God will open doors for you that are meant for you and will shut doors that can be harmful to you (Isaiah 22:22). Many say that “man’s rejection is God’s protection.” Do not settle for a counterfeit or someone who doesn’t truly see you as the Princess that you are as God’s daughter. I pray that you are able to wait on the promise and that God will sustain you in the waiting, in the pain, in the joys and in the storms of life. Christ is our anchor and is the hope for our souls.
Let your faith never waver when you don’t fully understand His perfect plan. Just know God has good plans for your life. Jesus has plans to prosper you, not to hurt you, but to give you a good future beyond what you could ask for (Jeremiah 29:11, Ephesians 3:20). I am praying for you, PI Girls, and know that you are NEVER alone. Jesus loves you!
PI Girls, comment below if you have a question or something to share. For private prayer requests or questions, feel free to message Christi at facebook.com/christigiven