Every week, I go through the “Girl Talk” section of Project Inspired and look for those seeking advice and counsel. I want to help answer some questions you may have about living out your Christian life and walk of faith! We want PI to be a safe place where you can ask questions.
This week, I want to discuss a question stemming from the theme of the month, purity. A PI Girl wrote in and asked, “Can purity can become an idol?”
I believe this is a deep question that requires wisdom and definitely demands a response of balance. Of course our aim as Christians is to be holy and pure, but we need to keep Jesus at the forefront and focus on what the Bible tells us while maintaining a healthy balance of knowing we are human beings. We’re aiming to be Christ-like and godly, but we’re never going to be perfect. This is where grace and repentance come in, and it’s also the reason we need a Savior. As with anything, if you’re extreme in one area, it can, in some ways, become an idol.
A good resource for more advice on the subject of purity is a website called Boundless, a ministry of Focus on the Family, founded by Dr. James Dobson. The Boundless website is a place for singles to ask questions online and get advice; married couples and counselors give godly counsel and minister to young adults. There is a blog and even a radio program called The Boundless Show, streaming online, that broadcasts interesting content for singles. The program and podcasts impart wisdom to those seeking to deepen their faith-walk regarding purity and dating.
The Boundless site and blog exist to: “[minister to] Christian young adults who want to grow up, own their faith, date with purpose and prepare for marriage and family… It’s easy to get lost along the way, so we’d like to travel the road with you, and like a trusted friend or mentor, help you navigate the years ahead with biblical wisdom and intention.”
The website is full of various forums where people can write in and ask for personal advice or read many different articles about relationships, adulthood and faith. For example, “Friends First or Straight to the Date?” by Suzanne Hadley Gosselin gives some interesting advice for a guy who asked if he should pursue a girl initially as a “friend” and then court her, or just ask her out on a date right away. One of the pieces of advice Gosselin gives is:
“The guys who asked me on dates during my single years and received a ‘yes’ were guys who had built a ‘comfort level’ with me by speaking with me on Sundays after church … Don’t misunderstand. I’m not advocating languishing in a ‘buddy relationship’ … You don’t want to get stuck in the girl’s ‘comfort zone.’” Read the full article here.
There are lots of great podcasts, too, including “The Hope of the World,” “Looking Back,” “Improve Your Serve,” “Choosing a Church” and more! Click here for topics and podcasts!
PI Girls, do you think you’d consider listening to a podcast at Boundless? Comment below!