We often talk about porn as if it’s a guy problem. This couldn’t be further from the truth. According to a recent survey by Covenant Eyes, 20 percent of Christian women claim to be porn addicts. Further statistics reveal that 1 in 3 visitors to porn sites are women. This issue affects many Christian women, but these same women are terrified to talk about it. They remain silent, and in their silence, remain captive to spiritual and sexual bondage.
But freedom is available—not just available, but ready and waiting in the arms of Christ. The path to victory is not easy; it’s a daily fight. But it is possible. Read on to learn how.
Acknowledge the Problem
The very first step to victory is acknowledging your battle. This is more than simply saying, “I watch porn.” It is acknowledging your need for God to transform your mind, heart and actions; your inability to transform yourself into a porn-free person.
In acknowledging your weakness, you’re recognizing the strength of God. You need Him desperately to conquer this sin! As I say often when I write about sexuality, lust is not a sexual problem. It’s a spiritual problem. In order to conquer any sexual sin, including pornography, you must fight spiritually first.
Be Honest With God
Next, be honest with the Lord. He already knows everything you’ve done and seen. He already knows your heart and mind. Come to Him, even on your knees, and pour out your heart. Tell Him what you feel, what you don’t feel, how overwhelmed you are. He is ready to hear you.
Like a good Father, God is ready to listen to your cries. He wants to bring you healing, peace and victory. Don’t let the Enemy drive a wedge between you and the throne of grace—RUN to Christ!
Limit Your Screen Time
A battle against pornography must start on your knees and in your heart. This is a daily act. But you must also set up standards that help you live out God’s holiness in your life. A first step is to limit your screen time in general.
If you only limit your screen time when you think you’re most tempted, you’ll miss the point. If your computer and phone are a source of temptation, the best thing you can do is spend as little time on them as possible. Instead, read a book. Take a walk. Meet friends for coffee. Write letters. Take the time to live a life away from the seclusion of a screen. In doing so, you’ll find a richness of life that pornography—and screen addiction in general—steals from you.
Pay Attention to Your Emotions
When we sin sexually, we often feel detached from our world. We withdraw from people and things that we love. We withdraw from ministry, from worship and from God. We send ourselves into a cycle of despair and defeat. I know because I’ve been there.
This does not have to be your reality. There is HOPE to be free from that cycle! Pay attention to your emotions, both before temptation and after, if you fail. Do you feel distant, lazy or detached? This is the time to run to God. Don’t try to ready yourself to pray—just do it! Don’t wait days to approach Christ—go to Him NOW! He is your only hope. He is the only solution to pornography. You need Him.
Don’t wait any longer, dear girl. Run to Jesus. Tell Him the truth. Seek Him first, get accountability and continue to press into Him at every opportunity. The more you know and love Him, the more your heart will be protected from temptation.
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