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Modesty Is Not What You Wear…

Girls, a reader of Project Inpired (who happens to be a father and grandfather of girls) emailed me a wonderful letter about modesty. I just had to share some of his thoughts on the subject with you! XOXO, Nicole

Since the time of the Egyptian pharaohs and their women, we have seen the powerful appetite that women have to be noticed and observed. This often is because of something–a technique or a substance or striking items of adornment–that is used to stimulate the minds of those who look at them, males and females.

Very often, even “church” girls and women toss out the door the attitudes of inner beauty, a humble and meek character and discerning modesty, replacing them with the internal blind pride that seeks eyes which covet the flesh and the goddess that stands like a drive-by billboard.

Jesus explained that Satan has blinded the eyes of those that proclaim to be wise. God has opened the eyes to those that will come to Him as a simple child and allow HimΒ to clean out our minds of this world’s polluted practices and give us all a humble and contrite heart.

Modesty is not what you wear or how you wear it!

Modesty is the condition of the heart and mind!

Modesty is saying, “Jesus, please come in my closet and show me what to wear!”

Jesus,when I walk with you or for you, I want to be sure people are looking at my inner adornment, the light of humility and meekness glowing and radiating so you will be glorified.

Written by PI reader Tony

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  1. Project Inspired

    Posted by emywarman on July 16, 2012 at 11:17

    I never thought of it that way πŸ™‚ It’s wonderful to think of people really noticing my inner beauty and not just my body. I know I’ve been told to be modest, but I never really noticed it or anything. Jesus will defiantly help me pick out my outfits πŸ™‚

  2. Project Inspired

    Posted by KeilaAnn on July 14, 2012 at 19:17

    My mother always tells me that if you would be uncomfortable in front of God in it then you shouldn’t wear it.

    • Project Inspired

      Posted by on July 16, 2012 at 01:10

      That is a good way to put it

  3. Project Inspired

    Posted by on July 14, 2012 at 05:59

    I think modesty also depends on your height ,weight ,and body shape.

  4. Project Inspired

    Posted by on July 14, 2012 at 05:58

    Very true.
    I think modesty depends on you height ,weight ,and body shape.

  5. Paris

    Posted by Paris on July 10, 2012 at 21:17

    Nice to hear about modesty from a men’s perspective!

  6. ruthie27064Him

    Posted by ruthie27064Him on July 10, 2012 at 20:48

    Amen and AMEN!! Love this!

  7. ruthie27064Him

    Posted by ruthie27064Him on July 10, 2012 at 20:48

    Amen and amen!!

  8. Project Inspired

    Posted by JennaBel on July 10, 2012 at 20:14

    This is great. πŸ™‚ Modesty is more than looking it, it’s being it. Being a modest person is so much more attractive than someone who’s not. Some girls need to take heed and understand that. Thanks for sharing this!! πŸ™‚

  9. Jenna-worthit13

    Posted by Jenna-worthit13 on July 10, 2012 at 19:54

    I have never thought of it like that before…. I have this sudden urge to go through my closet and dresser drawers… I’ll be right back.

  10. Project Inspired

    Posted by TheMouseLover on July 10, 2012 at 19:16

    Wow! That was awesome πŸ™‚ Thanks Tony! It makes me very sad when i see a beautiful woman, but she is immodest in her dress, actions, and whats in her heart. I wish all girls everywhere would understand this!!

  11. Hisgirl

    Posted by Hisgirl on July 10, 2012 at 16:08

    Love it!

  12. olburrows

    Posted by olburrows on July 10, 2012 at 10:09

    Wow! This is incredible! Thanks, Tony! πŸ™‚

  13. twardymak

    Posted by twardymak on July 10, 2012 at 09:36

    this is seriously one of the most beautiful ways to describe modesty, i nearly cried!!!! Thank you Tony soooooo much and God bless you!!!

  14. Project Inspired

    Posted by Kelseystark95 on July 10, 2012 at 08:49

    YES YES YES! I love this, I feel like people put to much stress on what girls have to wear to be modest when infact a lot of “modest” clothing could be considered a stumbling point for a male if the girl has the wrong attitude. People worry too much about the exact width of a strap or length of a skirt when they could just take a moment and talk to God: ask him, “Should I wear this?, is it cute or is it saying something else?” Modest Attitude helps to make men think of your as beautiful rather than lust-worthy. I feel there is no real set rule to dressing modestly besides “Would God be ok with me wearing this?” Also a good way to double-check is to ask an older brother or a Dad, (like the grandfather who wrote in) because they wouldn’t want you wearing anything immodest and they can give you a “guys perspective” LOVE THIS AND GOD BLESS!

    • Project Inspired

      Posted by esther104 on July 11, 2012 at 13:39

      I mostly agree with you. You see, my family standard is that nothing is too tight, and that bottoms need to be around knee length. If something doesn’t fit our standard, I change. If Mom and I aren’t sure if it’s modest, then we ask Dad. It’s such a blessing to have parents who care about yourm modesty! My older brother also lets me know if something is immodest. I’m not saying that you have to be knee length, but it’s a good standard. πŸ™‚

  15. Dee

    Posted by Dee on July 10, 2012 at 08:44

    So true!

  16. Project Inspired

    Posted by jesusfreak568 on July 10, 2012 at 08:32

    Love this! It’s refreshing to hear, I’m guilty of dressing to impress others. I love fashion, but it should be used in the right way. A humble and modest heart is a beautiful one!

  17. Project Inspired

    Posted by ChristismyLife13 on July 10, 2012 at 07:54

    so true. you cant just look the part! You have to Live the part ! Really enjoyed this =)