Every week, I go through the “Girl Talk” section of Project Inspired and look for those seeking advice and counsel. I want to help answer some questions you may have about living out your Christian life and walk of faith! We want PI to be a safe place where you can ask questions. Contact me @ChristiGiven.
This week a PI Girl asked if it’s okay to wear short shorts. She doesn’t believe in wearing bikinis, but will wear shorts as long as they are an appropriate length.
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“…Now I’m a firm believer in modesty, but I also feel that you can be modest wearing a tank top and shorts with a hem line about your knee. Like right now, my shorts are about 6 inches above my knee; mind you, my legs are long. Most of my shorts are that length, except maybe two that I bought to wear to school that are fingertip length. I am also perfectly fine with wearing tank tops. However, I usually try to keep my tank tops to my school’s three-finger policy. I don’t wear things like bikinis, though, because I feel like that just crosses the too-much-skin line for me. On the flip side, I am way too short for maxi dresses and maxi skirts, and things that go to my knee or below make me look shorter, fatter and stubbier because of my weight, height and awkward proportions. But I have no problem going out in short shorts and a tank top. Is that bad in your opinion?”
Personally, I don’t think that it’s bad to wear shorts as long as they’re not squeezing the legs and aren’t “booty shorts,” but everyone has a different opinion. I grew up at the beach, so we all wore two-piece swimsuits and tank tops, and I did cheerleading, so we wore skirts. I agree with the modesty-appropriate lengths, and as for maxi dresses, it’s the person’s decision if they want to wear them or not.
As women of God, it’s important we don’t cause guys to stumble with how we dress. The Lord instructs us to be more concerned about our inner beauty versus our outer, although we need to take care of ourselves. Nicole and I are definitely girly girls, so we love makeup, jewelry, fashion and accessories, but we all need to remember our spiritual health is more important than our outer beauty.
Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. (1 Peter 3:4)
During the summer, it’s hard to avoid wearing shorts because, to be honest, the weather is hotter. If you’re concerned with something you’re wearing and feel it could be inappropriate, just ask yourself if you would wear it to youth group or to church. You can always ask your parent, guardian and/or a good friend, if they are around.
So do not worry, saying, “What shall we eat?” or “What shall we drink?” or “What shall we wear?” (Matthew 6:31)
It’s really great that you care how you represent yourself and the Lord, and I definitely can relate to this question, but we must also try to dress for comfort, fashion, preference, expression and presentation. The way you dress does say a lot about you regarding how you present yourself, so you don’t want to wear something that makes it seem as though you don’t care for yourself. You want to be a good representation of yourself, the Lord, your family and your job, if you have one.
We are therefore Christ’s ambassadors, as though God were making his appeal through us. We implore you on Christ’s behalf: Be reconciled to God. (2 Corinthians 5:20)
We can wear clothing for several reasons, as I mentioned. We can also wear different types of outfit choices for comfort (like weather or for exercise), but also for preference because, well, we just like how it looks. We want to be cautious of how we represent our Lord and also don’t want to say one thing and do another (like wear a short dress with legs, arms, bust showing…too much). No one is perfect, so I understand we all will have our mishaps, but let us at least try, amen?
There is a reason we dress the way we do, and we don’t want to dress for attention or for validation. Why? Because Jesus has already validated us on the cross! You are beautiful, chosen, royal and a daughter of the King of Kings! You don’t need to compromise your inner beauty for outer beauty or for the applause of man that fades. Only God’s opinion really matters. Shine for Christ and you will sparkle for Him and will be His shining star, right PI Girls?
Why Modest Is Hottest
1. How you dress does affect others around you: When you wear a super revealing top or tight miniskirt, it can cause men to stumble and is a distraction to others. You don’t need to “worry” all the time about clothes (even though fashion is super fun). You can just use wisdom on what is appropriate (yet in style), and what is not so hot and could possibly be embarrassing later.
2. You can wear cute clothes yet be modest: There are so many comfortable, cute options like jumpers, long dresses and overalls that you can sport in the summer heat. Check modcloth.com, and look at people like Kari Jobe and Lauren Daigle, who dress up and are Christian worship leaders with a good sense of modesty, yet are still trendy. Some other great artists are Beckah Shae, V.Rose, Blanca (Group 1 Crew) and Britt Nicole.
3. If you choose to wear clothes for validation, it will be empty: We don’t need attention from people or approval from guys. Our validation comes from Jesus Christ, who died on the cross more than 2,000 years ago and who already loves us and thinks we are beautifully made (Psalm 139). You are a royal princess and daughter of the King! You are already approved and cherished!
4. When you are modest, you won’t worry about contradicting your beliefs: If you say you follow Christ and want to live a life of holiness walking in His Word, and then you compromise in how you dress, your words kind of go out the window. We want to be wise in how we represent the Lord, even in our expression of clothing. (We don’t need to be obsessed, consumed by it or worried about it, but use common sense.) Life is all about balance, and we all will make mistakes, but it’s so much better when you can be free in who you are and not even compare yourself to the world, amen?
5. Choose inner beauty over outer beauty: Outer beauty fades, but inner beauty is forever (Proverbs 31). God’s Word tells us to be more concerned with our spiritual life than even our physical health. Why? Because our bodies are made of dust and are temporal, and it is vanity if looks (external) are all we care about. Let’s encourage each other in loving affirmation and not always focus on “likes,” “comments,” “selfies” and so forth. Let’s change culture and really love one another.
Do you have any favorite summer pieces that you find are cute, yet modest? Comment below!