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How to Witness to Friends at School!

Anonymous writes…

Hello, I’m 16 and I come from a Christian home and I have recently started to take my faith seriously. I’m looking for some advice on witnessing to friends in school. I have a friend who isn’t from a Christian home and her family is broken. She dated a Christian boy from my school for a while but he broke it off because she wasn’t a Christian. This has effectively given her a bad view on Christianity and while speaking to her today she said that she understands I’m a Christian but it’s just not for her and she would feel like she wasn’t herself.

I thought to myself, how can it not be for her when Jesus gave His life for everyone surely? I really love this friend and I would love for her to understand what it really means to be a Christian but I’m having trouble communicating it to her and I think she needs to experience it for herself which is the hard part.

What can I say and do to help? Some friends and I invited her to a Christian festival last summer where she claimed she got saved and felt something but I think it was in the moment because she has changed her mind. Now she won’t even come to any Christian related meetings with us.

Thank you


Thank you so much for writing in with your question. This can be a very tricky area because as Christians, we are filled with the precious hope of Christ and want to witness to the world out of gratitude for what He has done in our own lives. Christ also commanded us to share His good news (Matthew 28:19-20), and as His servants, we must obey.

However, we must take care when sharing the good news of Jesus Christ that we do so in a way that will not push people away from Christ. We must always remember to speak the wonderful news of Christ to others out of a heart of love and compassion, and not out of judgement and condemnation. We were all without Christ at some point in our lives, and are saved by God’s wonderful grace alone (Ephesians 2:8) and not anything we have done.

I think the most important thing we can do as Christians is to pray for our friends who are without Christ. Many times we want to take control and to see results quickly. However, God is in control of all things, and we must faithfully pray for our friends and surrender control of the situation to God. Don’t ever, ever, ever give up.

Next, I encourage you to be extra careful in how you live in front of your unsaved friend. If she sees you do things that are ‘different’ from the other people around you because of your convictions, this will show her that Christ has made a difference in your life. On the other hand, if you live the same way as your unsaved friends doing things that are contrary to God’s Word, she will be offended and resist Christianity.

This does not mean that the responsibility of whether or not she gets saved rests on you, sweet friend! I don’t want to put that pressure on you at all. It is our job to be a witness to our friends, but only God through His Holy Spirit can draw sinners to repentance (John 6:65).

I hope that these words will help you and encourage you. Please feel free to write us back at any time and let us know how things are going. I will be praying for you and for your friend.

Written by Heart of Worship for weused2bu.com

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  1. Posted by on October 21, 2011 at 21:09

    Hi- I really dont know what witnessing is? Im a christian and im starting to take my faith seriously. but i dont know what witnessing actually means?

  2. Posted by on September 17, 2011 at 18:47

    Hey so im Catholic and i dont understand the whole saved thing, could you please explain it to me? its not something catholics do

    • Project Inspired

      Posted by Beckyquest on November 5, 2012 at 13:11

      God knows everything you have done and everything you will do. Since everyone is by nature a sinner, they have fallen short of the glory of God (Romans 3:23). Because God is just, sin cannot go unpunished. In the eyes of a perfect God, (who will NEVER sin,) sin separates us from him. To put it simply, sin is not being or doing what God requires and doing what God forbids. Only one sin makes you a sinner and the penalty for sin is death (Romans 6:23). This does not mean you physically die immediately when you sin but you are dead to God because you, by your own choice, have disobeyed him and are condemned to hell. But God loved you so much that He provided a way to be saved from this judgement if you put your trust in Him and repent and follow Him. How? The only way we could gain favor in God’s sight (because YOU can do nothing to get rid of your sin not even what seems good in your eyes), is if a perfect human took your place and took the penalty of death for your sin instead of you. Jesus came to earth as a baby miraculously conceived of the Holy Spirit and grew up as a human, living a perfect life. he was killed, dying a terrible, painful, shameful, physical death on a cross. You can have hope because he conquered death by coming back to life after three days of being dead. God wants you to believe that you can be saved from spiritual death by Jesus Christ’s death and resurrection (coming back to life). We all will physically die someday but if you have believed that Jesus died for you an can take away your sin, ask to be forgiven for your sin and follow him every day for the rest of your life, he promises that you will have everlasting life in heaven when you die. I hope, Mallory, that I’m not too late (since I just saw this) and that you will see this, but if not, this good news is for everyone and I’m praying that someone will receive it and believe.

      • Project Inspired

        Posted by rosedimag on August 31, 2017 at 13:19

        Very well said! I’m on the mobile PI website and just read it all as a free verse poem haha

  3. Posted by on June 23, 2011 at 20:27

    i know someone, who claims theyre a Christian, but they sometimes dont act like it. for example they cuss alot, and is sometimes close-minded (if you know what i mean)to Christian related things… i saw some of the comments and i feel alot better abpout the situation now. im going to keep praying for this person, and hopefully theyll be able to have a stronger relationship with Christ! thanks nicole!!!

