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Many girls on Project Inspired ask us for advice about relationships, purity and marriage. While many of you may be students or young adults, you are probably in a season of singleness or waiting for “Mr. Right.” If you already have a boyfriend or are dating, then you may be wondering if he is “The One.” If you’re single and just dating or building friendships, it’s wise to focus on building God’s Kingdom and to wait for the man that God has for you. As single women, we have been given more time to focus on building God’s Kingdom because we do not have children or the responsibility of marriage. As a single person, you have more time to serve, to give and to focus on your passions and calling.
Do you know what your purpose is? Do you focus a lot of time on boys or worrying when you will meet your Boaz, like Ruth did in the Bible? I want to comfort you, PI Girls, in the fact that you are NOT alone and these realities are totally relatable, but we must refrain from worrying or even idolizing romantic relationships.
They exchanged the truth about God for a lie, and worshipped and served created things rather than the Creator—who is forever praised. Amen. (Romans 1:25)
The Bible says to “seek FIRST God’s Kingdom and all of His righteousness” (Matthew 6:33) and then the rest shall be added to you. This means when God is first, and then family, then work/ministry, everything is in its proper order or place. When we focus on other things ABOVE God or before Him, it becomes idolatry. We must refrain from this because God is a jealous God. We see that He wants to be adored, worshipped and loved just like we love, but it is deeper, because He is God and is worthy of all praise and glory. We are just creatures, and the creator is to be worshipped, not man. People are temporary, husbands and boyfriends are not forever, but the Word of God and winning souls is. We must set our minds and hearts on things above, and know that our identity is in Christ, not in what we have or do not have, amen? We must put our TOTAL trust in God and His plans so that we can be free to minister and to love.
Thou shalt have no other gods before me. Thou shalt not make unto thee any graven image, or any likeness of any thing that is in heaven above, or that is in the earth beneath, or that is in the water under the earth. (Exodus 20:3-4)
One of the benefits of being unmarried is that you are able to devote more time to studying God’s Word and doing what it is you are called to do. In the midst of following Jesus and doing the purpose He placed in you before the beginning of time, you can possibly meet your future husband in your field of work. For example, Ruth met Boaz while gleaning in his field (Ruth 2). You may meet The One while you are studying, while you are serving, while you are busy doing what God has asked you to do. Remember to guard your heart and to focus on the Kingdom. God’s Word says that if you build God’s house first, He will build yours (Haggai 1-2). Of course, many people build their own lives and houses (and the Lord says unless He builds it, the laborers labor in vain). If we want God to establish our house and family, we must first prioritize our gifting and serving God as the top thing, then He will bless us with our desires, as they become His (Psalm 37:4).
To the unmarried and the widows I say that it is good for them to remain single, as I am. (1 Corinthians 7:8)
PI Girls, what has God placed on your heart to do for His Kingdom? How can you count your blessings and enjoy your single season? Comment below! Let me know how I can pray for you!