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Is He A Jerk? The Checklist That Will Answer!

As girls, we need to be on guard for guys who are dirtbags. Unfortunately, I can speak from experience- but I’m now in an amazing relationship with a man that I love, and that treats me how I should be treated. It’s often hard to face the reality of your current relationship if you care about the guy even though he doesn’t treat you well. Often boys will “promise to change,” or say “that you’re incredibly special,” when their words and actions are anything but. Here is a checklist you need to ask yourself to see if you need to dump the jerk, and find a better guy!

1. Does he use harsh words to invalidate or discredit your feelings?

2. When you tell him your needs, does he make you false promises that he doesn’t back up?

3. Does he put on his best behavior when the two of you are out, and then treat you differently behind close doors?

4. Are mean threats used as a way to keep you staying with him?

5. Does he lie to you and then if you catch him, turn the situation around so you’re the bad guy?

6. Is he a master at finding ways to excuse his bad behavior, perhaps by using humour, turning it into a joke, or saying that you “just understood” it wrong?

7. Does he frequently tell you mean things about your appearance, what you’re wearing, and compares you to other girls?

If the boy you’re dating or your boyfriend is doing just one of these things, you need to re-evaluate your relationship because you could do so much better. You are a beautiful and special girl that God created, and you don’t need to be treated badly by guys who don’t deserve you! It’s MUCH, much better to be single than hanging around a guy who’s not worthy. For a list of traits that make him a good guy, look here!

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12 Comments

  1. Project Inspired

    Posted by xXjeXsiXx on November 5, 2011 at 01:14

    i said no to all. Chris is amazing and an angel (:

  2. Posted by on March 19, 2011 at 18:25

    I really hope that no one “hits him up” (the Matt kid)!

  3. Posted by on March 11, 2011 at 14:33

    I admire you putting this on here.
    I’m 15, and it made me sick to see that in the store the other day, a picture of her with practically no shirt on. I was with my best friend AND HER 13 YEAR OLD BROTHER.
    I ran over and turned it around so he wouldn’t have to look at that.
    I’m pretty sure guys just act the way they do because the see it all around them. This world is promoting sex.
    It just seems like Satan has definitely gotten a hold of advertisements and things like that all over the world.
    And it makes me sick.

  4. Posted by on March 10, 2011 at 21:15

    I’d rather be single than be with a jerk any day.

  5. Posted by on March 9, 2011 at 18:05

    I’m happy the guy I like doesn’t do any of those things!

  6. Posted by on March 9, 2011 at 18:04

    That guy looks evil!!

  7. Posted by on March 9, 2011 at 18:04

    hey girls I’m none of those things hit me up.

  8. Posted by on March 9, 2011 at 18:03

    Your posts really shed light on topics that we want to know, thanks Nicole! 🙂

  9. Posted by on March 9, 2011 at 18:01

    Guys suck.

  10. Posted by on March 9, 2011 at 18:01

    Too many boys get away with these things, It’s not okay. Thanks for the tips- it will help me keep my boyfriend on his toes!

  11. Posted by on March 9, 2011 at 18:00

    Hi nicole- the guy I like isn’t very nice to my parents and talks crap about them, should I ignore that or is that a warning sign too??