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How to Make Sure Your Boyfriend Is the Special One! By PI Girl Allison

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Hey Girls!

I want to talk about boyfriends. I can’t express enough how important it is to make sure that anyone you date (and a potential future husband) is a God-fearing man! Here are a few ways to find out if your boyfriend is the right one:

  • Make sure that your parents are okay with him. I know that parents can be annoying, but trust me. Parents have had more experiences and know more! I’ve had a few crushes, and I found that I’m not so nervous around one when I ask my mom what she thinks about him.
  • It’s SO important that your parents agree with his beliefs. If your boyfriend is the special one, and your parents are fine with you dating him, you will have a happy marriage; your parents won’t be looking down at him for doing un-Christian stuff!
  • Make sure he’s not just dating you because your family has money. It’s important that he truly loves you. You will be able to tell if he’s true by the fruit that he produces. If he’s really a Christian, he WILL do good things, and show you and everyone around him love.
  • If he truly loves you, he will wait for sex. “True love waits” is a saying that is SO true. And whenever you get tempted, think of how God would feel if you had sex.
  • Be careful to be yourself in front of him. If he’s the one, he will love you no matter what you look like, do, or don’t do. It’s SO important not to act like someone you’re not. Guys want the real thing–they don’t want someone who’s always acting!

God wants you to have the best out of your real love. Make sure you ask God if He wants you to spend your life with this person!

Written by PI Girl Allison

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  1. Project Inspired

    Posted by Country Christian Girl on July 24, 2012 at 11:45

    Thank you for this 🙂

  2. Project Inspired

    Posted by Vick on June 7, 2012 at 07:15

    See, this is basically what I do: Make sure he’s an on fire for God Christian and that we’ve been friends for a little while! I def. pray for God to bring me the right guy everyday! Yes, I’m still single…but…I’d rather be single than with someone who isn’t a true christian or potential future husband!

  3. Melody4Him

    Posted by Melody4Him on January 22, 2012 at 14:59

    You can also learn a lot about a guy by how he treats his mother and\or elderly people. Watch for the respect that he does or doesn’t show. Don’t just look at his good qualities. And most of all….Pray about it! If he is the right one, God WILL tell you! =]

  4. Project Inspired

    Posted by jordaniann on December 11, 2011 at 15:12

    Love this! You should write about “How to say no”

  5. kayla.hb13

    Posted by kayla.hb13 on December 9, 2011 at 15:47

    My problem is that I know my dad is uncomfortable with my being Christian (he believes in a god, but not God or Jesus necessarily) and I’m very afraid that I will bring a boy home and my parents won’t like him because of strong beliefs (I am WAY more conservative than my family, and strongly believe in women being at home with the children, dressing conservatively (whenever I’m in public, I wear a skirt (see Leviticus, it states a woman shall not wear men’s clothing, nor a man wear a woman’s.), etc.) I know people who have strong relationships with Christ who did not date until after high school, and married the first person they dated. (In fact, one woman I know did not date until she was 7 months engaged– she and her now husband were told by God to get married, and they’re incredibly happy and in love!) I decided not to date in high school, especially because I need a stronger relationship with Jesus and I cannot be tempted. When I get to college, I will date ONLY a strong Christian boy! <3

  6. Project Inspired

    Posted by brooke on December 8, 2011 at 15:13

    I have been dating the same guy since i was 12–i’m 18 now. he’s an athiest but his views have not changed mine at all. now we’re both at different colleges in a long distance relationship, but we both want to stay together forever and i know he and i are supposed to be together despite our beliefs.

  7. Project Inspired

    Posted by Simpsonslover on December 2, 2011 at 23:59

    Thank you I will definatly follow these guide lines when I can date! Which is in three years!!! I’ll be 16!!!

  8. joeben

    Posted by joeben on November 28, 2011 at 00:45

    This was really helpful! Thank you! 🙂

  9. hlaluvzjesus

    Posted by hlaluvzjesus on November 27, 2011 at 14:47

    I’m not allowed to date yet so this is perfect advice!

  10. Posted by on November 27, 2011 at 11:40

    Thank you so much for this article! My best friend just got into a relationship and I am a little hesitant about him and his morals/beliefs. I’m going to share this with her, hopefully she can reconsider what she is getting herself into, and make sure he’s the guy God created for her. <3

  11. Posted by on November 27, 2011 at 06:49

    my boyfriend tryed to touch my you know what and i told him to stop but i am not sure if that is what he was trying to do maybe he just wanted to hold on to me to show me that he loves me back but i love him so much and i dont want us to be mad at each other his life has sucked and so has mine so we both never had “THE TALK” with our parents and we both live with our mom and moms boyfriend we both have moved alot and have been threw alot so are minds are alittle crazy :/

  12. Project Inspired

    Posted by Hannah131 on November 26, 2011 at 20:16

    So i sit by this guy in one of my classes who is the defensive captian and defensive player of the year. He’s cutish, not perfect but so close….anyway I overheard him telling four other members of the football team he was going to be abtainint and they all FLIPPED!! When i got home i “stalked” his facebook wall and he really his a great guy. He’s nice to EVERYONE even the kids who are so obnoxious it hard to be around. I like him a lot… but the main point is I so excited there’s actually a guy with a SOUL at my school…just wanted to share the joy!!! DON”T GIVE UP HOPE LADIES!!!

