Pain and change are two things that are inevitable in life. As much as we try to avoid, go around and guard ourselves against them, they are a part of life that every single person faces. Whether you’ve endured a recent heartbreak, disappointment, mistreatment or other dreaded circumstance that is out of your control, remember God has a purpose in all things. “What good could ever come out of pain when it feels so terrible?”, you may ask. Well, many times it’s not about what we go through, but how we go through it. Here are a few ways to turn your pain into a purpose.
1. Use it to grow closer to God.
Being alone can become a beautiful experience when it turns into being alone with God. In fact, you’re in the perfect place to have a run-in with your Father because, according to His Word, He is close to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18).
Many times we can find ourselves giving in to our emotions and unhealthy or self-destructive habits and ways of thinking. We sit in our pain, thinking about everything but God. However, like any relationship, it’s through the good and the hard times that two beings create a bond closer than ever. It’s the same with God. He wants to be with you in these moments.
- Listen to worship music.
- Fall asleep to an audio reading of the Bible.
- Invest in a devotional, such as Jesus Calling.
- Write a letter to God about what you’re going through (He can read, you know).
- Intentionally surround yourself with people who will speak His faith into your life.
2. Let it mold your character to become better, not bitter.
The truth is you can let your pain shape you or you can decide to become a better person based on what you’ve learned from this experience. It’s easy to victimize ourselves when life’s tragedies strike. We question why it happens: “Why is this happening to me? God, why are you letting this happen to me? How could they do this to me?” Slowly but surely, we can slide into bitterness. As natural as it may be, it’s a shortsighted way to think.
Getting practical: When someone treats you unjustly, let it serve as a lesson on how never to treat another person, because you know how it feels. When someone breaks your heart, be grateful God saved you from the wrong person and remember what red flags to look out for in the next relationship. When life takes something away from you, let it become a humble appreciation for what you do have. Learn to have eyes through your pain that teach you to rise above.
3. Reflect on what you can learn from this.
Always, always self-reflect. You don’t want to just go through hard experiences—you want to grow though them. This is what brings wisdom and strength from our pain. This is where it all serves a purpose.
Getting practical: Journal every ounce of what you’ve felt through this pain. Write about what happened, how it made you feel, what you wish you knew before and what you would do differently going forward because of what you know now. Let your self-reflection help you mature.
4. Realize what you go through is never just for you.
This is one big realization every soul purposed by God has to come to understand. There will be people who come behind you having gone through either the same or a similar experience related to the pain you’ve faced. They will need you to help uplift them. They will need to endure and find healing. So as much as we want to make these things just about ourselves, they simply aren’t. You have to have a bigger picture because we have a big God who works all things together for good.
Getting practical: Think about the people in your life who may be going through a hard time right now. Reach out to someone in need.
Have faith because you can grow in purpose through your pain.
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