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    How to Find Freedom From Pornography

    We often talk about porn as if it’s a guy problem. This couldn’t be further from the truth. According to a recent survey by Covenant Eyes, 20 percent of Christian women claim to be porn addicts. Further statistics reveal that 1 in 3 visitors to porn sites are women. This issue affects many Christian women, but these same women are terrified to talk about it. They remain silent, and in their silence, remain captive to spiritual and sexual bondage.

    But freedom is available—not just available, but ready and waiting in the arms of Christ. The path to victory is not easy; it’s a daily fight. But it is possible. Read on to learn how.

     

    Acknowledge the Problem

    The very first step to victory is acknowledging your battle. This is more than simply saying, “I watch porn.” It is acknowledging your need for God to transform your mind, heart and actions; your inability to transform yourself into a porn-free person.

    In acknowledging your weakness, you’re recognizing the strength of God. You need Him desperately to conquer this sin! As I say often when I write about sexuality, lust is not a sexual problem. It’s a spiritual problem. In order to conquer any sexual sin, including pornography, you must fight spiritually first.

     

    Be Honest With God

    Next, be honest with the Lord. He already knows everything you’ve done and seen. He already knows your heart and mind. Come to Him, even on your knees, and pour out your heart. Tell Him what you feel, what you don’t feel, how overwhelmed you are. He is ready to hear you.

    Like a good Father, God is ready to listen to your cries. He wants to bring you healing, peace and victory. Don’t let the Enemy drive a wedge between you and the throne of grace—RUN to Christ!

     

    Limit Your Screen Time

    A battle against pornography must start on your knees and in your heart. This is a daily act. But you must also set up standards that help you live out God’s holiness in your life. A first step is to limit your screen time in general.

    If you only limit your screen time when you think you’re most tempted, you’ll miss the point. If your computer and phone are a source of temptation, the best thing you can do is spend as little time on them as possible. Instead, read a book. Take a walk. Meet friends for coffee. Write letters. Take the time to live a life away from the seclusion of a screen. In doing so, you’ll find a richness of life that pornography—and screen addiction in general—steals from you.

     

    Pay Attention to Your Emotions

    When we sin sexually, we often feel detached from our world. We withdraw from people and things that we love. We withdraw from ministry, from worship and from God. We send ourselves into a cycle of despair and defeat. I know because I’ve been there.

    This does not have to be your reality. There is HOPE to be free from that cycle! Pay attention to your emotions, both before temptation and after, if you fail. Do you feel distant, lazy or detached? This is the time to run to God. Don’t try to ready yourself to pray—just do it! Don’t wait days to approach Christ—go to Him NOW! He is your only hope. He is the only solution to pornography. You need Him.

    Don’t wait any longer, dear girl. Run to Jesus. Tell Him the truth. Seek Him first, get accountability and continue to press into Him at every opportunity. The more you know and love Him, the more your heart will be protected from temptation.

    For additional help check out http://fightthenewdrug.org.

    Phylicia Masonheimer
    Phylicia Masonheimerhttps://phyliciamasonheimer.com/
    Phylicia Masonheimer is an author and speaker teaching women how to discern what is true, discuss the deep stuff, and accomplish God's will for their specific lives. She holds a B.S. in Religion from Liberty University, where she met her husband, Josh, and now lives in northern Michigan with her two daughters, Adeline and Geneva.

    3 COMMENTS

    1. As a former addict, totally appreciate this! ^.^ Even after deliverance, fighting the temptation is still a battle. The more I read the Word & have it on my mind, however, the weaker it gets & the stronger I am against it.

      Going to start praying for current addicts more often! 🙂 It’s my testimony & it can be the testimony to any girl reading this now who is addicted. ^.^ Don’t give up; fight on!

    2. Oh! I should also add this – The reason it took so long for me to get delivered from the porn addiction was that I was so busy trying to deliver myself. It took another lady sharing her testimony of being a porn addict that God is the one to do the delivering. When I finally told God that I didn’t know what to do & that I needed His help, that’s when something finally happened. So please, everyone who is currently struggling with this oppression, go to the Lord about it! He’s the only one who can save you, and He wants to free you! <3

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