  13. Project Inspired

    Posted by musicalMiranda5 on November 26, 2011 at 19:22

    Awesome advice!! I’ve been wondering about this kinda stuff for a while because I think this guy might ask me out. He seems like a good Christian and he’s really nice, I just hope my parents are okay with him… Wish me luck;)

  14. Posted by on November 26, 2011 at 18:30

    Great article! Right now I’m 13 and a ton of people my age are already dating. Typically the relationships are really superficial and only last a week or so, but some of my friend’s have lasted almost a year! So I wonder if you have God as your foundation, is 13 a good age to be dating? Please, I need some advice from fellow Christian girls. It will be greatly appreciated 🙂

    • Project Inspired

      Posted by Allison on January 5, 2012 at 17:29

      Hey Girl! I know you probably won’t see this…lol But, I really think that you need to wait. They may have dated for a year, but that doesn’t mean they’ll get married and have a family, ect. It’s not about the age, or meeting a guy, it’s that you need to be mature enough to know what’s wrong and right and have the strength to do it. I’m not saying it’s WRONG to date at 13, I’m just sayin I would avoid it.

  15. Posted by on November 26, 2011 at 15:40

    The guy I like, fit all of these. He actually has been called to be a preacher. We are also really close friends. My mom loves him, and so does my step dad, and my brother actually said “You have to marry him! He’s perfect, and I think he would be a great brother in law!”. The problem is, I’m not completely sure if he likes me. How can I know if he likes me? What are the signs?

  16. Project Inspired

    Posted by Kess on November 25, 2011 at 22:55

    Some of what you said is pure gold! But I disagree that you have to treat everyone you date (no matter how serious the relationship is!) as a potential husband. To find the man you want to spend your life with I think it’s a good idea to date more than a few people just to get a better idea of what type of guy you work well with. (not just that they’re a Christian, and that he treats you well, but different personality types and stuff) But that’s just me 🙂

    Great article; you have some very good points here!

  17. Posted by on November 25, 2011 at 16:35

    Thanks for this article! Ive had a boyfriend for 2 weeks this Sunday. And he matches all the things that you talk about in your article. We go to the same church,we both have personal relationships with Jesus Christ,and my parents love me and his parents love me:)

  18. Posted by on November 25, 2011 at 15:45

    Very helpful and relevant 🙂

  19. Posted by on November 25, 2011 at 15:32

    And also make sure hes not just with you for benefits /: been there, done that.. and its not a good experience.

  20. laly0123

    Posted by laly0123 on November 25, 2011 at 10:16

    This advises Are really working for me, I really recommend every girl to read it.

    Sincerely: LALY0123

  21. Posted by on November 23, 2011 at 20:21

    This has helped me soo much! 🙂 Thank ya very much 🙂

  22. MissMeggles

    Posted by MissMeggles on November 22, 2011 at 14:04

    Well, I suppose that eliminates Chase…
    He’s an atheist, but he has morals that reflect Christians. I’ve been telling myself lately that I can guide him towards God, as I try to become closer to him. Do you think it’ll work, or must I turn down the guy who is so much like myself?

    • Posted by on November 25, 2011 at 17:10

      My best friend is dating an atheist. She’s a Christian and her boyfriend is very nice and has Christianlike values for the most part, and they seemed happy together. But recently she told me that they had sex– which she had always told me she would wait until marriage for. She still professes to be Christian though and says that since they love each other it’s okay. This kind of situation is what makes dating atheists difficult: you have completely conflicting morals. No matter how nice he is, he doesn’t have God’s values. And as the Bible says, what fellowship does light have with darkness?

    • Posted by on November 25, 2011 at 12:41

      I’ve dated an atheist before, and let me tell you, dating them only hurts your Relationship With God. I too thought I could bring my now ex-boyfriend to Christ, but no matter what, it wouldn’t work. It also says in the Bible–a few verses actually.

      Deuteronomy 7:3 MSG

      Don’t marry them: Don’t give your daughters to their sons and don’t take their daughters for your sons.

      1 Corinthians 7:12-16 MSG

      For the rest of you who are in mixed marriages-Christian married to nonChristian-we have no explicit command from the Master. So this is what you must do. If you are a man with a wife who is not a believer but who still wants to live with you, hold on to her. If you are a woman with a husband who is not a believer but he wants to live with you, hold on to him. The unbelieving husband shares to an extent in the holiness of his wife, and the unbelieving wife is likewise touched by the holiness of her husband. Otherwise, your children would be left out; as it is, they also are included in the spiritual purposes of God. On the other hand, if the unbelieving spouse walks out, you’ve got to let him or her go. You don’t have to hold on desperately. God has called us to make the best of it, as peacefully as we can. You never know, wife: The way you handle this might bring your husband not only back to you but to God. You never know, husband: The way you handle this might bring your wife not only back to you but to God.

