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“Is It Okay for Me to Be Mad at God?”

The question of whether it’s okay to be mad at God is both simple and complicated. I wish I could tell you it’s just simple.

The simple answer to this question is “Yes, it’s okay for you to be mad at God.”

In the book of Jonah, after Jonah is finally released from the fish, he goes to Nineveh. Once he gets there, Jonah proclaims to the people of Nineveh that the Lord is going to destroy them because of their wickedness.

Well, the people of Nineveh don’t want to be destroyed, so they turn to God and repent for their wicked deeds. The Bible says that when God saw this, He relented and didn’t destroy them.

This made Jonah very angry. Jonah wanted to see the people of Nineveh suffer for their wickedness (and possibly for the inconvenience he brought upon himself in getting to Nineveh). So he was angry with God.

God sharply criticized Jonah because Jonah was handling his anger badly. In his heart, Jonah allowed his anger to overwhelm his compassion for people and he was calling God’s judgment into question.

God created our emotions, and anger is an emotion. Jesus demonstrated anger when He drove the moneychangers out of the temple in Matthew 21 and John 2. In the end times, God will pour out His anger on the whole earth. So we know that anger is an emotion created by God.

Here’s the tough thing about being angry with God Himself. God’s anger is always righteous and He always acts righteously. Our anger isn’t always righteous and we rarely act righteously when we’re feeling intense emotions. Often, instead of taking control of our emotions, we let our emotions take control of us, like Jonah did.

This is like letting your hand make all of your decisions instead of your brain.

It’s okay to feel anger toward God, and we often do, especially when we experience tragedy or suffering in our lives. But there are good ways and bad ways to handle that anger.

Here are some things to remember when you’re angry with God.

  • Don’t let your anger drive you away from God. Don’t wait until your anger is gone to tell God how you feel. When you’re angry, take it to God and tell Him how you’re feeling and why.
  • Don’t allow your anger to cause you to blame God for bad things that happen. God is not the author of evil. James 1:17 says that every good and perfect thing comes from the Father of the heavenly lights; that’s God.
  • Don’t assume that God doesn’t care about your situation. God created us with emotions because He also has emotions. He’s just better at using and controlling them than we are.
  • Remember that God is holy. Holy means that God is completely different in His thoughts, actions, patience, judgment. God is different from us. He is set apart and we cannot fully understand His ways.
  • Don’t make anger your constant companion. Anger is not a good friend. It leads to bitterness and hatred. Remember Ephesians 4:26-27.

Girls, it’s okay to cry out to God and even to yell when we’re distressed, discouraged, frustrated or angry—just like it’s okay to shout for joy to God when we’re excited or happy. But in order to deal with our anger in a healthy way, there are things we need to remember about God when we’re angry with Him.

Do these tips help you understand how to be angry with God?

Be angry, and yet do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger, and do not give the devil an opportunity. (Ephesians 4:26-27)

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8 Comments

  1. Mandi_lee2014

    Posted by Mandi_lee2014 on July 12, 2015 at 11:29

    One thing I’ve personally learned is that when I get angry and recognize myself as “angry with God” I’m not actually angry AT God. I just know He’s the one I can turn to with my frustrations and pain. Take a very personal example of mine.
    2 1/2yrs ago I was brutally attacked and raped by two strangers. A very natural and healthy reaction to this is anger. But I never had a chance to see justice for what these two people did to me. For about 4 months (and still have days here and there) I may yell at God about the situation, all the things I hate, how I wish there was justice now, and I’ve asked before “God why didn’t you just stop it” but the truth is, I was never angry AT God. Just to Him.
    He wants us in a personal relationship with Him. He already knows we are angry, and even if you are actually angry at Him and blaming a situation on Him (which does happen) I truly believe it ends up hurting us way more if we don’t face it and have that conversation with God.
    Look too at our human relationships. If we are mad at someone and continue to pretend we are not and refuse to talk to that person about it (In a calm way) then we just continue to drive a wedge in the relationship. God is completely holy and we must always remember that, but He is also big enough to take our emotions and He wants us to come to Him.

  2. JayshJane13

    Posted by JayshJane13 on May 14, 2015 at 11:50

    When my mom died because of having suicide.. I blamed it all to Him, which is not good. I thought, blaming Him for what happened would ease the pain that I’m going through and He will bring my mom back. Then I tried suicidal attempts. I kept on blaming God even when He is trying His best to lift me up. I got depressed, desperate, and I wasn’t myself anymore. But thank God, He really has His own ways to get my attraction. Now I’m happy serving Him, though sometimes i may get lapses. But the thing is, i’m happy right now. Having God as my companion, is the best thing you have to decide to. God bless PIGirls. ^^

  3. RenC.S.97

    Posted by RenC.S.97 on August 14, 2014 at 16:37

    I really wish i could have read this 4 1/2 years ago when my sister died. This is so helpful for me to here.

  4. Jesus_chick_529

    Posted by Jesus_chick_529 on July 8, 2014 at 21:04

    soooo helpful!!! 🙂

  5. Project Inspired

    Posted by kaityloo123 on May 31, 2014 at 12:50

    This really helped and I am glad I have come across it because I am really mad at God, rigt now. Two weeks ago my papa passed away and mygrandma was devestated plus she has so much debt in hospital bills. And yesterday she found out she has cancer. I just dont undertand why God would take her husband and then give her cancer. I am scared he will take her too. But there has been so much more than that going on in my life right now and I feel like he is putting too much on me.

  6. Deeblves3

    Posted by Deeblves3 on May 22, 2014 at 10:28

    It does help! I see that I get angry when it doesn’t turn ouy my way or upset at my parents for making a poor choice and such. Sometimes I feel bad becoming too quick to anger and become discouraged. Though, it reminds me that I can come to God about it and ask Him to help me see it his way..

  7. May All Your Bacon Burn

    Posted by May All Your Bacon Burn on May 19, 2014 at 17:12

    My church’s preacher told me this about 4 years ago when my childhood friend died in a car crash. I still don’t understand why it was something I would be “permitted” to be angry with Him about. Yes, he was 12 years old at the time, and he was a really good kid and an even greater friend, as he had been since we were 4 and 7. I would have loved to see him grow up, and have a friend who knew what I was going through (he was my only friend whose parents were divorced) to be beside me, but there’s no way in telling that what you think is “just” would be better in the end. Even in the midst of my sadness, I accepted that it was God’s will.

    Could someone clarify why it would have been okay to be angry in this situation?

    • Mandi_lee2014

      Posted by Mandi_lee2014 on July 12, 2015 at 11:45

      It would have been okay to be angry because someone dying was never God’s plan and is because of sin and evil in this world. Recognizing that and being angry about that is never wrong. What becomes wrong, like the article says, is when you start blaming God for it and letting the anger drive a wedge between you and God, or sinning in any other way in that anger.
      Anger is also a natural part of the grief process, because we have to recognize the wrong done in the situation. And while that isn’t 100% for every single person, as no one follows a strict pattern, to say that anger would be a wrong reaction is in and of itself wrong.
      Even God gets angry over situations like death and disease and crime. All you have to do is look through the Bible to see that. Humans have the tendency to take it out of proportion and act in an unrighteous way, but basically what I come back to yet again, anger itself is not wrong. Anger is an emotion that is typically felt in the midst of tragedy, and it can be good to bring it to God. It can help you process things, and give you the eyes that God has of the evil and pain in this world.