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How to Worship If Your Parents Won’t Take You to Church

Sometimes, for whatever reason, your parents may simply refuse to take you to church. When this happens, how are we supposed to worship the Creator?

When we can’t make it to church, we miss out on a couple of important things: fellowship with other believers and corporate worship. This is a difficult situation, but it also can be an opportunity to consider an important question:

Who’s responsible for my Christian faith?

The answer is that each of us is responsible for our own faith. It’s our responsibility to develop Christian friendships, to read the Bible, to apply what we learn to our lives and to seek out leaders who can help us to learn more. Once you realize your faith is your responsibility, you’ll begin to feel less powerless about certain situations (like not being able to get to church) because there are things you can do!

Let’s think about the major points of a church service. Every church service usually includes the following things: worship, prayer, teaching and spending some time in fellowship (talking and hanging out) with other believers. The most difficult thing to recreate on your own is fellowship with other believers, which we’ll address in a bit.

First, let’s gather the elements you’ll need to worship outside of church. Keep in mind that the very first church services took place in the homes of believers or any other place that believers were able to meet!

  1. Prayer – You can never pray enough, so start with this! Pray for the Lord to open the hearts of your parents, pray for guidance on what to do until you can get to church, pray for Christian friends. Prayer is the most important thing, so pour out your heart to God and then get organized!
  2. Worship – You can find worship music on iTunes, Spotify, Pandora and other Internet radio sites. Create a playlist of some awesome worship music!
  3. Teaching – Grab your Bible and decide what you’d like to learn more about. There are tons of places online where you can find Bible studies to work through or sermons to listen to, such as www.internetcafedevotions.com or YouVersion’s Bible app or website–they have over a hundred free Bible lessons. The church you want to attend may also have a website featuring the sermons for the current week, so make sure to check!
  4. Fellowship – Call at least one Christian friend and find a time and place to hang out (if you don’t want to meet at home, try a park). If you can’t get a ride to see your friend in person, then set up a time to hang out via Skype. Fellowship is important because when we hang out with other Christians, we encourage each other and keep each other accountable in our faith.

Once you’ve gathered all of your elements, you’re ready to have your own church service! It might not be exactly what you’ve been hoping for, but it will keep you connected with the Lord and with other believers. It also shows the people around you that you aren’t willing to give up on your faith just because you can’t get a ride to church. The Spirit of God doesn’t reside in church buildings, He resides in the hearts of believers everywhere. Churches are great, but you don’t need a church building to have a church service!

Do you girls think this is a good option if you can’t make it to church?

Do you not know that you are a temple of God and that the Spirit of God dwells in you? (1 Corinthians 3:16)

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  1. Project Inspired

    Posted by faithprincess on October 20, 2017 at 20:59

    I can’t find a church so I get Bible studies that focus on what the word means and helps me not topics that don’t relate to me at all.

  2. Project Inspired

    Posted by ihaveareasontodance on January 17, 2014 at 13:59

    I go to church but I still think this was an awesome and helpful article!

  3. SingingSara6

    Posted by SingingSara6 on March 11, 2013 at 12:27

    I wonder what to do sometimes when can’t go to church because I go with my grandma on Saturday and sometimes my parents have other things planned for me. I read the bible every night but it never feels like enough because I’m use to that so when I miss church it doesn’t feel right. This helped a lot 🙂

  4. Project Inspired

    Posted by lovejesus2012 on October 10, 2012 at 21:51


  5. Project Inspired

    Posted by lv2playmusic on August 6, 2012 at 05:20

    I love this! I can’t always make it to church because my dad plans alot of stuff on the weekends that I can’t get out of.

  6. Project Inspired

    Posted by LaneyD on August 3, 2012 at 15:50

    This was definitely helpful! My parents aren’t Christians so I’m not allowed to go to church.

  7. Project Inspired

    Posted by cerisepink on June 29, 2012 at 13:46

    Thank you! This is very helpful!

  8. Project Inspired

    Posted by Jeanni on June 17, 2012 at 09:40

    My parents don’t let me go to Church so I Praise the Lord everyday! (:


  9. Project Inspired

    Posted by mc1207 on June 1, 2012 at 18:14

    Fellowship is SOOOOOOO important. If not, perhaps the most important of all these (on your own). Having an older, mentor-like, friend to pray and worship with you (get coffee, talk with, etc) is extremely helpful and can help your faith a ton. I go to church alone and live in a city so I can go by myself but if you can’t go alone and have to have someone drive you I really encourage you not to give up. Soon you’ll be able to drive or will be in college with like-minded people and a community even if it’s not your blood family. Brothers and sisters are nearby so fear not!

  10. Project Inspired

    Posted by MusicMaker95 on May 31, 2012 at 11:40

    I don’t go to church anymore for several reasons, but I attend a Bible study which has become like church to me, and I’ve grown so much in it, whereas I never did in a church with walls. In that Bible study God has transformed me into an on fire Christian.
    I just want to encourage others that if for whatever reason, you don’t have a church right now, it’s okay. God doesn’t judge you if you don’t have an organized church to be in every Sunday. Heaven knows just sitting in a church doesn’t make you a Christian, and visa-versa. Sure, going to church is the ideal, but if you can’t, your Christian walk is not worth less.
    Just wanted to throw that out there, and thank you for posing this, Miss Arman. It is a topic in need of discussion, I think.

  11. Project Inspired

    Posted by 1_artist on May 30, 2012 at 15:56

    Very good point, we can’t just blame others for any lack of faith we have, our faith is our own. Sometimes our parents can’t really help it if they can’t take us to church, especially if there’s a good reason, so I don’t think they should get ALL the blame. Anyway, church does help others learn about and stay strong in their faith, that’s why it’s important, but if you miss it, I don’t think it’s a sin (as far as I know), just continue believing in Christ (maybe you’ll make it to church NEXT time), don’t allow anyone to deter you from your faith, not even your own family (believe it or not, God loves us more than our own parents! That’s not to put down parents, it’s just the truth).

  12. Project Inspired

    Posted by poochker on May 30, 2012 at 12:36

    This is so true!

  13. Paris

    Posted by Paris on May 30, 2012 at 11:06

    Great idea Mrs. Arman! We should do that on here.

  14. love4494

    Posted by love4494 on May 30, 2012 at 08:27

    Our Church also records our sermons that people can go on the website and listen to.