“Is It Okay to Date a Non-Christian?”

    Is it okay to date a guy who isn’t a Christian?

    Let’s be clear. God loves EVERYONE! However, once you give your life to Christ, God has certain expectations of you as a believer. Since the Bible describes believers as ambassadors who have been sent to Earth for a purpose, EVERY choice you make should focus on promoting His Kingdom. That includes the decisions that you make regarding relationships!

    Let’s explore what the Bible says:

    “Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? What harmony is there between Christ and Belial? Or what does a believer have in common with an unbeliever? What agreement is there between the temple of God and idols? For we are the temple of the living God.” (2 Corinthians 6:14-16)

    God warns his people not to form strong bonds with nonbelievers for a reason. He wants His children to stay focused on Him and He knows that relationships with nonbelievers can become a distraction. Throughout the Old Testament, God became very angry when His people married outsiders because the outsiders always prayed to idols and foreign gods, which became a distraction.

    It can be the same when dating people who worship other gods or who don’t believe in God at all. If one of the people you’re closest to (your boyfriend) doesn’t share or value your beliefs, then the enemy can use that as a way to distract you! Soon you may find yourself reading the Bible less, not wanting to go to church or youth group, partying more…and ultimately your relationship with Christ would be impacted.

    You may be thinking, This won’t happen to me. I love God so much and no guy can jeopardize my relationship with Him! But keep this in mind: Matthew 26:41 says that The spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak.” Although you may not plan to allow yourself to be distracted, the enemy often uses relationships to get Christians off task.

    God never changes, and just like in the Old Testament, He still wants His people to avoid romantic relationships with people who don’t worship Him. Therefore, although it may be tough to hear, it’s probably best to avoid dating boys who aren’t Christians.

    Also, PLEASE don’t go into a relationship thinking that you can change the guy, because YOU CAN’T! Only The Holy Spirit can change a person. All you can do is witness to him and pray that he’ll one day receive God into his heart.

    And consider this: God IS love, so if a guy doesn’t know God (who is love), then is it REALLY possible for him to truly love you with the agape kind of love?

    What do you girls think? Have you ever dated a guy who wasn’t a Christian?

    Aysha Ives
    Aysha Ives loves God with her whole heart and has a desire to help hurting people. With a Masters Degree in Psychology, she combines her education and experience with her love for God to help people live whole and fulfilled lives. Aysha is an Author, Mental Health Provider, Youth Church Teacher, and the mother of one gifted little boy whom she absolutely adores. Aysha is honored to be able to share her love of God with Project Inspired readers. Aysha is also the author of God Cares About Your Stuff: How To Believe For Tomorrow When Things Look Utterly, Completely, And Totally Impossible Today, released February 2013- Available at Amazon.


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