“If Guys Respect Modesty So Much, Why Do They Date Girls Who Don’t?”

    I know that guys really respect modesty, but I always see guys (particular famous ones) who have girlfriends or admire females that do not dress too modestly all the time. Famous teen male singers are an example of this; I feel they actually ignore the modest girls. If guys respect modesty so much, why do they date girls who don’t? I guess I cannot blame them; the girls that dress that way are usually super pretty.

    Ugh! I totally get how this can be confusing! After all, PI is a huge advocate for modesty, not just in clothing choices, but also in a person’s whole being–the way they act and the way they live. So it’s definitely confusing when you see so many guys dating girls who just don’t dress or act modestly. What’s up with that?

    I can’t judge what’s in a guy’s heart. There are probably tons of reasons why guys date immodest girls. And when you bring Hollywood into the picture, well, that just takes everything to a whole new level of reasoning! Maybe the guys are competing with their friends, maybe they’re attracted to the immodesty, maybe they see the girl as a token of their own success, or maybe they just really like the girl and overlook the immodesty. I really don’t know. What I do know is what I’ve heard from guys themselves, and often the reasoning is not good.

    I think you should change your focus! Don’t think about why guys have girlfriends who dress immodestly. Instead, put your focus on YOU and how you as a Christian present yourself.

    Unfortunately, immodesty is prevalent in our culture. And it’s come to the point where some things aren’t even considered immodest anymore. In fact, it’s become a competition, it seems, especially on the red carpet, to see whose neckline plunges the furthest or who dares to show the most. My suggestion to you is to not take your lead from Hollywood. Instead, look to the Bible for guidance.

    We’ve published a lot of posts on modesty and immodesty here on PI. If you haven’t already, I highly recommend that you check them out–some are from the guys’ point of views! But again, put the focus on you and never let the world, least of all Hollywood, dictate what you do or sway you from your Christian values.

    10 Things Teen Boys Don’t Want You to Know

    Faith Saver: What Christian Guys Think About Modesty

    What Do Christian Guys Really Think About Sexual Purity?

    Style Guide for Christian Girls: Modesty

    What Does Modesty REALLY Mean?

    Good luck and God bless!

    Need some advice? Ask your relationship questions in the Ask Olivia Girl Talk forum or in the comments below and I might answer them in a future article!

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