The question of whether it’s okay to be mad at God is both simple and complicated. I wish I could tell you it’s just simple.
The simple answer to this question is “Yes, it’s okay for you to be mad at God.”
In the book of Jonah, after Jonah is finally released from the fish, he goes to Nineveh. Once he gets there, Jonah proclaims to the people of Nineveh that the Lord is going to destroy them because of their wickedness.
Well, the people of Nineveh don’t want to be destroyed, so they turn to God and repent for their wicked deeds. The Bible says that when God saw this, He relented and didn’t destroy them.
This made Jonah very angry. Jonah wanted to see the people of Nineveh suffer for their wickedness (and possibly for the inconvenience he brought upon himself in getting to Nineveh). So he was angry with God.
God sharply criticized Jonah because Jonah was handling his anger badly. In his heart, Jonah allowed his anger to overwhelm his compassion for people and he was calling God’s judgment into question.
God created our emotions, and anger is an emotion. Jesus demonstrated anger when He drove the moneychangers out of the temple in Matthew 21 and John 2. In the end times, God will pour out His anger on the whole earth. So we know that anger is an emotion created by God.
Here’s the tough thing about being angry with God Himself. God’s anger is always righteous and He always acts righteously. Our anger isn’t always righteous and we rarely act righteously when we’re feeling intense emotions. Often, instead of taking control of our emotions, we let our emotions take control of us, like Jonah did.
This is like letting your hand make all of your decisions instead of your brain.
It’s okay to feel anger toward God, and we often do, especially when we experience tragedy or suffering in our lives. But there are good ways and bad ways to handle that anger.
Here are some things to remember when you’re angry with God.
- Don’t let your anger drive you away from God. Don’t wait until your anger is gone to tell God how you feel. When you’re angry, take it to God and tell Him how you’re feeling and why.
- Don’t allow your anger to cause you to blame God for bad things that happen. God is not the author of evil. James 1:17 says that every good and perfect thing comes from the Father of the heavenly lights; that’s God.
- Don’t assume that God doesn’t care about your situation. God created us with emotions because He also has emotions. He’s just better at using and controlling them than we are.
- Remember that God is holy. Holy means that God is completely different in His thoughts, actions, patience, judgment. God is different from us. He is set apart and we cannot fully understand His ways.
- Don’t make anger your constant companion. Anger is not a good friend. It leads to bitterness and hatred. Remember Ephesians 4:26-27.
Girls, it’s okay to cry out to God and even to yell when we’re distressed, discouraged, frustrated or angry—just like it’s okay to shout for joy to God when we’re excited or happy. But in order to deal with our anger in a healthy way, there are things we need to remember about God when we’re angry with Him.
Do these tips help you understand how to be angry with God?
Be angry, and yet do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger, and do not give the devil an opportunity. (Ephesians 4:26-27)
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