  4. Posted by on June 10, 2011 at 18:41

    Nicole! Since you know that having faith and putting your heart in Christ is the way to be saved, why can’t you read your Bible and pray and have faith in Him that He’ll lead you to the right church? Can you not do this while still going to the church? I don’t know your whole story, but I’m praying for you! :)!! I also think if you are a child/teen then you should obey your parents, but again, pray, seek God’s answer :)!

    • Posted by Nicole on June 12, 2011 at 00:14

      Hey Sarah I am praying, but I just moved to a new city and I’m in the process of finding a good one! Pray that I find the best one to glorify God. 🙂

  5. Posted by on June 3, 2011 at 15:26

    Julia- I used to be Catholic. They’re Christians. Actually, all the other denominations broke off of them….

  6. Posted by on June 2, 2011 at 13:55

    thank u Izzi. I like your adivce Izzi. God bless u.<3 😀

  7. Posted by on June 2, 2011 at 06:15

    Hi Nicole! There is a boy that I met at camp last yr. The camp is called Revive and my uncle does the praise and worship for it. Anyway He is two yrs older than me and at the time acted like the best Christian (if u know what I mean. So at camp we became good friends, at the time he went to Providence Christian School which is where I also go. Later that yr he transfered to Northview and not to b judgmental but that school is very, for lack of better words,bad! So later on he asked me to b his girlfriend and I said no bcuz all the time he used bad language and ppl were teelin me other really bad stuff abt him.

    He has called me a couple of times to talk abt his faith in God which to me is the most important thing in any relationship,even being just friends. He seemed really confused abt whether He was a Christian or not and he told me (in better words) that he seriously got misguided as far as the truth.I didn’t know what to do. So like he told me not to, I talked to my uncle Tom to which he talked to at camp.
    I feel like Iv’e completely closed off the whole witnessing relationship, bcuz now he won’t talk to me and doesnt trust me. what should I do??
    Thanks a bunch!

    • Posted by Nicole on June 2, 2011 at 10:39

      hey Lauren- this is a hard situation. I know how you feel, because this has happened to me too. I would just continue to share the good news about God, don’t let him shut you off entirely. Tell him all the wonderful things that God has done in your life, and the miracles he perfumed! Tell him that God loves him as much as he loves you, and that’s the best and only way you can continue to witness to him. Pray for him that God will soften his heart and show him the truth! God Bless, I hope this helped a little. 🙂

  8. Posted by on June 1, 2011 at 17:10

    thank you for the advice i have a friend that is mormon and i was just wondering, what is your opinion?

    • Posted by Nicole on June 2, 2011 at 10:41

      Hey Erin! This is what I know about mormons:

      Mormons consider themselves Christians. They believe in Christ. The typical definition of a “Christian” is one who is a follower of Jesus Christ.
      Ask her if she believes in Jesus and what he did for the world.
      However, some Christians do not accept Mormons as Christians because the Mormon faith includes beliefs outside the traditional Bible. Specifically they believe in the Book of Mormon which they believe is an additional testament of Christ. This leads some to conclude that they are not Christians. There is also a difficult history in the United States between Mormons and Christians, especially going back to the period long-ago when Mormons allowed more than one wife. But most of that is long resolved, and in general, mainstream Christians view Mormons as good people of faith.

      One thing for sure is that Mormons are hard working, family oriented, God loving people.
      The best thing you can do is continually pray for her! God bless.

  9. Posted by on June 1, 2011 at 12:32

    I have a friend who is muslim and I really want to witness to her but we are in different classes so I’m praying next year that God will put her in my class so I have a better chance of witnessing to her.

    • Posted by Nicole on June 1, 2011 at 12:39

      continue praying for her Emily! God will work on her heart, I promise!

