As a little girl, I spent a lot of time dreaming about my wedding day. A big, gorgeous white dress. Beautiful flowers everywhere you look. And a huge party with all my friends, eating my favorite foods and dancing the night away!
As I got older, I spent more time dreaming about my future husband. Would he be tall? Athletic? Funny or super smart? And did he happen to look like any of my favorite celebrity crushes?
Marriage is an amazing thing – a gift from God. In Scripture, God even goes so far as to compare the marriage of a man and woman to His love for the church. The Bible tells us that marriage is about becoming one with another person. (Ephesians 5:25-33) That’s pretty awesome. And when we get married, our spouse becomes our family and our home for the rest of our lives.
But a lot of people don’t actually prepare for marriage in the way they should. Getting ready for marriage is about a whole lot more than just planning a wedding. If you want a godly, lasting relationship with your spouse, you also need to be a godly and faithful wife. Here are four important things every girl should work on before getting married.
1. Prioritize your quiet time with the Lord.
Make sure you’re following God and spending time in the Word so you can hear from Him clearly. Set aside a few minutes every day to really dig into your Bible. Ask God to show you what He would have for your life and relationships. One of my favorite prayers to pray in quiet times with the Lord is this one from David in Psalm 139:23-24.
“Search me, God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. See if there is any offensive way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting.”
Along with spending quiet time with God, make sure you’re plugged in at a church, small group or somewhere that you can be spiritually fed and challenged. By laying this foundation before you’re married, you’re setting yourself up for a healthy relationship later on.
2. Connect spiritually with your soon-to-be spouse.
To have a godly marriage, you need to have God at the center of your relationship! The Bible tells us not to be unequally yoked with an unbeliever (2 Corinthians 6:14). So make sure you and your future husband are on the same page when it comes to your faith. Talk about religion and what you believe and why. Go to church together and discuss what you hear. When you and your spouse connect spiritually, it will only draw you closer together, building a stronger bond so you can have a marriage that lasts. Another great tip? Find a Bible study or devotional book that you can walk through together before and after you get married! Two great ones to check out are The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman and The Meaning of Marriage by Timothy Keller.
3. Find godly examples for your marriage.
There’s no doubt about it, marriage can be hard! And in difficult times, it’s helpful to have spiritual mentors who can walk beside you and your spouse. Godly examples can point you in the direction of wisdom, help and encouragement when you need it most. This could look like getting to know your pastors or some of the older couples in your church or community. You might also find it helpful to do marriage counseling with your future spouse before tying the knot. The more examples of godly, long-lasting relationships you have in your life before getting married, the better off you’ll be in the end.
4. Don’t lose yourself!
This last one might come as a surprise, but it’s super important! God made you special and unique, just the way that you are. (Psalm 139:14) And when you find that special someone to spend your life with, they should love you for who God created YOU to be! After you get married, it’s still important to make time for your family, your close friends and even a favorite hobby or two! Don’t lose yourself simply because you’re in a relationship. In fact, the right relationship will make you feel 100% comfortable with being yourself.
The best type of marriage is one that God has been fully welcomed into. So if you want to be a godly and faithful wife for your future husband, don’t forget these four important steps! Do you have anything else that you would add to this list? Stop by our Project Inspired Instagram and let us know!