How to Respond to Your Parents and Tame Your Tongue
Written by Christi Given | March 11, 2018
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This week, a PI Girl asked on our Facebook Girl Talk forum about how to respond to parents when they don’t understand you or maybe get under your skin.
We all have been there, and life isn’t perfect, nor is being around family all the time. Although we may feel right or may be right in a specific situation, we always must honor our parents. The Bible says “’Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. Honor your father and mother’—which is the first commandment with a promise—so that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth” (Ephesians 6:1-3).
Sometimes in life, people closest to us can provoke us or irritate us or get us out of character. We must watch, pray and stay in the spirit. Make sure that you do not allow your emotions, flesh or your feelings to run your mouth and be sure to guard your tongue. None of us are perfect, and if we slip, we must repent quickly. The Bible tells us to not allow the sun to go down in our anger or hurt. Amen?
Be angry, but don’t sin—don’t let the sun go down before you have dealt with the cause of your anger. (Ephesians 4:26)
We must also choose our words carefully, not only when people upset us, but also toward our parents especially. We’ve all been guilty of saying things we don’t mean, but we must forgive and make sure we have a repentant heart. It’s very hard to undo certain things that were said. Even if you mean well or if you speak out of your hurt or pain, words can do a lot of damage, so think before you speak. I heard Dr. Caroline Leaf say on her podcast to think, breathe and think more before responding.
Likewise, the tongue is a small part of the body, but it makes great boasts. Consider what a great forest is set on fire by a small spark. The tongue also is a fire, a world of evil among the parts of the body. It corrupts the whole body, sets the whole course of one’s life on fire, and is itself set on fire by hell. (James 3:5-6)
In life, or in a specific situation, we may want to be right. Whether we are correct or not, how we respond and what tone we use can totally affect the outcome of the conversation or argument. If we respond in a soft, gracious way, it can change the mood of the other person. If we respond in anger, rashly or harshly toward the other party, it can make things worse. Let’s try to remember the fruit of the spirit, which is self-control, and also remember to respond the way we would want to be spoken to.
A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. (Proverbs 15:1)
But I say unto you, That every idle word that men shall speak, they shall give account thereof in the day of judgment. (Matthew 12:36)
PI Girls, whether or not you agree with your parents, you should respect them and honor your authorities. In addition, we must guard our mind, thoughts and our lips as we will be held accountable.
We are praying for you, PI Girls! God bless you.
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