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    Insecure Much? 3 Things to Remember

    Being a girl in this day and age is hard. So many voices fly at us every single day about what the “perfect” body looks like, what the most “desirable” personality type is, and what would make us the “best” catch. These are just the voices coming at us from the culture! There are also the voices which reside in our own heads, which become incredibly loud when we look in a mirror, “Your nose is too long”, “Your hair is too frizzy”, or “Your stomach isn’t flat enough.”

    What if I were to tell you that you can fight back against your insecurities with the never-changing, life-altering truth of God’s Word? Paul encourages us in 2 Corinthians 10:5 to be sure that we are “casting down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ.” Here are three beautiful truths to get you started. Meditate on these, and you will be well on your way to being equipped to fight back against the lies of insecurity!

    No amount of external beauty can bring me internal peace.

    Many of us regularly believe the lie that if only we were prettier, then we would be happier. True, lasting, inner peace does not come from what we do or do not look like on the outside. Philippians 4:6-7 says true peace comes from being in relationship with God: “Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.”

    True peace comes from being in a deep, abiding, ever-growing, intimate relationship with Christ- a relationship that is characterized by our casting our every care on Him (1 Peter 5:7) and praying without ceasing (see 1 Thessalonians 5:17). Even if dazzling outward beauty were to promise us peace, it would never last and would instead be just for a short time. As Proverbs 31:30 says, “Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing, but a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised.”

    No amount of external affirmation can confirm my worth.

    The reality is that it doesn’t matter what other people think of us. No matter how much they do or do not esteem, respect, praise, affirm, or admire us, it has no effect on our lasting worth in Christ. As Christ’s beautiful words in Luke 12:7 remind us, “the very hairs of your head are all numbered. Do not fear therefore; you are of more value than many sparrows.” Our worth has been and will always be confirmed by Christ and who we are in Him – not what anyone else thinks. This affords us great lasting peace and the ability to rest in Him!

    Nobody can settle my identity except Christ Himself.

    The glorious good news of the gospel is that our identity is solely based and founded upon who we are in Christ, and therefore is an identity with a firm foundation. A foundation that cannot be shaken or altered or changed, no matter what. First Peter 2:9 describes us as, “a chosen generation, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, His own special people, that you may proclaim the praises of Him who called you out of darkness into His marvelous light.” Genesis 1:27-28 defines our identity with these words, “So God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them. Then God blessed them, and God said to them, ‘Be fruitful and multiply; fill the earth and subdue it; have dominion over the fish of the sea, over the birds of the air, and over every living thing that moves on the earth’”. Second Corinthians 5:17 says we are “a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new.”, while verse 20 says “Now then, we are ambassadors for Christ, as though God were pleading through us: we implore you on Christ’s behalf, be reconciled to God.”

    That, my friend, is who you are. That is what makes up your identity. That is where you find worth. Most of all, that is why you no longer have to ever be insecure again. Remember who you are in Christ and you will be on the ready to fight back against the lies of the enemy.

    Rebekah Hargraves
    Rebekah Hargraves
    Rebekah Hargraves is a wife, mama of two littles, blogger, podcaster, and author whose passion is to edify, equip, and encourage women in their journey of Biblical womanhood, particularly with an emphasis on the gospel and its implications for everyday life. Rebekah's first book, "Lies Moms Believe (And How the Gospel Refutes Them)" released the fall of 2017, and the "Lies Moms Believe" Companion Bible Study came out March 30, 2018. You can find Rebekah on her website, Hargraves Home and Hearth, on Instagram, or on iTunes via The Home and Hearth podcast.

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