      2 Corinthians 6:14 MSG

      Don’t become partners with those who reject God. How can you make a partnership out of right and wrong? That’s not partnership; that’s war. Is light best friends with dark?

      1 Corinthians 15:33 NIV

      Do not be misled: “Bad company corrupts good character.”

      2 Timothy 3:1-5 NIV

      But mark this: There will be terrible times in the last days. People will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, proud, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, without love, unforgiving, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not lovers of the good, treacherous, rash, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God— having a form of godliness but denying its power. Have nothing to do with such people.

      Take it from me, dating an atheist will only hurt your Valuable Relationship with God.

      • Project Inspired

        Posted by xamazingxgracex on December 9, 2011 at 14:21

        I wouldn’t be so negative about having a relationship with an atheist–though I admit I may be thinking a bit ideally.

        I know atheists who have been saved, as many of you probably do, too. This transformation most definitely could not have been done without the holy spirit, but also those who helped that person along the way. I wouldn’t say I was ever an “atheist”, though I can say I hadn’t seen God and Christ for who they really are, and from my actions, I could have been considered near-atheist. And I am more than totally thankful now for those that helped me along the way when I was saved.

        If you have a relationship with someone atheist, but you yourself still hold your Christian values, and you both really care about each other, don’t give up at the word “atheist”. It’s true, you probably should not commit yourself totally to being that person’s “girlfriend”, but you should commit yourself to the cause of bringing them to Christ, and that may imply that you maintain a close relationship to them, even if it isn’t “romantic”. At the least, Christ will show through you. Or who knows, maybe it’ll lead to an even better relationship in the future. Then you would be dating a Christian.

        I’m not saying in any way that this is easy, nor that this is the best idea for everyone, since everyone’s situation is different. I’m just saying that you should not use solely the label “atheist” to judge entering a relationship–romantic or not.

      • Posted by Nicole on November 25, 2011 at 13:49

        I agree 1,000%. I dated an atheist as well, and it really hurt my relationship with God. Thank you for sharing these scriptures, they are very powerful!

    • Posted by on November 23, 2011 at 23:04

      Pray for him, witness to him about Jesus Christ and do not get seriously involved, because when you are in love with someone and you are in a relationship, emotions can take precedence and you may find yourself compromising in some ways, because your values will be different. If he doesnt want to change and become a christian, keep away. God will guide you every step of the way and he will give you someone you will love – Psalm 37:4

    • Project Inspired

      Posted by gabbagail1 on November 22, 2011 at 17:45

      I think that you need to be careful about this kind of thing, you should definitely pray for him and witness to him, but don’t get serious about him, because dating an atheist can affect your relationship with God.

  23. Posted by on November 22, 2011 at 08:53

    Thanks Allison! Excellent artice!! 😀

  24. Project Inspired

    Posted by rose919 on November 21, 2011 at 15:13

    when you finally can answer all of thes questions and say that he passes with 100% what do you do

    • Project Inspired

      Posted by Allison on November 21, 2011 at 15:29

      Ask God what to do. These are just guidelines about basics. And most likely when your younger (18 or under) you PROBABLY won’t find the real person. Even if a person matches up, you still need to wait. And don’t worry! If god want’s you to marry him, he’ll make it happen. 🙂 Good luck with your dream guy!! XOXO

      • Posted by on November 26, 2011 at 06:14

        Agreed! God will work on his own timing! Don’t try and make your relationship closer (or more intense) faster! Faster is never good it just leads to a “crash and explode” end and it will take a longer time for your heart to mend! (Nobody wants that!!)Also If you are really worried about finding the right guy start praying for your future husband and when you face the temptation of giving yourself or your heart away to another guy (who clearly doesn’t make the cut) write a letter to him (future husband)! Just something you can try! 🙂 hope it works for you! BUT RMEMBER ALWAYS LOOK TOWRADS GOD!! JESUS CHRIST (who will allow everything that happens to you to work for your good since he loves you so much) and will also give you all the love you will ever need and more!

      • Posted by on November 22, 2011 at 08:56

        That’s the way I see it…if it’s God’s will, it will happen 🙂

  25. Project Inspired

    Posted by Pure4him on November 21, 2011 at 13:23

    Awesome article!! Awesome part of it too, is that I am already doing that!! Yay! 🙂 😀 😉 <3

  26. Paris

    Posted by Paris on November 19, 2011 at 08:46

    Love it! I will defintiey look at these when I start dating.

  27. xSheax101

    Posted by xSheax101 on November 18, 2011 at 15:55

    Hey Allison! Good job!

  28. Project Inspired

    Posted by Secretcolor on November 18, 2011 at 11:55

    Amazing article! Great job!

  29. Project Inspired

    Posted by girlygirl1234 on November 18, 2011 at 11:38

    Amazing advice Allison! [=

  30. Project Inspired

    Posted by Samantha on November 17, 2011 at 23:46

    Wow that is really good advice thanks 😀 I was just wondering about that because I am now at the age were I can start dating!