“I Like Him, But We Only Talk Online. Now He’s Acting Weird…Help!”
Written by Aysha Ives | September 26, 2013
I like this guy, but we usually only talk on Facebook or through video chats. We used to flirt a lot and I started to like him a lot. The problem is that now he’s acting funny. He only responds to me with one-word answers and he says that I chat with him too much! What should I do?
Social media is probably one of the greatest advancements of this generation! We can now build friendships with people in other states and even share the Gospel across continents just by turning on the computer! It’s an amazing thing, but it does come with some drawbacks.
Building a relationship is hard enough, but it’s even harder when electronic communication is the primary way that two people correspond. Even with video chatting, some of the nonverbal communication that is so important in relationships can be missed. Online relationships can and do work out for some people, but those relationships are generally harder to create and sustain, especially for teenagers. This is because it’s pretty hard for teenagers who live far away to spend time together offline, which really impacts the relationship.
Here are some other things for you to consider:
- Did you express your feelings for him recently? If he stopped communicating with you after you told him that you liked him, maybe he just needs some time to figure things out. Sometimes guys struggle with nonverbal cues (especially over the computer), so you may have caught him off guard. And that’s okay! If this is what’s going on, perhaps you should have an upfront and direct (but loving) conversation with him about it.
- Avoid trying to force the friendship! If he needs space, then it’s probably a good idea to give it to him. Try not to focus so much energy on a guy who isn’t currently reciprocating your feelings.
- Focus on your own inner healing. Clearly you’ve been hurt by this situation and you should spend some time allowing the wound to heal. Spend more time in God’s presence and treat yourself to something special. Love on yourself a little more so that you don’t forget just how SPECIAL you really are!
- Don’t let resentment in! Sometimes when someone hurts us, we can become a little angry toward that person. But try not to allow yourself to become bitter! God loves you very much and has the PERFECT guy in store for you! If this person is, in fact, that guy, then God will work out the situation for the good of both of you. However, if he isn’t, then release any negative feelings that you’re harboring so that you’re open to receive the RIGHT guy who WILL eventually cross your path.
What do you girls think? Is online dating a good idea? Have you ever been in this situation?