  10. Posted by on May 31, 2011 at 19:22

    Katherine, sister!
    I must confess to you that i have a passion for the catholic church. I’ve grown up non-denominational, but i’ve known alot of catholics, and done some study on there devolution from the time of Acts 4. First, i recommend that you get a NIV bible, something in modern english, the language you speak fluently. (vs. old english) Second, recognize that the Lord uses all things to bring his sheep closer to him, you have the priceless blessing to get to pray for your family and confront the catholic leaders fearlessly; knowing that the lord will stand by you when you stand by him. Spend daily time on your knees, as peter said “Pray continuosly”, read your new bible daily, and ask the lord to make you intimate with him, request that he teach you to fall madly in love with him. Fellowship doesn’t prevent a relationship with GOd, but if you don’t have a liscence and can’t get to a slightly more biblical church then just start with making christian friends. Join clubs at your school, find the bible studies and join them, or even maybe start them. Pick up your cross, and follow him. Learn to be not just a catholic, not just a protestant, but a disciple of jesus christ, the risen Lord.
    I’m not saying it’s gunna be easy, i’m not even saying it’ll be pleasant, but remember christian joy and i bid you good luck on your journey to fall in love with Jesus.
    Also, i’d like to remind you that the churches are full of “fluff christians”…people who just go and come from church, who don’t act like christians and who are simply living out there middle class lifestyle…and that’s not the lifestyle a christian is called to live at all. It’s actually the exact oppositem, DON’T BECOME CONTENT WITH YOUR FAITH, but continuously swim upstream towards God.

  11. Posted by on May 31, 2011 at 18:16

    hey nicole i really need you to reply to this, are mormons christian?

    • Posted by Nicole on June 1, 2011 at 11:42

      Hey Erin! This is a very good question! I think the most important part of this response is that:

      Mormons consider themselves Christians. They believe in Christ. The typical definition of a “Christian” is one who is a follower of Jesus Christ.

      However, some Christians do not accept Mormons as Christians because the Mormon faith includes beliefs outside the traditional Bible. Specifically they believe in the Book of Mormon which they believe is an additional testament of Christ. This leads some to conclude that they are not Christians. There is also a difficult history in the United States between Mormons and Christians, especially going back to the period long-ago when Mormons allowed more than one wife. But most of that is long resolved, and in general, mainstream Christians view Mormons as good people of faith.

      One thing for sure is that Mormons are hard working, family oriented, God loving people!
      I hope this helps! God Bless. 🙂

  12. Posted by on May 31, 2011 at 13:54

    Thank you for the encouragement!! 🙂 I love this website and everything that oyu are doing on it!

  13. Posted by on May 31, 2011 at 13:46

    Nicole, what I do if someone or me no longer wanted to be a Catholic but want to leave the church to find Christ instead by reading the bible and learn that good work does not get u to Heaven and learn to have a realateship with Jesus and He die for us to be forgive of our sin. I thinking about leaving the Catholic faith for good and learn about Christ like the early Christian did by having faith in him and I learn that the Catholic teaching is different from what the bible teach. I try to tell my mom that I longer a Catholic, but she upset that I going to break the tradion of our family faith for the first time. What should I do? I know in my heart that still being in the Catholic church keep me away from having a realateship with Jesus Christ and I may not be saved. 🙁 Try to help me if u can. PS I just want to a non-demonational christian once I leave the Catholic faith. Thank! 🙂

    • Patty

      Posted by Patty on August 17, 2012 at 06:51

      Hey, Im a Catholic, but I dont have the same feeling as you. Recently, I became very strong in my faith and I do not think that my Catholic church keeps me away from my personal relationships with Jesus, actually it strengtened it 🙂

    • Posted by on November 18, 2011 at 21:42

      Keep up the faith! I am praying for you.

  14. Posted by on May 31, 2011 at 11:54

    I feel the same way about witnessing to one of my closest friends at school. She is Catholic and I’m pretty sure she is not saved. She knows that I am very strong n my faith and that I take it seriously still she mocks it. She is leaving my school this year so I have 7 dayx to witness to her and I feel the same way, I really want her to become a Christian but I know I cannot make the choice for her, she must make it herself.

    I have another friend who is Jehova’s Witness, I want to witness to them both.

    My advice would be pray to God about everything, eve while you try to witness to her. Pray a lot about it, and if it is God’s will then she will accept Him. If at first she resents it keep trying don’t give up and never stop praying for her. The powerof prayer is so great and that and reading your Bible will really help you witness. You said that she knows that Bible so when witnessing to her use phrases like “God says” and “God’s word says” This usually helps them realalize that it’s not people it’s God. I hope this helps!

    • Posted by on July 12, 2011 at 16:07

      hey in a way, julia, i know how you’re feelin. my best friend has been gettin into trouble by his mouth and actions. i’ve told him, and i went and bought him a bible.i know i can’t just make his choices for him, and i don’t like thinking about the outcome of what might happen if he doesn’t accept Jesus Christ as his Lord and Saviour. i know all i can do now is pray for him, be there for him, and be a role model for him. so just keep praying about it. if you can’t show her the light, pray for her, that some one will, and taht she will accept it.

    • Posted by Nicole on May 31, 2011 at 12:24

      Hey Julia- thank you so, so much for sharing this with us. That is so amazing that you are witnessing to your friends! God will reward you for it I promise. 🙂 Stay strong!