Every week, I go through the “Girl Talk” section of Project Inspired and look for those seeking advice and counsel. I want to help answer some questions you may have about living out your Christian life and walk of faith! We want PI to be a safe place where you can ask questions.
This week a PI girl inquires about how to deal with change—becoming a teenager, moving to another church and more.
“I’m a music pastor’s daughter, and last year we left our old church and went a year without a full-time job. Now we go to a Lutheran church…the pastor is AWESOME…[but] I get along better with my sister’s friends, [and] I just can’t deal with all this change. Not only that, but ALL my friends were at the other church; I haven’t seen any of them for a year! The worst part is that I hate change! And I’m…kind of doubting God a bit. What do I do?”
Wow, this is a lot of change in a small amount of time, so I understand that it can be overwhelming!
First, realize that you are not alone. Think about your sister and other siblings (if you have any) and your parents, who are adapting to the change as well. Also, you may even meet a friend or two in your youth group or within the church.
Another thing to do is PRAY. When we feel overwhelmed by life, by changes, by unpredictable circumstances, we need to lean on the Lord Jesus and let Him take the wheel—like Carrie Underwood sings. We need to focus on what really matters, and TRUST that God has gone before us, wants the best for us (Jeremiah 29:11) and is FOR us (Romans 8:31).
“What, then, shall we say in response to these things? If God is for us, who can be against us?” (Romans 8:31)
Another good piece of advice is to share your feelings and thoughts with your friends and family. Confide in your parents and let them know how you’re feeling. Maybe they can’t change your situation or circumstances, but they can definitely lend their ear and help get you through this difficult time.
Another thing I would recommend is to pick up a hobby, sport or interest. It’s always good to keep yourself busy and doing positive things. Maybe you’re athletic or artistic, or just like to listen to music and write in your journal—whatever it is, focus on a positive outlet and do that when you feel down.
Of course, as always, read the Word of God to give you the truth about your life—how special and valuable you are. The Word will help you remember how much God cares for your life and that He has great plans for you. You have to realize God already knows the end from the beginning, so if we go to His Word for guidance, we will be on a good path for our future. Not only that, but we will have a sound mind and peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7), and can surrender to God’s will. Amen?
Five tips for dealing with change:
1. Relate and meet new people.
3. Share your feelings and thoughts with friends and family.
4. Pick up a hobby or sport or be active in a creative outlet.
5. Read the Bible (God’s Holy Word) for encouragement.
PI Girls, what advice do you have for handling times of change in life? Comment below!