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How to Move on From Past Relationships

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Soul ties can develop from bonding to a person emotionally, spiritually or physically. There are two types of soul ties: godly and ungodly soul ties. Why is this important to identify if our lives and why is it important to break agreements with ungodly ties? We want to step into our new future and not be bound by the past, amen?

Jesus gave many examples of how he would make all things new, and he said that you cannot put old wine into new wineskins, nor can you bring the old into the new beginnings (Matthew 9:17). We must realize that God is the great gardener of life and He prunes us from unfruitful relationships in our lives (John 15). There are seasons when we are called to shine a light to people and be in some acquaintances’ lives, and at times we move on from certain relationships.

 

Don’t remember the former things; don’t dwell on things past. (Isaiah 43:18)

 

To go to the next level in your life with the Lord, examine who is in your close circle. Soul ties don’t just have to be romantic; they can be friendships as well. Jonathan and David in the Bible were best guy friends and had a godly friendship and soul tie. We want to rid ourselves of any people who are toxic, who are leeching on the anointing in our lives or who are setting us back with distraction.

 

After David had finished talking with Saul, Jonathan became one in spirit with David, and he loved him as himself. (1 Samuel 18:1)

 

Yes, Jesus hung out with sinners, and we can minister, but there’s a difference between ministering to someone and partaking in their sin. Jesus hung out with “former” habitual sinners and would always say, “Go and sin no more.” Essentially, he hung out with those who were well-known sinners, but who repented: “changed their minds” and “turned their life around 180 degrees.” We are all sinners, but what makes us saved is that we ask God for forgiveness and choose His life of obedience.

 

“No one, sir,” she said. “Then neither do I condemn you,” Jesus declared. “Go now and leave your life of sin.” (John 8:11)

 

If you want to purify your life of unholy toxins, contamination or unclean spirits, watch the video below, where Dephne Madyara explains the importance of breaking off toxic ties in our lives. The Bible says we have all sinned and, of course, only the cross makes us Holy in God’s sight, but we must still renew our minds and be transformed daily into Christ’s likeness and image. The Bible says “You must be holy because I am holy” (1 Peter 1:16). If we are not walking like Jesus, why would people follow us to follow Christ? We must ask God to help us honor Him in our hearts, amen?

 

Click here to watch the “Breaking Soul Ties Courtship Class” video.

 

As I mentioned, there are friendly soul ties where you can bond together intimately in spirit or in emotions, but there are also sexual soul ties, because the Bible says that the “two shall become ONE flesh” (Mark 10:8). Hebrews 13:4 says “Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.”

We need to really understand the problem with binding ourselves to multiple people sexually. Sleeping around is not beneficial to your future marriage, and many people end up not committing or settling down the more people they sleep with because that glue that binds you together has been tampered with, since you are bonding with more than one person—with someone other than your future spouse. God is such a genius that He designed us so when someone gets married and becomes one with their spouse, it binds them in the spirit. We must repent and ask Jesus to cleanse us of any spiritual bonding to anyone other than our future mate.

We need to see that there are consequences and that this is serious because you are tampering with people’s souls. Please ask Jesus for forgiveness if you have been with someone other than your future husband. There is no condemnation when we are “in” Christ, meaning obeying and honoring Him, but we have “conviction” by the Holy Spirit showing us the best way to walk. We want to honor God with our body, mind, will, soul and emotions, so we must repent and align with Him and His Word.

Once you ask for forgiveness, do not harp on your past or beat yourself up. Set new standards of purity for your life and make a choice to not allow people to cross your boundaries emotionally and physically. Also, do not share information with just anyone or emotionally get involved with random people who are not your close friends or future spouse. The enemy can distract and thwart God’s plan by giving you bad advice or by planting seeds that are not from the Lord, so be watchful.

Let us not only guard our hearts, but also guard our future spouse’s heart and mind. We want to be accountable to how we treat others by not opening unnecessary doors like leading people on emotionally and/or just spending time with the opposite sex if they are not your spouse or significant other. No one is perfect, but hear me out: It is impossible to be with the opposite sex because of human nature—one of the two may fall in love with the other (even if one-sided) or develop deep, intimate ties to the person.

We cannot be careless with our hearts and lives as Christ followers and disciples. We do not want to be spiritually promiscuous, because if we are not being faithful with friendships, how can God entrust us with our future spouse? Ask Jesus to help you be kind to people around you, to not flirt, to not string people along, to not develop ungodly ties and to respect and honor or brothers and sisters in Christ.

If you cannot simply exercise self-control in this area of friendships, dating and courting, how can God give you marriage, which is a lifelong commitment and has boundaries to protect the home and the family? We must learn this information early to prevent unnecessary heartache and selfish behavior and let us break the cultural norms of what is acceptable. Let us be the change as disciples of Jesus Christ. The Lord says we will all give an account for our words and actions. I pray you are blameless in the Lord Jesus until the day of His return or our going home.

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  1. undecided

    Posted by undecided on October 29, 2017 at 15:29

    Hi. Can’t believe I’ve never run into your blog before. It’s wonderful! Please pray that I will exercise wisdom in relationships. I started online dating a year after my husband passed away and did it off and on for 4.5 years before I realized I was not going to find true love there. For me, it will have to happen in the most natural and organic way. I haven’t done it since March of this year. I’m finally okay being by myself but do have a relationship I had trouble releasing for a while. I don’t have any problem now and thought I was done but the thoughts came back this morning in the strangest way. I am leaving it totally up to God to do something because it would be a complete miracle if this guy did a 180 and apologized. Please pray that I will continue to leave it in His hands and out of mine. Thank you for all the wonderful posts and beautiful story. God is certainly faithful in all things. I’ve learned that in my own life and can’t be more grateful! <3 <3 <3